I GOT A BOY ISSUE?!?!?! help?

Question

remember the steven thing? If you don’t know then go to my profile & look through my questions. i gave him a sorry card, and i wrote alot but i don't exactly know what i wrote b/c he has it. i told him to write back & i even gave him my e-mail & my phone number like on Monday but he didn't write back yet. i even told him not to show anyone except for Christ b/c he knows but like over 20 people read it. he said that i was annoying, a stalker, & that i have a staring problem! but i don't even stare at him in the hallways, he's the one who does! but i did give one of my friends some candy to tell me some stuff about him that's wierd so i would get over him but someone told him something different! ugh. i don't know who. he's obsessed with one of my friends & she tries to hook him up with me [which is wrong]. i don't like him THAT much.

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it just hurts when he said those hurtful things about me. i'm starting to not like him anymore. but i just wanna go up to him & criticize him from head to toe! i started crying & laughing at the same time at the bus! i'm like so hurt now. how do i tell him that i don't like him? i also want to get the letter back & rip it into shreds. actually, plz help me with the whole situation.

Answer 1

First, you need to decide what you really want. If you want him for your BF, then you need to find out what kind of GF he wants, and try and figure out if you could ever be that person.
Second, you need to establish some emotional control over your actions, and realize that your needs are not the only thing in any relationship. Its easy for abused people to over-react, and I realize that and have done it many times. I would suggest you ask him politely if you can talk to him about these issues, and promise you will remain calm and friendly. Then, try and get to know him a little bit, and hopefully he can find out what a wonderful person you are as well.

Answer 2

OK, you are probably gonna say I am a silly old cow, but maybe listen to the sound of someone who has been there and done that.

Short answer... you stuffed it up and you ain't gonna fix it!

Let me be honest, you kinda went about it the wrong way, from what you have said you were really pushy at him, did you ever imagine how it felt for him to one day to have you completely in his face full throttle, and to have everyone know it.

Imagine yourself, with some boy outside the bathroom screaming your name, you would be FREAKED!!! Having you standing there facing a boy and his friend reading out a letter and having to give an answer on the spot. The boy would have been embarrassed as hell.

His answer, believe it or not was a good one he could have been very mean to you but he chose to be honest and say that he doesn't even know you.

Now the point where you reach the point of no return you punch him - for saying something that was quite sweet!!

This time, just let time blow this away - you have made mistakes but learn from them. Next time take things a little slower and talk to the boy first - if he says he doesn't even know you maybe suggest being his friend and arranging an outing as part of a group.

Men are kind of scaredy cats sometimes and you just gotta handle them with a little TLC to get what you want.

Hope this helps!