If they will ask me what school I go to. I wanna know because I'm not going to school and I don't want to say that in front of my Dad because he still thinks I'm going and I don't want to tell him. So I wouldn't want them to ask me in front of him. Please help!
2007-12-11 11:20:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He has to be there because I am still underage so I can't tell him it's not necessary to go.
2007-12-11 11:21:47 · update #1
Ok everyone is getting the wrong message, it's my fault I didn't go into detail, it's not like Im going to get married and then I'm going to live with my boyfriend, I've been living with him for 2 years so I already know what he's like and we really want to get married not just because of love but also because we have already been stopped by many police and we run the risk that he could go to jail because he is older than 18. So people, please stop telling me Im so young... because I've heard it sooooo many times already and I know what I'm doing and I want to do. It's not necessary to go to college to have money, I am planning to get my GED I just don't want to go to high school because I don't want to go to colllege, I just want to put up my own business and live life by the day....So maybe that'll help answer my question, which was not "Do you think I'm too young to marry?" My question was"Are they going to ask what school I go to?" So please people, stick with the subject.
2007-12-11 11:52:27 · update #2
No, they don't ask you what school you go to, and if they do, you can refuse to answer it. Let's face it, most women getting married have finished with school.
2007-12-11 13:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you think you are in love, I get that. But if I had married the guy I thought I was in love with at 17 my life would be in shambles. Please don't do this... give yourself some time. Okay, you don't want the cops to question you, but really, will marriage be the answer to lifelong happiness?
You are young and you have your life ahead of you. Finish school, take your relationship one step at a time, and learn about yourself.
If this guy is really the one then you have PLENTY of time for that. Besides, you are 17... in a year or less you will be legal and the cops will have nothing to say.
Please don't assume that he is the one because chances are you will date many more people before you find the one that is right for you.
Marriage shouldn't be based on other circumstances or as an easy way out to make your relationship easier.
2007-12-11 23:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Renn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom married my dad twenty-eight years ago when she was seventeen years old, and the only reason that they're still married is that they both were far more mature than you appear to be. She finished school, so should you. It's hard enough to find a job without a degree, you want to try to find one without a diploma? Unless you want your catch phrase to be, "How may I take your order?" I suggest you finish your education, settle on a career, and get financially stable before getting married. What's the rush? Three or so years won't kill you or your love, and if it does, you didn't have much to begin with. My parents don't regret marrying, but they do regret being so young when they did. They wished they had waited until after college, because they never went. You don't want to look back with any regrets about something that should be the best time of your life. I may sound harsh, but kindness often does.
2007-12-11 19:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by LunaRossa 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Stop everything! You are 17 and getting married? Please understand that is going to be one of the biggest mistakes of your life. How do I know this? Because I know others who have done it. Big mistake!
And then to add insult to injury you are not going to finish high school or even go on to college? Do you realize how that will affect your future? You won't be able to get a job past flipping greesy burgers at Mickey D's.
I hope you sit down and really think about what you are doing. I know, you are madly in love with some guy. Is he 17 too, or worse, much older?
Those are two major mistakes. What's next, getting pregnant right away?
2007-12-11 19:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting married at 17? You have your whole life ahead of you! Go to school! 10 years from now you'll be struggling to make ends meet if you dont! Don't you think your father will be disappointed? My mother was 17 when she got married...mind you it was the 70s but she still says that she would have liked to go to school and live her life instead of marrying so young...please dont do it!
2007-12-11 19:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by lil angel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok why is it that when your 18 and someone is getting married. People are all happy for you, but when your 17? And getting married people think your making a mistake by marrying someone you love? Just try to put off the wedding until your 18 really because telling your dad thats gotta be hard.
2007-12-11 19:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by ~FairyDust~ 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's true - what everyone else is saying: you are too young to get married.
Your dad will find out eventually that you've dropped out of school, but I guess you just want to make sure he signs on the dotted line, to let you get married, before he does find out.
If you wait a little while, you'll turn 18 & you won't need his signature (even though you'll still be too young really) and you'll still need to go to school.
2007-12-11 19:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Jules 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
One key detail you left out was what state you live in. A few states will require that you both be 18. Some states require a period of counseling, blood tests, and judicial court approval. *These are basic researching skills taught in high school and could have saved you the flack you received here.
**You can get married anytime but dropping out of school because you strive for mediocrity will affect your life forever.
2007-12-11 21:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by pandora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're going to tell you you can't marry him. If it's statutory rape in your state when you're not married, it would be if you were.
By the way, your situation is very, very disturbing. I'm sure at your age the last thing you want to do is listen to people who are older or wiser, but ten years from now when your life is a mess you're going to wish you had.
2007-12-11 21:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not even EIGHTEEN! You're not even out of school! You barely know anything about life, about yourself! You're still a child! You can't even drink yet! You don't have a career- or a diploma for that matter! This is very sad...
My question is: WHY?! What in the world is the rush?! Are you anticipating the end of the world nearing or WHAT?
2007-12-11 21:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by lonelioness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋