whenever my bf calls me, i answer and talk to him even if im busy or about to fall asleep. but when i call him theres always a problem-hes playing bball, at a party, out with his family, studying, showering, going to sleep-his excuses are endless. and healways says he'll call me back tomorrow and it never happens.
another time he was supposed to be my date for my cousins wedding and he called me an hour before the wedding and told me he cant come cause hes playing bball.
what should i do? should i stop calling him and when he calls do what he does to me? should i dump him? is he being fair to me?
2007-12-11 08:45:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
omg! you should broke up with him and stop calling him! He doesn't deserve you. No, he's not being fair to you. you should move on to someone else because it looks likes that he doesn't care or support you.
-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-11 08:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've experienced your situation before so I know how it feels. My boyfriend was an inconsiderate guy and always got what he wanted. But after a few discussions we worked things out together and now I've been with him for 5 happy years =)
But first you need to ask yourself, do you want to have a serious relationship with him? Is he what you want? If not, then maybe you should finish him. If you've decided that he is the guy you want in your life, have you tried sitting him down and 'discussing' this issue with him? Its only fair for him to know how you are feeling inside and especially if he is upsetting you, and you need to make him understand the concept of give and take. Some guys don't realise that their actions are causing problems and are unconsciously selfish, and so you need to pour this out to him so that he is able to understand where you are coming from. Also ask him whether he treasures your relationship. If he doesn't feel the same way, then there is no point in wasting all your precious time and effort in working things out if he is not willing to do the same for you. If he does then make him understand that he's not doing a good job and explain to him what he can do better.
Well this worked for me after a few attempts. I hope things will go well for you too.
2007-12-11 09:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it like this: You are there for him when he needs you, but he isn't there for you when you need him.
First, you make yourself WAY too available for him, and he is just straight up taking advantage of you. STOP answering every time he calls. Learn to say NO.
and if all else fails, dump him and move on. He obviously doen't have time for you, nor is he making an effort to make the time. You deserve better.
2007-12-11 08:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Ms B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two things going on here.
One, your boyfriend does not put you as his first priority. His total lack of interest and bad manners by cancelling dates at the last minute should not be tolerated.
Two, you focus too much of your time and energy on your boyfriend. It would have been more healthy and beneficial to the relationship if you would have found other interests as it appears your boyfriend has learned to be sure of you and this made him get bored.
2007-12-11 09:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not understanding the rules of a relationship. He might care, but could just be careless.
Try telling him next time you are too busy, you will talk later. If he pushes the issue- say, hey, I don't keep you on the line when you are doing things, so give me my time.
You have been too accommodating. Dont' do it anymore.
2007-12-11 08:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a taste of his own medicine. Stop calling and wait for him to make the first move. This will either snap him out of his habits, or it will end the relationship. Either way good luck!!
2007-12-11 08:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by TAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Can't attend to a wedding because he's playing football? I don't think he's in the NFL, so my bet is he is 8 years old.
2007-12-11 08:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is taking advantage of your time and by that I mean he's not valuing your time. Don't play games with him. Talk to him about it and if he is not willing to make the effort to be there for you as you are for him, then you should probably make like a tree and leave.
Good luck. :)
2007-12-11 08:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by greeni707 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dated a guy like that and believe me it never gets better i say dump him now before your fall in love and get your heart broken
2007-12-11 08:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by ... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, if he doesnt have time for you, no way he can like you, i had same exact problem, dumped her, a while back
2007-12-11 08:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by Dann (: 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋