What is your opinion on adoption? why?

Question

I am doing this for a school project. If you answer it will be really helpful. Thanks

Answer 1

It should be a LAST resort. Period. Separating children from their natural families is not in their best interest except in cases of abuse/neglect.

It needs MAJOR reform. The laws do not protect adoptee and natural mom and natural father rights.

It needs a dose of realism. The general population has no understanding of the complexities of adoption; and myths about adoption abound.

It needs a paradigm shift. Right now, infant adoption is more about finding babies for adults who simply want them. It should be about finding homes for children who really need them. Meanwhile, hundreds of thousands of children who ACTUALLY need new homes are waiting in foster care.....

Answer 2

In my opinion....

open records, open records, OPEN records!!! Being adopted makes one loose some of there rights as a human being- like the right to there real birth certificate.

Infant adoption needs to lessen. It is an industry built on money.

Foster-adopt can be a good thing, but only if the birth parents are abusive. I don't think that not having enough money for heat is a good reason to completely take away a child from someone. I think the foster care system needs a lot of change as well, but that's a different story.

Basically, all of adoption needs reform. It just can not stay as it is--well, it can, but it shouldn't. Things need to change before more adoptees and birth parents lose.

Answer 3

Interesting reading all the answers so far and who they are from! Some adoptive kids, some parents etc.

Well i am at the end of the adoption process and have been in it with my partner for almost two years. The main thing about it is that it is all about the child. It is their needs you are addressing, not yours.

Although the needs of the adoptive family do obviously come into it, we must remember that a child has been removed from a natural parent for whatever reason and they are to be placed with a family who hopefully will give them love and a caring home (not that the natural parents didn't do this but this is what adoptive parents can and want to offer).

The actual adoption process has been for want of a better word, a nightmare. Our social worker has been an incompitant fool who has done her upmost to ruin it for us. We have been successful with all she has asked but she is always out to find fault. There have been a few times we have almost packed it all in but seeing as we can't have children naturlally, this is the right thing for us to do.

You'll never get the right answer to your question because of the range of feelings about it. I have posted questions on this subjevct before and recieved many positive but also many negative comments.

There are millions of aspects to adoption that people just don't see.

They see the celebrity culture of want a baby, buy a baby, have a baby. Which is the wrong way to do it.

Answer 4

I think adoption needs to return to its original emphasis of being about the best interests of children who need homes and families rather than the current emphasis on obtaining children for people who want them. I think the money should be taken out of adoption, and that open adoptions are probably best. All fifty states should have open records for adult adoptees. Finally, people who want to be parents should be encouraged to look in the foster care system rather than insisting on the elusive healty white infant.

My own adoption was a good one, and I'm glad to be in my family, but there are many things about current adoption practice I don't like. Best of luck with your project, and thanks for asking.

Answer 5

I think adoption, as used in the United States today, is generally negative. To keep the system going... Society perpetuates the myth that families require children in order to be complete. That helps to create the demand by potential adoptive parents. Young birth mothers are then convinced, also by society, that they are incapable of caring for their children and encouraged to relinquish them. Then, after all that, adoptees are told they don't need to know their origins and history, and the records of all of this are kept sealed. Pretty much a lose-lose-lose.

If adoption were used to help children, rather than perpetuate the adoption system itself, it would be a better situation all around. Those children that really needed placement would be helped. Those children that could be raised by their birth families wouldn't suffer the trauma of relinquishment. Those people that really wanted to help children could do so, and perhaps would be encouraged to help get children out of the foster system. And those children that needed to be adopted would be allowed to know where they came from.

But of course, that's just my opinion.

Answer 6

I think it's wonderful for children who have been abuse or treated badly or abandoned by thier parents, every child deserves loving parents and a real family, and sometimes it takes someone other than a bio parent to offer that.
Especially when kids are in foster care i think it's a blessing.

Answer 7

I have mixed views on adopotion, as I'm sure most people who are very close to the process do. At least I hope I'm not alone on this one. My husband and I have been unable to conceive without serious medical intervention. We have decided that since we truly feel led to become parents the most responsible option for us would be to adopt rather than spend the time and resources to overcome our infertility. We are in the process now of determining whether domestic or international adoption is the best choice for us.

In general I feel that adoption is a wonderful concept that allows people who have been called to care for children who otherwise would lead very different, and likely worse lives. It takes children from being cast aside to chosen and from alone to having a family. I can't imagine a more loving act than to bring a child into your home and love and raise it as your own. In general, and most days adoption is fantastic to me.

Of course, I can't help but to think about the negative side of adoption as well. In order for my family to be whole, another must be broken. There is a woman out there somewhere who has given up her child. That can't be easy regardless of the situation. But, I can't not think aboout her. Does she have other children, if she were in some other situation would she have kept her baby and most of all how will she make through everyday not knowing where her child is or who their with? This child that I am bringing into my home has a whole other family out there that I don't know, I can't see. It makes me nervous. Will they try to take the child back at some point, will they try to contact us to claim some "birthright?" On the negative side of things, my most overwhelming thought is why does my happiness have to come from someone else's loss?

I don't think there is any one right answer or right opinion on adoption, it's a very complex issue with varying considerations from every angle. I know I go from one extreme to another, but am hoping that it all quiets down when my little one comes home.

Answer 8

I am a birth mother and think that adoption is for the union of both the family and the child. The family that adopted my daughter had lost their own and couldnt have any more. I needed my daughter to have a more stable environment than I could offer. I am grateful that they were open hearted enough to take in a child that wasn't theirs and give her the great upbringing that they did.

Answer 9

I hate infant adoption. Why do I hate it? Because it is the act of separating a mother and infant at birth. Because I lost my only child to adoption and it hurts like hell 23 years later.

Answer 10

Adoption is an opportunity for someone to bring something good from a situation that they don't feel is good for the child. No ethical person gets pregnant on purpose, just to place a child up for adoption.