my boyfreind is so outta my league. im kinda chunky and hes super-hot. i think he is attracted to me, but how do i make him more attracted to me?
2007-12-11 08:46:06 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The most attractive thing in anyone is confidence. You have to stop thinking that he's totally out of your league. Once you project more confidence you'll automatically become more attractive not just to him, but to everyone.
And if that doesn't work, try roofies (just kidding).
2007-12-11 08:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by kyoty58 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can increase someone's physical attraction to you by working out, eating less, losing weight, wearing attractive clothing, etc.
You can increase someone's intellectual attraction to you by learning things - get a hobby, read books, continue your higher education.
You can increase someone's emotional attraction to you ... only by being honest with yourself and with them. No guarantees. If it's meant to be then honesty will help you both get there. If you guys aren't a match then emotional honesty won't prolong the pain.
That's assuming you want a real relationship. If you just want him to want to be with you and it's just a shallow physical thing, then get physical with him more often - whether that's kissing or more. Learn what guys like and do that.
P.S. 3-somes are the quickest way to break up a relationship. You've been warned.
Saul
2007-12-11 08:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Saul 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of your league? I'm not trying to be sarcastic but maybe you should start with working on your self-esteem. Never go out of your way or change who you are merely to make someone like you. If you are not good enough as you are, then maybe he's not deserving of you. Be your own person, and not the person someone else might want. This would never last anyhow, because you would want him to like you, and not the woman you're trying to be. As for being kinda chunky, what does that have to do with it. Beauty comes from within and remember, outer beauty can be changed or altered but they can still be ugly inside. If he's "out of your league", then let him be the loser for being too shallow for liking you for you, and not for who he wants you to be. Be yourself! In the long run, you will be out of his league.
2007-12-11 08:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by Levi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he already thinks you're attractive if he's your boyfriend. He probably doesn't care about your weight at all. I'm in the same situation with my boyfriend [but I'm the only one who thinks he's super hot], and I was really insecure for a long time. I still am a bit, but I definitely know that he's attracted to me [specially my big butt =D].
2007-12-11 08:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his ya bf he is attracted to u for some reason or another, dun worry too much about it, if not lose some weight excersise skip the chips in ya bowl and try harder...u might have a great personallity...the thing is there is nothing less attractive then a fat chick with a fat attitude...work on ya inner self confidence and pls pls pls if u have it flaunt it if u dont, pls hide the spare typres for the sake of mankind...
2007-12-11 08:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by djohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't about him but about you, you obviously have low self-esteem and confidence. He is already attracted to you or he would not be going out with you. You cannot make yourself "more attractive" to anyone. Just be yourself, this is probably what attracted your b/f in the first place. You say "I think he is attracted to me" you mean you don't know? If he does not compliment you, make you feel good about yourself, show genuine feeling and affection then he aint that hot! Hot is as hot does, it's his job as your b/f to make you feel like a million dollars. It's your job to be proud of who and what you are. Nuff said, good luck x
2007-12-11 08:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Willow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your boyfriend? If so then he's attracted to you! Stop thinking your out of his league! The best way for him to be more attracted to you is if you're more attracted to you. Self esteem is apparently the best thing a girl can have. (So says all my guy friends). My boyfriend hates when I'm down on myself so try not to do that!
2007-12-11 08:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he would be your boyfriend if he weren't attracted to you in the first place, but if you want to get in shape beacause you think it will make YOU happy, then start eating better and workout with him, it will be a fun activity for the both of you.
Most girls think that every guy wants a Victoria's Secret model for a girlfriend, but they really don't. Ask him his definition of "beautiful" and see what he says. He might like you just the way you are.
2007-12-11 08:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by Ms B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you should talk to him and ask him what he would want you to do so you can change. Also like you said your chunky run a couple of times around the block and make a schedule of what your going to eat and when. You could also talk to some friends and ask but if your embarressed then talk to your boyfriends friend so he could help you .
2007-12-11 08:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by natkaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your boyfriend already then he is attracted to you. Stop putting yourself down. You need to think "damn, if I can get a guy that is super-hot then I must be pretty great." Just be yourself because that is what attracted him to you in the first place.
2007-12-11 08:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by LadyD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋