My fiance and I are going to walk down the aisle together at our wedding, and since it's not traditional, I wanted to put something in the program explaining the reason behind it so no one is offended or anything. It's probably not necessary but I've seen other couples explain in their program why they've done things a certain way. Basically, we are walking down the aisle together because we've both been on our own for so long that no one needs to "give" me away (he's 32, been out of the house since 18 and I'm 29, out of the house since 18). Also, I think it's sexist and kind of retrograde to have the bride doing the "big moment" thing when everyone is staring at her. These are just my personal beliefs; I totally respect people who want to do things the traditional way. Any ideas of how to explain this nicely without offending anyone or sounding superior? I really don't feel our choice is any better than anyone else's. It's just different. Any help would be appreciated!
2007-12-11 10:41:31 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You don't need to explain anything!
My husband and I walked up the aisle together as well, with our attendants walking in as couples before us.
We did it pretty much for the same reasons you are... and found out much later that it's a very old tradition with our religion/culture - that the bride and groom come into the marriage as equals, so they walk in together to get married.
2007-12-11 23:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
You can explain it if you want to in your program...but don't feel that you HAVE to!! You have your own good reasons...you don't need to explain them to anyone! It will be very unique and different. If I was at your wedding, I would think...."wow...that was different" I wouldn't necessarily look for any explanation or reason in the program, and I certainly would NOT be offended.
If you really feel the need to...you can say something like "the bride and groom will be walking in together as a single person and walking out together as a married couple." That is the only thing I can think of...sorry.
Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
2007-12-11 11:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think explaining yourself is necessary, and would be very hard to explain without hurting the feelings of the majority of the people in attendance who did choose to come down the aisle the traditional way.
We are doing something untraditional too, but I think those who will be at our wedding practically expect it of us at this point, so we don't have plans to say anything special about it. It is a beach wedding, and everyone will be on the beach, and we will come in as a little procession with the minister first, followed by his parents, then my mom escorted by my only nephew (my father's deceased) followed by my fiance and me. I think it will be a wonderful and interesting way to start.
2007-12-11 11:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think an explanation is really necessary, I'm sure its been done before & if people are really curious as to what your reasoning is, they'll probably just ask you or one of your family members about it at the wedding reception. I think it sounds really sweet & I'm sure it will be a beautiful moment when you two are walking down the aisle side by side.
2007-12-11 11:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't explain why you're doing it, but in your program you can just indicate that bride and groom will enter together and leave it at that....if people want to know why you did it that way, you can explain later...but for the time being they will just be looking to see what you look like ,etc. I doubt any one will get up and leave in a huff because they're so offended that your dad didn't walk you down.
2007-12-11 11:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by High Fructose Corn Syrup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to explain your reasons at all. Those that know you already know you both are independent and they are aware of your views on the whole thing. I walked halfway down by myself and my husband walked from the front of the church to meet me in the middle. No explanation necessary... we just did it and no one had issue or concern about it. There really are so many ways to enter a church... it is just more common to do the father/daughter thing. It is not the only acceptable way... you don't need to justify or explain if you don't want to. Best wishes!
2007-12-11 10:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe there is a need to explain. Howevr, some more traditional folks may get their panties in a bunch about it. I would just put a small blurb about how much you love each other and how this is the beginning of your journey together so you wanted to start you journey down the isle together. Or something like that.
2007-12-11 10:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no need to put anything in the program. What were you thinking?
"The bride has decided not to let her father walk her down the aisle, as she believes it is a sexist tradition."
2007-12-11 10:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by monicanena 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first of all i want to say congrats on your wedding and ya know what its your day and your wedding there is no need to explain anything, i think the two of you walking down the aisle is a great idea, and its good to be different sometimes
2007-12-12 04:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to explain this to anyone, it is YOUR wedding, and your choice, you do not need to draw even more attention to it. If anyone asks you then you could give your reasons, but I really do not think it necessary to actually explain it in the program. My husband and I walked in together, no one batted an eyelid.
2007-12-11 20:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋