My girlfriend is bi?

Question

My girlfriend is bi and i love her so much it hurts. she gets on line to look at girls on myspace and see if they want o have fun woth us but it kills me that she thinks about some one else sexually tan me i fill like she dosen't love me as much as i love her. i do every thing in my power to make her happy she's pregnat with my child and i'm helping her in a custidy battle for her two girls. we're both good common folk trying to make a living . but i just would die with out her. I just wish i could make her completlly happy but its hard when there is some thing that i personally give her. i mean if you truely love someone you don't look for other people to please you do you? part of me tells me to get out before it hurts too bad. i'll still be there for the child no matter what. but i don't want to leave her i'm torn up inside it's killing my heart. she keeps telling me i'm insecure with our love. or does she just in love ith the idea of me. some one help me

Answer 1

dude talk to her about it...what u said was deep and i think she would undestand...but u should count her feelings as well..maybe she might just want to experiment..so think about it...but its kinda messup that she wants to a threesome while sees pregnant

Answer 2

"i mean if you truely love someone you don't look for other people to please you do you?"

There are some things ANY romantic partner cannot do for you. For example, my partner may not like baseball. I love her to pieces, but I have to "look elsewhere" to find someone who cares about baseball. But that's OK.

Your issue is trickier because it's about the most intimate of activities, and the one most closely tied with emotion -- sex. Perhaps she's exploring her bi side because she thinks YOU'LL like it (of course, lots of guys want threesomes, or want to see their gal with another gal). have yuo communicated that this is not necessary at all? That it doesn't turn you on, and in fact makes you feel bad? She may just stop, because, while she may like girls, she loves you. And for the same reason people don't "cheat," she won't be with girls.

She may also not see sex as big of a deal as you do, and so these "adventures" to find women don't seem to undermine the relationship, in her mind. Your communication to her about this may make her understand how you view it.

Or, she may really like women, such that she "needs" that for her to be "happy." If that's the case, and if this is not something that you find acceptable in a partner, then it is time to end it before it gets worse. I don't think it's there yet, buecause it doesn't sound like you've really had a good talk about this yet.

Answer 3

Hey, Are you sure that she is a bi. Coz i think she is going through a very different phase. May be due to hormonal changes she is not hundred percent satisfied in terms of relationship, fun or sex. And may be because of that she is looking for other option to feel happy.
I think you should try giving her little more quality time and do things to cherish her like arranging candles for dinner or making a bubble bath or bringing her flowers, sending her love notes or smses.
This will help you bringing her back to you.

Answer 4

A relationship is dedication to the person your with. Whether you bi or straight. She should be dedicated to you and not be looking elsewhere. Cheating is cheating whether it's a guy or girl, and if you don't want to be involved in "other play" with other people then what she's thinking of doing/doing is not right and not dedication towards the relationship.

I'd say sit down and have a talk with her and if she continues, cut her loose.

Good luck man.

Answer 5

in case your female buddy is bi, what's so undesirable approximately that? fantastically if she chooses to be with you. There are some advantageous sexual opportunities that possibly you haven't any longer theory approximately right here. In all seriousness, this might additionally be a piece she's dealing with. I went with the aid of it myself. I did the "bi-curious" element and located it wasn't for me.

Answer 6

Wow, man you're screwed. You've put a lot into this woman and she's putting it in someone else. You'll never be the one because there will never be ONLY one. Get out. Run. Hide, whatever, just go. But remember you're responsible for child support.

Answer 7

You can't change a person, she will always look at other women and want 3 somes because you have previously allowed it. You should just get it now because she doesn't really LOVE you, she just likes you a lot, if she loved you she probably wouldn't act this way.

Answer 8

I really don't think that your girlfriend is bi ... trust me, a lot of girls think about having sex with a girl one day. I do look at girls as well and i'm totally straight. But sometime when I see an attractive girl I do think about how it be to sleep with her! She is not bi, just curious, it's just a fantasy she wants to share with you.

Answer 9

Talk to her about it. My boyfriend is always looking at girls on porn sites and it makes me feel bad because I don't go looking for pictures of naked men...sure I might check one out walking down the street, but geez. My bf doesn't listen or care. Maybe your girlfriend will be more understanding.

Answer 10

Dude, join in on the fun! This is a great thing! Threesome!