Heres the Story...
im 13, female, and madly in love(ive gone through alot and my mind is mature for my age)
so i met him about 6 months ago.. maybe more...
and ive had one of the shittiest lives.... when i met him i thought "hell hes just another guy whos and asshole and will end up being a ***** to me"
but boy was i wrong. the more we talked the more i learned about him and he about me. we talk and talk and talk and talk. and i had a crush on him after a while (hes hot and nice wat more could i want??)... but now i think im in love with him wich SUCKS. Why? Im 13.... but hes 17 turning 18 ... SOON. Also he says he loves me.. but ill always be his "lil sister". *groans* im in deep ****... help please?? like seriously... i cant talk to my parents aobut it because my mom hates men in general (lond story) and my dad hates me dating....(my rents are devorced). so.... HELP!!!!!!!!
2007-12-11 08:50:55 · 13 answers · asked by KissOfSnow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
his friends say he normally doesnt get close to girls like he is with me.... is that a good sign??
AND I HATE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-11 09:10:39 · update #1
yes i am controlling my emotions.... im quiet good at hiding them actually...
2007-12-11 09:30:41 · update #2
Ok. Thats only five years difference which isn't a big deal now adays. Your problem is that your only 13 and when he's 18 your parents can get him in a lot of trouble if they disapprove. You say you're "older mentally" however, if the boy you love says he loves you as a lil sis then that is all he sees you as right now. That doesn't mean that he won't change though. My advice to you is to not allow yourself to get too attached to him. He may only be a really good friend who gives you good advice and comfort when times get tough. Therefore, it may not be "love" at all. Even though you think your older, you're still young and have all the time in the world to fall in love. Enjoy your teenage years!!
2007-12-11 08:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I won't judge you for your age. But I am in a similar situaion...I'm 22, and I fell for a guy when I started college (5 years ago) and he's about a year older than me. He says that I'll always be his "little sister" and that he loves me and such. I can feel your pain and confusion.
After 5 years of thinking, and holding feelings in, I have realized that it comes down to two options.
1) Do you want to keep him as a close friend that you will never lose, but still have the secret feelings.
2) Do you want to take a chance, tell him, and let him know how serious you feel for him, but chance him leaving your life or shutting you down, therefor changing your close relationship.
I have chosen the first option, just because I realize that even if I am in love with him...having him in my life is pretty damn special as it is...and is something I have to cherish. If something happens down the line-then I'm cool with that.
All I can say, is that there is no right or wrong option here, but you just have to follow what you feel is best. Only your mind and heart can tell you that.
Good luck, and best wishes hun!
2007-12-11 08:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by Alesha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can really sympathize with you I was 13 when i first met my husband he was 17 and on his last yr of high school I knew i was in love with him the first time i saw him but i had others say i was to young and he was too old for me and i was too young to know what love was i proved every one wrong because we have been together for 9yrs and have three children. If you love this person let him know he may just feel the same way but is worried about your age, maybe if you wait a few more yrs he will be more comfortable dating you.
2007-12-11 09:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's smart to keep the relationship with you as "lil sis".
He's an adult, and no matter how mature your mind is, your driver's license [oops, you don't have one yet]--I mean birth certificate--says you're a kid.
Both of you should go live your own lives and if both of you are still available in 5-8 years, that would be a good time to get rid of the "lil sis" status with him.
It sounds harsh, but spend some time growing up with kids that are closer to your own age. Right now, 5 years is a big difference...in 5-8 years, that gap will be closed.
2007-12-11 08:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by dave13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 13 I was dating a guy who was 18 and I was in "Love" or so I thought now I wish that I still had his friend ship I don't know you or the situation but I can tell you from my experience if you really values the friendship then keep him as a friend and if it is meant to be more than it will happen. You are 13 so you will meet many more ppl in your life. Do you really want to lose the friendship you have with him because you wanted there to be more or do you want his friendship more?
2007-12-11 09:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by Rachael 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask for advice before falling madly in love, after you fall there isn't much we can do to help. You are now faced with a tough decision and the choices don't have easy options. Controlling your emotions is a neccessary part of happiness, and this is a powerful lesson.
2007-12-11 08:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay how you feel is completely normal and personally i dont think age is a objective its just a number and you should talk to em and let em no how you feel and if he feels the same way you do then you'll be together no matter what and if he thinks your to young stick around and hopefully he'll wait for you and when you turn 18 HES ALL YOURS GURL......NO MATTER WAT ANYBODY SAYS.....and thats only 5 years away its not very long so maybe it'll work out for the best that way.....???
2007-12-11 09:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pursue this older guy and he gives in then you are risking him going to prison. If you are only 13 and think you are in love and ""had one of the sh*ttiest lives", then you are in a position to entirely ruin both of your lives. It really sounds as if you need to talk to a professional...maybe a therapist or a counselor. Just think, if your mother has such strong feeling towards men, what do you think she will do if an 18 year old man touches her 13 year old daughter? Not to mention what your dad will do! Please think things through before you make any decisions! good luck.
2007-12-11 09:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by Stranger In My Heart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look sometimes age dont matter it depends if he is 18 then its a problem becuase most people wont see it that way lovy-dubby crap but really just find someone else but really if u are in love and age does not stop u then u gotta go for it and dont let no one find out becuase thats mostly rape but go for it if u love him that much and if anybody brings an issue that he is too old then u gotta break up but if u just keep low and u want him like i said go for it
2007-12-11 08:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by LUIS ROSA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you have strong feelings for him, but he doesn't have those same feelings for you.
He thinks of you as a "lil sister," which is a very nice way for him to say that he thinks you are too young for him. Please know that this is just the way things go sometimes. I know it hurts but there will be other guys in your life. YOu are young and there is so much left to be experienced. You'll be fine.
2007-12-11 08:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋