How do I know if he misses me or just the benefits....?

Question

w/out having to just come out & ask him. We're friends w/benefits but he's been telling me quite a bit lately that he misses me. Would you tell someone that you miss them if all you miss is hooking up?

Answer 1

its completely possible to just miss the benefits!!!

if he said stuff like, "i really miss going on walks with you," or "i really miss lazy sundays reading books with you," or "i really miss talking with you" it might mean more. but "i miss you" is pretty vague.

maybe you should follow up his question by asking, "what do you miss about me?"

nothing like a little communication to figure things out.

Answer 2

In my experiences, if your friends with benefits with a girl then you don't ever say anything like that because it changes things. So he's either stupid and doesn't know what he's doing, or he's giving you a line to get the benefits, or maybe he does miss you. And yes guys will say anything they need to to get laid. Try cutting off the benefits and see what happens.

Answer 3

Well, some people will say whatever they know you want to hear it that means they will get what they want. Is he that type of person? Don't give him any of the "benefits" and see what happens. If he truly missed you, then he would understand.

Answer 4

I am interested to see what answers you get because I am in a similar situation with my ex.

I would like to think that someone would only tell you they miss you if they actually miss spending time with you...

Answer 5

One way to find out is the next time you're together, hold out on the benefits. You'll get your answer real quick.

Answer 6

Testing him. Try not to "benefit" each other for a day and see if he reacts differently.

Answer 7

Brad Pitt tonight on Larry King Live, DON'T MISS IT!!!!