Especially if you met through sharing the same beliefs, and had been married for several years?
2007-12-11 12:56:39 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
THIS QUESTION IS NOT ABOUT ME. MY HUSBAND AND I ARE FINE, SPIRITUALLY SPEAKING.
2007-12-11 13:06:13 · update #1
i would feel bloated
2007-12-11 12:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by kris 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
i think i'm experiencing what you are going through. the main issue is: how is this going to affect you, either negatively or positively?
-you can either choose to see this as a good thing, since your partner is now persuing another religious path & is attempting to find spirtuality by any means
-or you can let this become a block in between the two of you
it's harder than it seems. it makes me feel like i want to scream at him for being so selfish, after all of these years practicing a certain religion together. but then, at the same time, it is also pretty selfish of me to even think that his decisions revolve around us & our relationship. think though, he's probably going through a hard enough time as it is, and he could probably use your support.
whatever happens, just pray about everything. and make sure your relationship can withstand the tests life throws at you!
2007-12-11 13:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by catchmeifucan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question. I actually HAVE been married for some time to someone who shares similar beliefs to me. How I would feel if she suddenly changed would depend on the reason she changed and what new spiritual path she chose. So long as it wasn't anything crazy based on a faulty motivation, I would try to accept her and support her decision. "One God, many paths," is what I always say. What is right for one person may not be right for everyone. But that does not make every path alright for a person. Some people are duped by greedy and selfish people so that they will spend all their money or throw their lives away, and I would be wary of that. Otherwise, it's her soul. She likely knows what is right for it better than I do. So long as her new belief promoted goodwill, peace, and tolerance I would try to support her.
Easy for me to say, though. It hasn't happened and likely never will!
2007-12-11 13:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My wife is actually reading this question with me, so I'll give you her answer, cause it's better than mine:
She said, first of all it makes a big difference what kind of spiritual path you're talking about. It's nice to say all religions are equal and all that, but really they're not. Are we talking something innocuous like going from Christianity to Buddhism (in general) or are we talking about getting involved in a Jonestown or David Koresh situation? That's probably not what you're talking about, but it definitely matters. But as long as it's a matter of just exploring other beliefs, then she's fine with it.
Peace to you.
2007-12-11 13:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Orpheus Rising 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since my religion is also a very intense lifestyle, I'd have some major problems with him wanting to do that as it would cause incompatibility in our home, physical, and spiritual life.
How would I feel about that? Sad, and wanting to find out what happened that has caused him to want to change. I wouldn't feel like I had the right to make him NOT change, because I believe that everyone's soul will eventually find where it belongs. But I wouldn't live with the changes if he insisted on them because it would disrupt my own spiritual lifestyle. So we would probably split up if it couldn't be resolved.
2007-12-11 13:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend (who will soon be my fiancee) does not share my religious beliefs. We've been together for years. We're already on different spiritual paths. If she changes her mind again after we marry, and pursues yet another belief, that's her business. We respect each other's ability to make independent decisions, and honor each other's personal choices. I don't think it would be a major problem. After all, it's not a problem now, so why should it be a huge issue later on?
2007-12-11 13:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by solarius 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would definatly depend on what spiritual path he was persuing and if he expected me to follow the same path or teach our children his path. Normally I wouldn't have a problem with my husband following a different path. I'm a Pagan so most of america follow a different path tahn mine. If I thought that the path he was choosing was a dangerous one I would have to sit him down and have a very open and honest talk with him about my concerns.
2007-12-11 13:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by ghostwolf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be concerned greatly. Does spouse intend to include you in this journey? Has this spouse included you in his/her questions/concerns that has led to this pursuit? Does spouse want to enlighten you, too? Or is his/her concern for the mortal soul extend only to him/herself?
The answers to those questions should tell you whether this is a journey of the soul, or a journey of the body and its temptations. If spouse includes you in it, you're in good shape. If spouse is doing this all for him/herself, it's all about them. Take the info you get and take action if necessary. DO NOT stay in a relationship if you're being discarded. If you're being considered and kept in your spouse's heart, hang in there and enjoy the new perspectives your spouse is offering! I'm hoping Spouse is being generous....
2007-12-11 13:08:21 · answer #8 · answered by rb29440 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being that I am Muslim and so is my husband I would have to divorce him. Your situation might be different though, have you given what he is studying a once over to at least understand where he is coming from?
That is what lead me to Islam, my husband being Muslim I decided to study Islam to better understand him. Do not get angry with your husband if he feels that the religion he has chosen is his calling, if he still loves you the same then how could you not love him for who he is.
2007-12-11 13:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by A A SA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would be a problem. As their spouse, you are bound to support them, but your religious colleagues are not going to back you on that. Do you join them in their journey? Do you support them? Do you cave to the back-talk from your faith? I think this question answers itself - if this is a serious problem for you, then the relationship is already in trouble.
2007-12-11 13:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel supportive of my husband in his new chosen path and proud that he is exploring other failths in this world. If you are both respectful of the others beliefs then having different faiths should not get in the way of a strong stable marriage.
2007-12-11 13:00:09 · answer #11 · answered by Me 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋