Too young to date??

Question

No I'm not the youngun but I can't help but notice 12/13/14 year olds on here asking for relationship advice and lamenting that they're not getting any. Is this strange to anyone because I find it kinda bizarre. When I was that age (and it wasn't that long ago...I'm in uni) not many people were thinking about relationships and all that. What's your opinion on this dating age? When do you think teenagers should start thinking about and doing these sorts of things? Personally I think 15/16 is when we start to develop emotionally and mature and maybe relationships (not to mention sexual activity) should wait until that age. But that's just me. Your opinion... oh and nothing judgemental! This is purely out of interest.

Yeah...when I was in my last year of highschool I used to take the bus and there were two 13 year old girls taking it from the same bus stop so I would hear all about their weekends and gossip and discussed where they went with what guys and what happened. I mean they never talked about having sex with them or whatever but just the zealousness of their 'romantic pursuits' creeped me out. and they way they dressed on mufti days (i went to a school with a uniform) the big hoop earings and mini-skirts would come out...scary stuff.

Answer 1

Its normal duh time changes like emo

Answer 2

A lot of people start "dating" around 14, that seemed to be common when I was 14. Half of them were probably having sex around then too...

Now that I'm older, I think of myself when I was 14, or even 16 for that matter... I didn't know **** about **** back then, and all I cared about was that I was getting some... well that hasn't changed over 10 years later, but if I met myself then, I would have smacked myself into 2008.

My advice would be wait until after college to start thinking about relationships all together. That way you don't miss out on all the fun in college and don't cause you to do something you don't want to do.

Answer 3

I am 13 and I never dated anyone. I mean, I liked some boys, but never started a relationship. I guess girls want to seem more grown up. They don't know that they are just fooling themselves.

When a boy and a girl their age break up, I often see the girl crying and I don't know whether to laugh hysterically or comfort her.

I also kind of notice that the ones that date around that age are the least smart. But that's just the people I know

I think 16+ is the best. The older the better.

Answer 4

you really can't put an age on this sort of thing. it depends solely on the maturity and understanding of the individual. Nowadays, i really believe a lot of kids are being pressured into relationships. They have no idea the purpose behind dating. Once they grasp the fact that dating is a means of selecting a life partner, however long that may take, and not just arm candy to prance around the mall with, then they're ready to date.

Answer 5

I am only 15 and I find it so disturbing that kids that young are wanting to date.

I was talking to a friend of mine who still goes to my old school, and she told me that nearly everyone in our grade at her school is "doing it". What is more disturbing is that I used to know a lot of those people quiet well. Boy do things change!

I was on my school bus one afternoon, and a 13 year old boy was reading a sexually explicit text message out of his phone that he got from his girlfriend. 3 days later they were in a fight and ignoring each other. I think you really shouldn't date unless you are mature enough to realise when something is not right, and you have the maturity to sort it out and fix it properly.

Interesting question, its interesting to see the different answers!

Answer 6

I agree. I'm pretty young myself and it freaks me out a little bit when i read about all these kids sleeping around and dating when they are in their early early teens. I think they are too young. Once they are in high school ok go on dates but they get too serious too quickly now a days.

When i was their age 10/11/12 i wasn't even thinking about that. yeah i had crushes but that's about it. A few people in my class were "dating" which meant holding hands at recess and sometimes going on group date to the movies but thats about it.

Answer 7

In my experience back in the early 60's 12 - 13 the experiments were getting to all the bases

Answer 8

I won't let my children date before 16. Call me old fashioned or worse, I don't care. There are too many things that they aren't ready for, even at 16 but, you have to start somewhere.

As to why, just look at TV and the movies and magazines and the internet, etc. Sex is thrown at you everywhere. You would have to hide your kids in a cave to keep them from it these days. I don't like it but, until God decides to turn us all into pillars of salt again, it's just going to get worse. Teach your children well and pray for the best.

Answer 9

I'm with you.

Teens should start thinking about relationships at around 16. They'll have part time jobs so they can pay for things themselves. They'll even have licenses, mom and dad don't have to play taxi driver.

I think they should still go on group dates until after they are out of high school.

Answer 10

15 / 16

Answer 11

IMHO: When you start group dating at 16, then single dating a couple of years later, you can enjoy all the social stuff of being a kid without worrying about adult issues until you can handle them (pregnancy, STDs, relationship drama, etc.) I blame the media - movies, TV, music - for pressuring our kids to grow up too fast.