When someone you truly care about tells you that they Love you how do you react?

Question

Do you tell them you feel the same way??Or are you to shocked to say anything back??

Answer 1

Hmm...I look back at how many times people said that. I couldn't respond in kind since I genuinely did not love them back. But regardless, I had a hard time to say "I love you" even if I thought I did. I wasn't sure about myself back then.
Now, I can. After losing many people I loved through death, I regretted not saying those words. If I truly love someone, (now that I know what it means to me) I can freely express myself. You see I understand it because I lost it once, I won't ever again. I do not say "I love you" without meaning it. Besides if you do, you would know it.
Men have a hard time saying it. Because it means something final. It leaves us vulnerable for rejection, for not being reciprocated. It is a scary thing for us because we take it seriously and that it is NOT something we can easily discard. In fact, we never fall out of love although we can lose it. That is why we regret it. It is something we long for but hard to maintain. Men will always be the fool, we are lost without loving women in our lives.

Thank you for your question

Answer 2

What is the truth in you.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Mas...

'Maslow saw human beings' needs arranged like a ladder. The most basic needs, at the bottom, were physical -- air, water, food, sex. Then came safety needs -- security, stability -- followed by psychological, or social needs -- for belonging, love, acceptance. At the top of it all were the self-actualizing needs -- the need to fulfil oneself, to become all that one is capable of becoming. Maslow felt that unfulfilled needs lower on the ladder would inhibit the person from climbing to the next step. Someone dying of thirst quickly forgets their thirst when they have no oxygen, as he pointed out. People who dealt in managing the higher needs were what he called self-actualizing people. Benedict and Wertheimer were Maslow's models of self-actualization, from which he generalized that, among other characteristics, self-actualizing people tend to focus on problems outside of themselves, have a clear sense of what is true and what is phony, are spontaneous and creative, and are not bound too strictly by social conventions.

Peak experiences are profound moments of love, understanding, happiness, or rapture, when a person feels more whole, alive, self-sufficient and yet a part of the world, more aware of truth, justice, harmony, goodness, and so on. Self-actualizing people have many such peak experiences.'

'The first four layers of the pyramid are what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "D-needs:" the individual does not feel anything if they are met, but feels anxious if they are not met..... Needs beyond the D-needs are "growth needs," "being values," or "B-needs." When fulfilled, they do not go away; rather, they motivate further.

The base of the pyramid is formed by the physiological needs, including the biological requirements for food, water, air, and sleep.

Once the physiological needs are met, an individual can concentrate on the second level, the need for safety and security. Included here are the needs for structure, order, security, and predictability.

The third level is the need for love and belonging. Included here are the needs for friends and companions, a supportive family, identification with a group, and an intimate relationship.'

The only boundary between intimate friendship and intimate friendship with sexual intimacy is consent to sexual intimacy. Don't ask if you are not interested that way.

On second thought, perhaps you should clearly state you are not interested that way.....or not call back.

Answer 3

I often am so surprised, that I can't respond right away. If it is someone I really care about & do love, I probably would tell them I love them too. If I care about them as a good friend, I might tell them I love them, but as a friend not in the way they may hope for...even though it is difficult. But I wouldn't want to lead them on falsely, as that is cruel. But when someone tells me they love me....it does make me feel all warm inside.

Answer 4

If you truly care about this person one way or the other tell them you love them too. If its a romantic kind of saying look within yourself if you love them the same way. ONly you can know that answer Rena.

Answer 5

You tell the truth! If someone says they love you, never take it lightly. That is the best complement anyone could give you. But just as you don't want to be hurt, you don't want to hurt anyone else. Telling someone that you love them when you don't, can lead to a whole lot of hurt.

Answer 6

Hi Rena, If i was you i would find out if your friend loves you has a sister, or has a lover,depending on which type of love , if you feel the same than tell him you love him too. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 7

Of course, I would also let him or her know how I feel as well, but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't have butterflies in my stomach while speaking the words, even after they have shared their own feelings for me.
It's so sweet, now that I think about it, how funny we humans are when expressing love to each person, something so natural.

Answer 8

I will honestly tell you I was shocked and I don't know what to tell or do, so I just limit myself to talk to him, but he still made the way for us to be back as before and I think it was unfair on his part that I will tell what I feel for him...;)

Answer 9

If I truly love them, I tell them. If I don't, I feel ashamed and look for another topic. If they are insistent about it, I take stock of what they've said and wonder if I'm worth loving.

Answer 10

"I shall walk this path but once. Any good therefore that I can do; any kindness that I can show, let me do it now, for I shall not walk this way again."

Without the poetry, that means, if you love someone, tell them. But be careful - to love and to be in love are two VASTLY different things. Be sure you say what you mean and mean what you say.