Hey my purpose for this message is that I really do not know how to find myself. I need so much assistance. I feel as if the world is being isolated from me. I feel weak, useless, and that I do not have much purpose in life. I need some help. If you have any advice that would help me out please feel free to message me back. I desire the knowledge of the publuc. I heard this robust saying that you may be shown the water but you are the one whom must drink it. I also heard that 90% of our lives are our reactions to situations. I do not know how I can become noticed. I feel as if I need someone to help me. Although, in the end, I believe that the help that one does for his or herself is more helpful to him or her than any other type of advice. I need to know how I can focus on my beliefs and how I can lessen the burden of people disliking me, taking their anger out on me and opinioning that I am some sort of scapegoat for them to take their anger out on know. Do not send me your nonsense.
2007-12-11 09:57:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Try first of all to take the pressure off yourself to be a certain way. You are you and thats that. You can create distractions buy keeping yourself occupied as much as possible, intermixed with prearranged times and ideas on how to relax. Anthony Robinson is a good mentor if you want to look him up. Good luck, and give yourself a break!!
2007-12-11 10:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by the helpful one 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's possible that this is just a phase (which I'm sure you don't want to hear). I've talked to people about my own feelings in this regard which I have since gotten over and they have said to try something new or outrageous. I started taking classes at college that I normally would not have taken, being as it did not apply towards my major. I also joined a bible study to learn more about my faith and fortunately met some new friends which also helps build your self-esteem. It will also help get you away from those people who use you as a scapegoat because they are having trouble with their own lives and can't accept anymore blame. My book of reccomendation would be The Success Principles. It helped me create goals for my life! I plan on reading it again in January.
2007-12-11 10:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by myworldyourin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are suffering from low self-esteem and depression. I can relate to your symptoms and would offer the following advice.
1) See a counselor and get some objective advice.
2) Get into group therapy - many people do this in order to find some direction and prospective. It's a growth experience.
3) Work on your communication and interpersonal relationship skills - group treatment, counseling, school, etc...
Ultimately it is your own experiences which count the most and will help you grow. But it is important when to know when you need support and to follow through on getting it. Good luck.
2007-12-11 10:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by GENE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change the behavior of others, only yourself, or your situation. I lived for many years thinking I was at fault for some things, that it was important for me to please others. I finally found out that the only one I need to please is myself, and I started telling other people"No". I ended up being homeless, (for around 5 years) but I've grown during that time, and am now almost ready to move into my own apartment again. Sit back and listen to yourself, don't be selfish in things, but do things for yourself and concentrate on your health. To get healthy yourself is the first step in dealing with things outside yourself. Don't do things just to please another if it gets in the way of doing something you feel is good for yourself and don't give up on something you want to do, even if someone says"its not for you". It's also a good thing to get professional help. I am under counciling right now, and I'm learning how not to get played. Some people will try to play you if they think they can get away with it, because it makes them feel better. Trust your own judgement sometimes, and you should be fine^_^ good luck
2007-12-11 10:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by ralahinn1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at yourself honestly. Ask yourself what you want and need. Don't take other people's behavior as your own problem. Start respecting yourself and not be afraid to say no. You have the right. Stop seeking approval toward others. Seek your own beliefs by searching deep in yourself and ask what do you believe? What do you want to believe? Be good to yourself.
2007-12-11 13:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous Reader 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find a mirror,and stand directly infront of it.That my freind is you.What you do,how you act and treat others is all right there.If you do not like the person looking back at you figure out why,and how to change it.Them come back and do it all over again.Sounds stupid and cheasy and a bit smart assed but really that person looking back at you is you,you just have to decide what you want to see when you look,and make changes accordingly.
2007-12-11 11:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me everyone feels like that once in their life. Even me, i went trough the same but you know what? I just kept on going with my life caused I had friends around me that supported me.
Probably feel like running away? perhaps....dont know, thats how I felt when i was going trough that.
The first step for this is to love yourself......I know sounds weird....but hey give it a try.....Dont listen to people that think you are fat, skinny or comments that bring you down everytime.
Then u need to look around you and see who you feel more comfortable with. (Friends).
Dont care about what others think about you.......or your friends.......dont be embarrased of them....if they mostly make a fool of themselves. I wouldnt recomend hanging out wiht guys that you think would make you fit in. Dont know if your problem is social one.
Dont give up......better things will come, be yourself and dont be afraid to show it.
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2016-12-10 20:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a flippant answer here, but most who feel lost, and have no purpose in life really need God.
If you don't have a relationship with Him, perhaps that is a good place to start.
2007-12-11 10:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋