What does this mean?

Question

Hello everyone, for some reason my account was suspended. :(

So, anyways, I'll get over it.

My girlfriend, our relationship on the rocks, asked me today why i am ignoring her.. I said I thought she wanted some space (many of you suggested this), and she said no, but she doesn't want me to ignore her. I wasn't ignoring her, but I didn't talk to her unless she initiated the conversation (giving her space)... So what does this mean?

In a previous question, people suggested to me that I gave her some space because she was stressed and needed to think about our relationship.

Answer 1

i think she's thought about your relationship and decided she wants it.

Answer 2

I'm not really sure what the problem between you and your girlfriend is as I've not read your previous problem.
Anyway, what I think is, if you are going to give your girlfriend a bit of space, you need to let her know so that she doesn't get the wrong idea. i.e. you don't love her anymore because you don't ring her anymore, or it seems you don't care about her anymore etc.
But my personal opinion is (if you want to continue with the relationship) is not to give her too much space especially if she is experiencing deep stress otherwise she'll might think you're not there for her and not offering any support. This is not the case if she is asking for space, of course. If she does request for some space, it doesn't mean she doesn't want to hear from you (unless she says so). So don't just sit there and wait for her call. During those times you could just send her a short text to see how she is for example.
But anyway, next time if you feel that she needs space, be understanding and say something like "if you feel you need some space alone to think things through, just let me know." or "it seems to me you'd feel better if I left you alone for a while, is that what you want?" by asking her allows you to know what she actually wants and gives her the impression that you understand her. But you also need to let her know that you're only a phone call away if she needs your supporting hug or comfort words.
I know it sounds complicated, but hope this helps.

Answer 3

Well, there is such a thing as too much space. For example, you don't want to not talk to her unless she talks to you, (which sounds like that's what you did). The problem with that is, she'll not only think that you are ignoring her, but you also have something on your mind, maybe some suspicions rose to her mind.

So you have to be careful.
But, have no fear! You can fix this.

Do something nice for her. Take her out to her favorite resturant, take her to a concert. I'm not saying bribe her, but make her feel special again. Obviously, she doesn't want space.

Answer 4

Ask her exactly what she wants for you. This is where communication between men and women can break down very easily, and the way she is wired, she doesn't understand your need for a concrete, logical definition of what she wants. You should gently express this need to her, and explain that you don't understand what she means by space. I would have played this one the same way you did, and I really can't tell you what she wants. Which is why I defer to her.

Answer 5

Obviously the advice ran the wrong path. Talk to your lady as candidly and honestly as you can to find out what is up between you two. Advice is occasionally a good thing, but there's nothing better than firsthand information for making sure you've gotten things right. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

A GIRL MAY SEEM TO WANT HER SPACE BUT IN REALITY ITS WHEN SHE NEEDS YOU MOST!

Answer 7

well oveoulsy she doesn't want space so you shouldn't do that.
she told you that! DUHH