this guy i am seein, cheated on me and never told me. After he cheated, he never told me. He tattoed my name on his back and said he will tattoo forever and always underneath it. He then gave me a lot of money for school. He said he will never cheat again. He even put me in his will before he went over seas to Iraq. But here's the catch, he got the woman pregnant which is his ex or should I say his kid's mother. He said he only wants me and it was a mistake. Should I trust him not to cheat after all the effort he has showed me that he is sorry? I forgave him.
2007-12-11 13:33:55 · 5 answers · asked by workinggurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's really difficult...
I would have a hard time getting past that... you will always have the constant reminder of the cheating because a child was the result...
2007-12-11 13:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon if you need to ask then you must know the answer to your question! However if you need to hear it ( see it ) then here it is No you should not trust him once a cheater always a cheater. He now has an obligation to his child so that means when he gets back he will most likely want to see the child and that also means seeing his ex. Do you trust that situation to never happen again? Good Luck
2007-12-11 13:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sylvia C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, the saying is usually, "Once a cheat, always a cheat." However, if you have forgiven him, then that's ok. BUT, if he cheats again, then most likely, he will continue to do it. I have been married to the same man 2 times and he has cheated several times on me. I continue to stay in the relationship for several reasons. But if you can get out if he does cheat again, then go ahead and do it and don't wait around like me.
2007-12-11 13:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a really tough situation to begin with. the question comes in is why did he cheat on you if he knew it was wrong and that he cared about you. i think that guys not confessing about their mistakes like cheating to prevent from hurting us girls is complete bull. they wouldnt have done it in the first place if they had the brains to think about the consequences.
what you really have to ask yourself is if YOU can get over this. the fact that the other girl is pregnant is hard because he'll have the responsibility to provide for it later on. its really hard to apologize about this type of thing because he could have backed out anytime. you have to think about how YOU really feel about your situation and if you can really forgive him and overcome it. don't think about anyone's feelings but yourself because in the end, if you can't trust someone you shouldn't be in this type of relationship with them. its hard to tell if he could or could not do it again. i guess, think of what you would tell a close friend..a girl friend that you really cared about if she was in a situation exactly like yours. i wish you the best of luck and i hope everything turns out ok!
2007-12-11 13:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by cathyehhh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like his intentions are good, but the problem is his baby's mom. What part is she going to play in your relationship?
2007-12-11 13:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋