My best friend is a missionary in the Philippines.(we're both LDS.) Well, I'm in love with him, have been for years. I wasn't supposed to, but I wrote him a letter explaining how I feel, and I mailed it to him. *cringes* I know! it was lame and done in a moment of weakness, but nothing I can do right now....
Well, since the Filipino mail system is retarded, I won't get an answer from him until at least January. And I haven't written to him since... AGH! I know I should...but idk if it's smart to write anything else until i hear from him. Should I write like nothing happened, or should i wait the next month or so until he responds to me?
*slaps forehead* I'm such an idiot....but any and all advice/comments are welcome.
2007-12-11 14:07:56 · 29 answers · asked by Princess Ninja 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I wish, but he's only eleven months in.....*sigh*
Hey! eleven moths? That's half! YAY! thanks for reminding me! ^_^
2007-12-11 14:20:30 · update #1
You are not an idiot. From a guys perspective I agree that he should be delighted. I would go ahead and write to him. Send him a Christmas card or whatever. I think letting your feelings be known is better than not telling him and him thinking that you don't care for him that way. He is away so he is probably thinking the same things you are. She is so cute and popular she probably has found someone else by now and won't even remember who I am (guys think like that) I know that you have been friends with him for a long time so I think it must be mutual but guys are weird about expressing that kind of thing some time. They sometimes get tunnel vision where they are concentrating on their careers and things and don't see what is going on around them. Then like a roundhouse kick to the head it suddenly dawns on them. Besides you are so loveable how could he not fall in love with you?
2007-12-11 14:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by going postal 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
My first question is, how often do you write one another? if the answer is more frequently than once a month or once every other month, continue writing according to your habit -- he will get your letter and respond accordingly -- and regardless of his reaction, you will show continuing support and friendship with subsequent letters.
[s] I remember when I had male friends on missions... just before one special one came home, I started getting 'letters' from the 'mission home' stating that it had come to their attention that I knew a missionary about to RWH from that mission -- and would I kindly answer a few questions... some of the questions I remember...
Do you live at home? Does your father have a shotgun? Do you have a dog? Does it bite?
it was a hoot! -- the questionaire was something like 3 or 4 pages...
Best wishes, Princess
Merry Christmas...
[and if you're best friends with him, how's your relationship with his mom? won't he be calling home here in 12 or 13 days? just a thought...]
2007-12-11 18:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by strplng warrior mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-23 03:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could send him a christmas card...at the very least...kind of let him know you would liek a response...at the very least. yea, yea, I am ex-mormon...anyways...he may be trying to avoid the whole situation and be concentrating on his mission right now, but then again, who knows when he gets off his mission, at the very least you deserve a "do you like me or not." or "are you interested in me or not" kind of communication so you can either wait for him or go on with your life and find someone else. You could ask him if he needs anything, and see if you can get him to communicate to you, like homemade cookies or items that he can't afford, such like that, if you get no response, I would just let him concentrate on his mission trip and then worry about getting a response to your letter after his mission is over.
2007-12-12 04:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the 100th time, you are NOT stupid, you are just in love and when people is in love make some crazy things which are good sometimes. There are SOME PEOPLE that desire to shut up and swallow all their feelings and never get them out of their chest and that sucks and hurt, but maybe sometimes necessary in a situation like this. But you have the advantage that he has been your friend since like forever and he is your best friend and all that! If I was you, I would just pray, because God will make happen whatever has to happen.
Don't feel hopeless or too sad about it, just pray a lot and God will guide you and will light him. Of course he cannot accept being in a relationship now but he would have you in his mind for when he comes back and maybe Love Yahoo!!! wannabe a princess will be attending her best online friend's wedding!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL. Well, the best I can advise to you is to keep your feet down to earth and be prepared for whatever can happen. Maybe he was meant for you, maybe no. If not, there is someone else waiting to have your ♥. But hey! keep thinking positively!
I know this girl that sent a missionary a birthday card just saying happy birthday and a note with good wishes from her family to him and she is still feel guilty and bad about it, even if she never gave a love clue, she is not in your situation but she can totally relate to it because she is a nerd and always worries.
2007-12-11 15:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes, write to him again. Tell him how you feel again, ie, apologise for baring your soul to him at an inappropriate time, when he should be focusing on his mission. Reaffirm that your friendship is sincere, and you hope he has success while he is serving the Lord. And he can make his own decision about you when he returns, but that you won't be changing your mind about him until he gets home. If he likes you, too, (which he probably does if you are best friends) then he will be happy to know that he doesn't have to worry about you making a decision without his involvement.
2007-12-11 14:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by MumOf5 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boy, I was just going to ask you today if you had heard back from him. lol Great minds think alike, I guess. I have already given my 2 cents in the matter, so yeah. :)
Fine. I will say it again. lol
It was not the brightest of ideas. I mean, they are are supposed to be undistracted by things such as girls. lol This is something you should have talked to him about BEFORE he left. Or waited until he cam back. Now you have screwed everything up. jk. lol There, I'm done now.
2007-12-12 06:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends... how much time does he have left? A year? A few months? If its longer than a year, it may be stressful for him because he can't do anything about the relationship until he gets home. It may distract him from his work since he'll be worrying about you!
Maybe write him a letter apologizing for making him worry, but still write and be friends until he comes home. When he comes home, then you can explore your relationship. :) Whatever you decide, good luck. I'm sure he's thrilled.
2007-12-11 14:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by Citrine Dream 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Continue writing him. You say he's your best friend, so he probably knows you well enough to have already gotten a sense of how you feel about him. To stop writing now just makes it awkward for the both of you, and he may be secretly thrilled at what you have told him.
I've found that a lot of guys are too bashful to express their feelings, and are charmed right out of their socks when a woman makes the first move. You have absolutely nothing to lose, so go for it!
Best of luck.
***See? Even Corrosion above me feels that your friend is probably delighted with the news. :)
2007-12-11 14:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
Gumby's response seems to be the best to follow. Write the missionary and explain that you wrote the first letter without thinking things through regarding romance and that you'd enjoy the continuing correspondence as friends in the interim.
Missionaries must devote their time and energies to the teaching of the Gospel and must not be distracted from that goal. Upon his return home from his mission then he's ripe for plucking.
2007-12-11 14:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by Guitarpicker 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋