My daughter is 2 1/2 and is still not potty trained!?

Question

Hi my daughter Serenity does not want to use her potty!She shows so interest in it. But she does tell me when she went to the washroom and she comes in the washroom with me when I go and she says "mommy pee pee" and passes me the toilet paper.
She is really smart and has always caught on with things so quickly. And now when she goes #2 she puts her hands in her diaper and says "wash hands?" ahhhh...I need to get her potty trained...please help with some good ideas!

Thank you everyone for all your responses. But now I am a little confused on should I give her the sticker or treat when goes potty or not. I can agree with giving her the treat and I also get the other ppls point by she will always expect a treat for doing something good??

Answer 1

I wanted to use a no pressure way that avoided me having to put my daughter somewhere she did not want to be. My daughter just loves The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com I started by just setting it at the toilet. This stool makes every toilet kid-sized. My kids immediately climbed up on this stool and discovered that they could safely and securely use the toilet. This got them very interested in using the toilet and they were potty trained very quickly.

My kids like to use what they know mommy and daddy use. And it really is wonderful having your kids independently use the toilet on their own. The handles and sides make all the difference! My son and daughter felt very secure and the sides makes them feel comfortable and closed in when they use the toilet.

I like that I don't have to double the steps of potty training by training them first in a potty and then training them to stop using a potty. And not dumping and cleaning a potty each time is great. The best thing is that kids use it for years. I hope this helps you

Answer 2

All kids are different!!! My son started to pee in the potty before he could walk(he stared that @ 9Mos.), but #2 was a different story. He was all most 2 before he was completely trained. However he still wets at night and is almost 4. Funny thing is that the day after his third B-Day he stopped all together for close to a month, then a sudden as he stopped he started again. What helped me with getting him to do #2 in the potty was I have friends who @ the time had a 4 year old and their little boy would have my son go with him to the bathroom and tell him(my son) " this is how big boy use the potty" In just 1 week Kane has going too. Maybe you could try the same with a friends daughter. I think kids take to that kind of thing easier when they have the support of a Friend to show them. And I know my son was proud that he didn't need Mommy to show him his "Best Bud showed him" and to this day he still say that. He will be 4 in February. Good Luck!!!!!!

Answer 3

Another parent ask me how I potty trained my two sons. One is 3 and the other one is now 7. They're boys and are harder to train supposedly. What I did was, I didn't use pull ups. They're like diapers so it didn't encourage going to the toilet. I just put underwear on them all day long. Sure there were alot of accidents during the first week and maybe the 2nd but they caught on quick. They did not like to be soaking wet. The point is I never had a problem at all training them. I didn't have to use rewards or bribes...didn't buy little potties or anything. It was effortless. Well try all the suggestions here and see if any is successful. The key here is consistency with the training. For instance, don't just put diaper all week then underwears/pull ups on weekends. Put on the underwear every single day (except at night). It will work. Believe me!!

Answer 4

I did the pressure free way with both my kids. I, of course, introduced the potty to them, had them sit on it. My son potty trained himself at 3 and my daughter at 3 -1/2. They both went on their own when they were good and ready! My son in the backyard (!!), my daughter in Sunday School. Neither one of them wet the bed thereafter. I do not believe other methods do anything except potty train the parents! According to the article I am attaching, it says "Recent studies show that today somewhere between 40 to 60 percent of children complete potty training around their third birthday with most of the rest becoming diaper-free before age 4." So, I hope you get some needed advice from them.

Answer 5

My daughter is 22 months old and is going on the potty more often than not. I did look for some of the readiness signs, but I did not wait for her to ask me. About two months ago I bought a potty chair and some big girl underpants. I started at home on weekends and at night putting her on the potty about once every 1 1/2 to 2 hours. I did not at any time ask her. I told her we were going to sit on the potty and I sat her down. At first she just sat and did nothing, but eventually she did start to go. I do reward her with stickers or a small treat when she goes. Each child is different and you have to do what is best for you. For my child I did not feel that is was up to her to choose when to go. Like most things in parenting it is up to us to show them the way. I felt is was my responsibilty to help guide her there. What did it for my daughter was going from diapers to underpants. I did not at any time use pull ups. If she has a diaper on she goes in it, so the pull ups were pointless to me. She hates the feeling of being wet and that motivates her to tell me she has to go. Just try her in underwear at home. When I started this I would constantly say "tell mommy if you have to go potty, we need to keep your big girl pants dry." I bought her undies with her favorite characters and we talk about keeping her friends dry. If you don't mind cleaning up a few accidents, this may help your little angle. Good Luck.

Answer 6

My daughter is almost 3 and refuses to potty train and she is smart too. I take pride in being a good mother and this is one thing I cannot conquer. She is beyond stubborn. When it comes to potty training: when I ask her if she is a big girl or a baby, she'll say the latter and if I ask her where big girls go potty - she'll smirk and say "in a diaper" knowing I want her to go in the potty. I'm beyond frustrated at this point. I'm taking off work a few days and plan to potty train the whole time without interruptions all over again. Ugh! Good luck!

Answer 7

bribery is not the way to go. bribing kids only makes them EXPECT rewards for doing normal behaviors.

You need to take her shopping for some panties and let her pick out the ones that she likes, or, go shopping by yourself and wrap them up like a present for her to be excited about. You need to put her in panties all day long (yes, there might be some accidents, but she'll figure it out pretty quickly that she doesn't like the feeling of being wet...or poopy...). Keep diapers or pull ups for overnight until she is completely ready to go without anything but panties.

I know a nine year old (without any medical ailments) who still wore diapers to bed and i couldn't believe it the first time i heard it. Kids need to have confidence in themselves and being able to control your potty needs is a HUGE thing for kids. Whenever your daughter goes to the potty, reinforce to her that she did a great job (without giving her treats) and boost up her esteem on it. Good luck

p.s. once she is trained, get rid of ALL the diapers in your house so she can't "suddenly" decide not to be trained and regress to baby-ness again

Answer 8

hmm this is hard but some advice is that you need to make her use the potty instead of asking her.

some things you could do give her her favorite toy at the potty and not to make her seem like a dog but rewarding your kids with treats when they do something is always good.

last you should buy her some pretty little panties and she will probably start to like the fact of potty training

Answer 9

I bribed my daughter with tootsie rolls. I took her little potty chair and sat in front of the TV and I filled her juice cup with water. She sat on that chair drinking water and watching the movie till she went. It was the feeling of the wet being away from her and the sound of it falling and hitting the potty that made it all click in her head. Soon she had a down within days.

Answer 10

Just to reinforce the fact that each is different and progresses at his/her's own pace......my 1st daughter was fully potty trained by the time she was 16 months old....she was mommy's girl and as such followed me EVERYWHERE I went..LOL
My 2nd daughter was not potty trained until she was nearly 3 yrs old!!! Was a very stubborn child....also very engrossed in her own activities to fore-go them to do such a thing as go use potty!
My son.. well he is a story all by himself!!! STUBBORN,STUBBORN, STUBBORN! He SCREAMED the roof down every time I sat him on his potty! He was 22 1/2 months old when he was fully potty trained...thanks to our babysitter...she was truly wonderful with him...had him trained in 3 days!!
My gr.granddaughter is nearly 3 yrs.old and had been potty trained for over a year now..She has a potty seat that sits on regular commode and her mommy gives her 2 books to 'read' while she potty's..this has worked great for her.
My gr. grandson is a lot like my 2nd daug. and my son...so he never 'needs' to use potty...so, I have used this, "I know you may not 'need' to .....right now, but I want you to "try". While he tries, I usually sit on side of tub and read to him or he 'reads' to me. This is working. And, BTW, he is 5 yrs.old and in kindergarten. His parents have been trying for 3 1/2 yrs. to get him fully potty trained.
Just remember each one has their own time-line and their own way of doing/learning. So,just enjoy her and work with her schedule for this endeavor as well as possible.
Good luck
sorry this is such a long response