ugh!
me and my ex broke up a couple months ago
he dumped me! i was surprized and both sad
at the same time! as i was walking home i saw
them makeout. he was like eating her up!
i felt like i never wanted to be born on this earth.
i felt a tear roll by and then bursted out crying.
however, two weeks before we were thinking about
getting back together but didn't get to that part....
he told me he loved me! i don't why he would
just do something like that! well, when i saw him
yesterday he was really happy && we talked for
a little bit and through the whole time we were talking
he was making eye contact with me and smiling!
i just don't get it!
DOES HE LOVE ME OR NO?
2007-12-11 10:39:05 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey seriously he's total A** hole so just find a new guy BEFORE Christmas!!! hehe, good luck!!
2007-12-11 10:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by meganne 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Theres something called the 80-20 Rule. You see, no matter how great a gf you are. You can't possible give him 100% of what he wants. So then someone comes around who can gives him the 20% hes missing. Now that 20% is so tempting, because he isn't getting it. He will then go for the 20%, get it. And then realize the 80% he left behind.
Thats why he went back and talked to you after he kissed the other girl. He is realizing what he is missing.
Your the 80%, and if you weren't then he wouldn't have talked to you after making out with her.
2007-12-11 10:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Georgios Z 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may have feelings for you, but he doesn't have the maturity to know what all those feelings mean. You can feel love for more than one person, but without an agreement between those two people, anyone can make out with anyone they want to.
Boys tend to place less seriousness on each and every makeout session than girls do. So, he may just be feeling like he loves making out, and not that he loves the girl you saw him with.
This is very complicated, and you should try talking with him about this. If he can talk calmly with you and you feel good about things, then proceed slowly with him. Do guard your own heart, and remember to not throw yourself back into the relationship with him. Boys and men both appreciate a woman who makes herself special to them, and doesn't put out or kiss at every turn. Make him earn your attention and respect, and he'll be there waiting for you in the morning to walk to school.
2007-12-11 10:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by purplesometimes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he doesn't love you. He dumped you. If you loved someone, would you dump them Even if he says he wants to take you back, he doesn't love you. He's a young boy and he's looking for "action". You weren't giving it, so he moved on. DO NOT read into this that you should give in. Sleeping with a boy to get them to like you only results in the boy hating you and calling you foul names behind your back.
here is what you need to do and I know it sounds stupid and unhelpful, but it works.
1. Eat some chocolate ice cream. A whole tub.
2. Think about all the things you didn't like about him.
3. Look in the mirror and say (out loud and like you mean it) "His Loss! I was too good for him, anyway".
4. Flirt. Don't start going out with anyone for about 6 weeks, but flirt with all the ones you find cute. And remember, you're just flirting "which means they can'[t have this!"
5. Hang out with your girlfriends and tell them what they snake did. A real friend will do steps two and three for you>
Get yourself a copy of "He's just not that into you" read it and in the future, if any guy does anything in the book say to yourself "It's not that into me, but there are lots of other guys who are - I'm dumping him!"
6. It's not anything about you. He's obviously stupid. :)
7 Do things you like to do, especially if they are things he wouldn't like it if you did them. :)
8. Remember that girls with boyfriends get constant attention from that one special guy. Single girls get attention from all the guys. That is much preferable.
2007-12-11 10:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy H 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't tell from that if he loves you or not, but the signs are not positive. Love is a powerful and mysterious force, and it requires much maturity and sensibility on the part of all involved. So most likely you need to look on.
On the other hand, if you kick him in the groin hard enough, a substance resembling Guacamole will come out his ears. It's fun.
Good luck...
2007-12-11 10:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by aviophage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HES A PLAYER! dont go for him he may be everything to you now but later you will find another guy and have a deeper relationship with him. if hes doing this then u cant trust him to do it again. he might say oo i wont do it or it was an accident. but you never know so i think the best way is not dat he loves you or not but u should move on with your life and you will find someone. you have to be cautions there are many guys like that who act the same way to all girls so just out of experience i think you should move on
2007-12-11 10:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes girls and you are one of many. He is stringing you along in case he finds himself without a date some night.
Most young men go from girl to girl.
Don't get serious to the point of getting hurt each time you break up with a boy until you are out in the world working for a living. The older a man gets the more serious he will become with relationships.
2007-12-11 11:22:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he loves you or not. Looking at someone when you speak to them is a nice thing to do. You are not married, he is allowed to kiss whomever he wants without permission. It sounds like you're really into him though. He dumped you so I would go with that. I doubt that he would dump you if he loved you. If you're under 20 yrs old you probably don't know what love is yet, and that's ok, you'll find out. But I really seriously doubt if either one of you is in love...time to move on!
2007-12-11 10:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your question, it appears your ex- is not ready to settle down to a serious relationship with one female. You don't say how old either one of you are. If you are still in high school then I would say you both are much too young to be serious at your age. You have your whole life ahead of you ... and probably still living at home with your folks. This also means you both need more of life experiences to help you mature when you are really ready to settle into a more serious relationship.
2007-12-11 10:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mamapie2u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly he's probably just going to be with any girl he can get. That's how a lot of guys are. Also, he's probably told a lost of girls he loves them, and as he may "love" all of them, I highly doubt he knows what love truly means. You should just move on, it'll be better for you in the long run.
2007-12-11 10:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be in high school cause no real woman would be dumb enough to fall for some guys **** like that. He obviously is just trying to get some cheap ***. Telling a young impressionable girl that he loves her is always the way guys get in your pants the fastest. Believe me.
2007-12-11 10:43:37 · answer #11 · answered by raecebo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋