A number of years ago, there was an obnoxious guy who I worked with at the local supermarket. Let's just call him: "Larry". Larry was always saying nasty, rude things to people and acting weird. Everyone hated him. Even the management didn't like him. One day, Larry asked one of the cashiers for a piece of pizza, while she was was enjoying her lunch. When she refused, Larry grabbed one anyway, then proceeded to chow down on it, like nothing had happened. Then, he unexpectedly turned around and farted in the gir's face, while laughing at the top of his lungs. She reported him to the manager, who gave him a stern warning. Later that week, I was browsing through the public library, when Larry came up to me and said hello. I pretended to ignore him, but he wouldn't leave. Then told security there was a strange man
after me. They told him to leave before they called the cops. Larry had cerebral palsy. Should I have felt sorry for him, or would you have done the same thing?
2007-12-11 09:19:07 · 14 answers · asked by Road Trip 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
CP is no excuse for being a d!ck. I don’t see any problem.
2007-12-11 09:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some people use the excuse of a disability as a reson to act a certain way, 'I have bipolar disorder-so I can scream in your face'.
In all reality CP does not affect the brain in anyway, there is no reason for his behavior and no excuse for it.
You shouldn't feel sorry for him, but instead consider this...
Chances are because of his CP people were afraid they'd 'catch it' and probably teased him considerably growing up, all the while an adult (probably mom) would coddle him and allow those behaviors because he was being teased.
Just because he has a disability doesn't mean you need to feel sorry for him, if h's capable of holding down a job then he's capable of understanding his actions. And have the consequences that go with them.
He probably didn't develop any social skills which happens allot with kids and they don't know how to go about making friends.
Instead of telling security you could have probably handled that alittle better. Like looking at him and telling him, that you really didn't appreciate the crap he pulled and that he needs to grow up. Chances are he would have gotten mad at you, but that would have had a better affect on him the then sturn warning his boss gave him. He reached out to you for a reason.
I probably would have done something like what you did, but I also grew up and know now that sinking down to that level is beyond me.
And I think you know it's beyond you too.
2007-12-11 17:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by lady in black 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not either/or. You can feel sorry for someone (and you obviously do feel empathy with him, as anyone would), but still get security to ask him to leave. Putting up with his behaviour isn't going to make him better or worse, and, who knows, he might actually learn to stop harassing people if he sees that there are consequences. Tolerating it gives him the message that thare is nothing wrong.
BTW, CP is not the reason he acts this way. Just because a person has CP (or cancer or a broken leg) doesn't make them immune from the psychological or social problems that anyone may develop or have.
2007-12-11 21:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I am not sure what Larry did to you? Just being obnoxious is no reason to report him to security, and just because he was disgusting to someone else doesn't tell me why you should have acted that way towards him. Some people have NO IDEA how to interact among peers, and they can't help that. I am certainly not saying what he has done is going to land him a lot of friends, but maybe he needs someone to point it out?? I don't know, just another point of view!
2007-12-11 17:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think that you were necessarily wrong. If he was making you feel uncomfortable, then he is in the wrong. I don't know how long he was hanging around you or if you felt harassed, but what he was doing could be borderline stalking behavior.
You may have saved yourself from further trouble by having security make him leave. Good for you.
2007-12-11 17:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by Ralleia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no dont feel sory like others have said cp has nothing to do with brain activity, i would of ate alot of gasy stuff, then you and your coworkers hold him down when of couse no ones looking and fart constantly in his face then smear pizza in his face, then before he gets a chance to run and tell u run and tell first that hes beahving very strangly,oh yea have no mercy!!!
2007-12-11 17:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by BEE-ATCH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Larry is a jerk. CP has nothing to do with his personality. Nobody did anything wrong.
2007-12-11 17:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. I would have ignored him because I am a strong believer in Karma.
2007-12-11 19:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by business as usual 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think because a persons has a illness doesn't give them the right to be a hateful rude person .i have cml but i don't go around making other people miserable because i am .He was an jackass either way it goes.
2007-12-11 17:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by tiff_is_me1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't use his disability to his advantage and I think you did the right thing. He should not have acted like that!
2007-12-11 17:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by SMILES 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋