boyfriend trouble?

Question

ok well im 14 and most guys dont think of me as girlfriend material. i play ice hockey on my school JV team and im the only girl so most guys think of me as the best friend they can talk sports to. so how do i get them to see me as more then just the best friend? thanks

i do hang with girls and guys
also i dont dress girly but i dont dress like a tomboy either and ive always sucked at flirting also im a freshman i just have a late birthday so i dont turn 14 till like near the end of the school yr

Answer 1

My sister was like that. She is gorgeous, but played a lot of sports. She ended up having so many guy friends, that she had a hard time finding a boyfriend.

I think that it just demonstrates that they respect you as one of them!

Get dressed up is some really "girly" clothes. Put on the makeup, curl your hair and come to school looking like a knockout! Show them that you can get down and dirty, but you can get dressed up too! You might even try and date guys from another school. That's what my sister ended up doing.

Also, if they think that you're just one of the guys, you will have to go out of your way to let them know that you are a GIRL playing with the guys. So you might have to be more aggressive with the a guy that you might like. Let him know. He might like you too, but might it might not have ever crossed his mind.

Answer 2

You sound like every guys dream girl, if you are attractive... If you present yourself like a tomboy they might not find you attractive in that way. They could just be intimidated by you, try showing your girly side sometimes. And don't be afraid to use a skirt once in awhile.

Answer 3

i have the same problem. but luckily i kept being myself and everything turned out OK now guys thinks of me as the unique one (most girls just sit around looking pretty all day, I found out that guys don't like that at all) . I'm 14 too, maybe you should e-mail me an we could talk about this kind of stuff. I don't have many girl-friends, there all guys.

Answer 4

I don't know how you dress or who u hang with, but most girls on hockey teams are rough and hang with guys. So i would say try and hang with more girls. Dress more girly.Idk

Answer 5

well if i was you i would try to be best friends with a guy you like and after a week or 2 ask him if he has a girlfriend and if he doesnt ask him to go out with you in other words just be yourself trust me im 14 to and i get along great with my boyfriend

Answer 6

u could wear some girl close more. not girly close but just girl close and hang out with other girls so guys won't think ur a tomboy

Answer 7

Focus on your education,it will all fall into place once you graduate from a university with your Bachelor of Science degree.

Answer 8

Well, if you wanted to, you could dress really girlie and do your hair in pretty updo's to remind them that you're a girl and that would like them to notice you. Just try to draw the "Whoa" factor towards yourself :)

Answer 9

You're only 14. It will change in time. I know it seems like forever off, but trust me, just worry about having fun for now.

Answer 10

Don't worry about it yet! The right boy will come along...or may even already be your friend....just wait ....he will show his face soon enuff.....your only 14 sweety! Don't rush it or you might just pass the right one up or date him and not realize it till he is gone and moved on!