I am low carbing. I am having a nervouse breakdown. What is the lowest calorie/carb alcohol I can drink?!!?

Question

I'm losing it. Seriously. All I want to do is eat or sleep for days. But I can't. Not only can I not afford the calories ( or carbs) but I am responsible for EVERYYY thing here. (money making, kids,chores, meals everything!) :(

The only thing else I can cling to is Alcohol or Xanax for a semi - escape from my life - and Xanax makes me sleep when I don't want to. SO.. what can I drink that won't totally kill my diet and low carb efforts/ketosis? I need strong and small if possible. If there isn't any what can I do to get through the days?! ( and please dont tell me go to counseling - I can't, no money, insurance or car)

Thank you.

Thank you to those who posted links and answers. For those who say I am an alcoholic umm. NO. I am not. I almost Never drink! - which is why I think it might help. I knowits not a good answer but I need something. And to answer some of the questions. Yes, I am married. No, he doesnt work, he doesn't help, he is totally self absorbed and clueless. My (1) son is adhd and autistic-ish and CAN'T help me. I still have to get him dressed for school at 12 yrs old! and every friend or relative lives over 1000 miles away as I had to move last year to another state. No friends here but my hub's & they are from his church and he has them thinking I am mother of the year or wonderwoman and he is superman. Why nervouse BD? Lets see, Have $3 TOTAL to my name. Electric getting shut off tomorrow, food gone, Hubby wont look for another job ( after losing his 1 in 4 yrs that he had for 2 weeks) No matter what I do, it's not enough, can't work hard enough to make ends meet alone on 2 jobs. I'm so sad!!

Answer 1

try some red wine, that seems pretty healthy to me since a glass a day is good for you!

Answer 2

And you think booze is somehow going to help any of this?

First the carb thing: eat some veggies. Alcohol in your system is just like sugar. You might as well have a potato and a loaf of bread if you start drinking.

Second the anxiety thing: no husband/daddy? No mother, sister, friend, cousin, aunt who can spell you with the kids or help with the chores?

OK. Here's what you do. Get organized.

Write down what you have to do today, what can wait, and what can be forgotten. Work and school have to be done today, maybe laundry can wait until Saturday, beds don't really have to be made, just pull up the covers.

Put everything away where it belongs. Don't let the kids get something new until they pick up what they've already got. Put their stuff out of reach if you have to, but make it stick.

Write a budget. How much income do you have? Start with that, then subtract the non-negotiables, like rent or mtg, debt payments, etc. Cut out stuff you can live without, like cable TV and internet if need be. What's left? That's for groceries, clothes, medicine, etc.

Make a weekly menu, then a grocery list based on that and only buy what's on the list. If there's a really good sale on something, make a substitution, but in general look at the ads and figure out in advance what you need.

Organization saved my life way back when. No money, two little kids, no job, husband on the road all the time. The toys were in little baskets I got for $1 each, and on a shelf in the closet. If you wante the cars, you put away the little people first.

I could tell you what we'd be eating on Friday by Monday morning. There was so much going on all the time, mainly with the kids, that organization became my crutch.

There are places where you can get counselling for free. Do you go to church? If not, Catholic Services and Lutheran Services can each point you in the right direction. There may be clinics where you live that charge based on ability to pay.

There's help out there, but you have to decide you want the help and then do what it takes to find it. Booze and pills are never the answer to problems, only the start of new problems.

Answer 3

Ok, first of all, cut the crap. I'm sorry your in a rough patch in your life right now, but ballistic dieting, alcohol, nothing like that is the answer. Suck it up lady! Let other people take part of your load, yeah? I mean, come on, I don't know the details, but I bet there are a lot of people way worse off than you. So, please, stop whining and think of a good way to fix this instead of acting like an ostrich.

Get a friend or someone to watch the kids, feed them, etc, for a couple of days while you relax and put things in perspective. Are the things you're worrying about that big of a deal? Have your kids do the chores. They're part of the family, and as such, should be helping out. Are you not married? If you are, have your hubby get a job, if not, relax, there are a lot of ways to get meals and money made. If, when you have more spare time because your kids are doing the dishes, laundry, etc, you make meals that can be cooked, then frozen and reheated later. Just make twice the amount you need, freeze half, and on a busy day, all you need to do is reheat it, ok? Most of all, breathe.

Alcohol will mess you up if you start drinking it as an escape. Not to sound harsh, but that's what leads to suicides and motherless children. Suck it up, if not for you, them.

Answer 4

you're right you are losing it, cause everything is on your shoulders. But I am confident that since you realize your losing it you're going to do something productive. cause right now you're asking for help and that's the first step. Hooray! 1. You're overwhelmed and depressed. Been there done that. I simply did what I could do. Kept everything as organized as I possibly could. One thing I knew for sure,was that if I was going to make it I had to have all my faculties. I made it my business NOT to take drugs or drink, being that I am responsible for everyone and had to be on CALL 24/7. You are heading for BIG trouble if you think you can diet,take xanax and drink alchohol all at the same time. Swear off the alchohol,make that first and foremost. If you're really, really depressed stick with the xanax then go to social services and ask for a home attendant. CAUTION if they tell you the only way they can give you a home attendant is to put you on the "registry" DONT AGREE! The registry is the child abuse registry. I dont know what ketosis means, does that have something to do with diabetes? Look I dont want to see you on t.v.with a shaved head and getting out of a car with your crotch showing while dropping off the kids. Take one thing at a time, only do as much as you can. If you have to do things a little slower than do things a little slower. Where are your friends that you can trust your kids with or family. Schedule days to drop the kids off with them, say, maybe one day during the week and one day on the weekend. Have whoever pick them up and take them to their house. Let that person take them to school this way you'll have one day during the week where you just have to attend to you. Do the same for the weekend choose a different person. If push comes to shove I know what youre going through IM me or e-mail me I'll come over and help you with anything you want. Also when you save the money up get "seasilver " [phone] / www.seasilver.com its vitamins and all kinds of good stuff for the body and it helps you lose weight healthfully and naturally by working with your pancreas and diabetics can take it . The way I beat depression is I buy Vogue,Martha,Ladies Home Journal, yes and even Brides and any kind of catalog Pottery Barn, I took the kids and window shopped,watched movies with kids,collected rock with the kids( one time my youngest collected doo-doo),we painted, we played music and danced,we had music playing while we ate dinner,we took buses or trains where we didnt know where we were going and looked out the window, for change of venue we had picnics in the bathroom where it was cool. Had the fan blow on us while setting in chairs aranged like car seats and pretended we drove to Dorney Park. Lastly go to that church,pour your heart out and then go to a few other churches too. Someone at the churches will help with the kids, the food etc.

Answer 5

Vodka, or any spirit over 40% proof like Rum or Whiskey....and a trip to the doc asap for Prozac.

Go to bed as soon as you can. Sod housework, sod everything other than what is essential. I have been there sister.

Low carb and having a crisis do NOT go together. You will be better off eating normally, or at least eating a load of GREENS... like Spinach and broccoli, low in carbs but high in iron.

If its early on in your low carb plan then it does feel pretty scuzzy for a week or two... but it gets better.

Answer 6

You can't escape from your life. If you use alcohol to cope with your stress you'll end up feeling worse. Plus, the added calories will cause weight gain and then you'll be even more stressed.

Exercise is the best way to deal with your stress. Try going for a walk or yoga to calm yourself.

Answer 7

first to convert alcohol takes lots of exercises you dont want to add to the list so try this chinese breathing set some where calm for five minutes relax breath throught the nose for a five count in and then out now ad to the count an extra beat til you get to a ten count breathe now thats calm you may feel drunk because of the extra oxygen try up to ten minutes a day or breath trought the nose for any period of time during the day just count the breathes in and out ,good luck, martial artist and sober 19 years

Answer 8

Booze is broken down into sugars in your liver/kiddneys... There is no such thing as a Low Carb Booze.

% of alcohol is the deturmining factor of Carb COntent.

More alcohol = more carbs.

Answer 9

I think vodka is probably the lowest of them, but seriously, you really need to take care of yourself, first. Remember what they tell you on a plane: in case of emergency, put your OWN oxygen mask on first, and then you can assist others.

Make sure YOU can breathe, sweetie, or else you're not really going to be able to help anyone else.

P.S. No diet is as important as your sanity!!

Answer 10

if you can't go to counseling, then just try talking to someone, anyone, a close friend, family member, a religious leader, even connect with support groups online....try to get friends or family to help you will childcare, cooking, etc....alcohol is only going to make your problems worse...and if your low carb diet is making you this stressed then stop following it, you will be healthier if you concern yourself more with a well-balanced diet than a low carb diet

Answer 11

You are an alcoholic. Stop using your diet as an excuse to drink.

The secret to low carbs diets and losing weight is to graze constantly with low carb food. Don't starve yourself. Eat nuts, carrots, eggs, jerkey, steak, chicken. whole grain cereal, chile, beans, etc. I lost 30 pounds in 8 weeks and I'm never hungry and I eat more then I use to. All I did was stop eating starches (bread, pasta, rice) and stop drinking soda. Don't use diet soda, it will make you hungry. Get all your carbs from fresh fuit.