How do you deal with someone that has a big EGO and you happen to like them?

Question

It is always about them their life...what they are doing ???How can you let them know hey what about me ??

Answer 1

Well, you could come out and ask them, " Hey, is always about You? Do you even care about me?"...
People with big egoes don't usually care about others, so it is hard to love them.
One has to wonder if they can love others. Do you want to be with someone who might not be able to truly love you?

Answer 2

What is ego?
Ans: "I am"
Thats it.
Now to answer your question I will ask you to do an experiment.
Go to anyone you like , or you feel closest, it could could be your mother, child, husband, brother, sister , anyone you like.
Ask that person to eat something sweet or feel a pinprick or any thing hot or cold.
Now ask yourself , can you feel , can you experience that which the other person is experiencing.
The answer will be no but still do it.
Do it any no. of times but the answer is negative.Why?
Because two individuals are totally different and absolutely not connected. So it is established that everybody is different.
So how can you merge your ego with someone else. You cannot. Life is a matter of compromise, give & take. You lose some thing and the other person should also lose some and in return you both gain each other's confidence. If no one is ready to lose something, then I am afraid , the relationship is on rocks.

Answer 3

I too suffer from a big ego.....sometimes and I think we can all be guilty of this from time to time, I do know though with my self (ego again sorry) it is a nervous thing. I find when I do like some one (and it isn`t ALWAYS in a romantic way but it is worse when it is) I pratle on about myself so much it means that they won`t get a chance to tell me I`m a pain in the what knot, or I won`t give them that chance to tell me they like me because this means opening up and taking a risk of being hurt and that would never do. I can admit this to myself now (ego again) which means I know when it happens and I can work on it though it is hard at first. I think........then again..........

Answer 4

If friendship isn't a two way street, then it's really not worth
continuing. Save your energy for a relationship where
each of you is interested in the other's life. Otherwise,
you'll always just be a sounding board to someone who
could easily just be talking to a wall. Ease out of it and
bond with someone else. That ego probably won't
even notice you're gone and just find another listening
post.

Answer 5

Hi Rena, Well if i liked a certain woman,and she had a overwhelming ego. Than i would just come out with," hey i am here, i like you, can you listen for a change" A good conservation is the input of all party`s. Try and make them see your side of the coin. And if the feeling is shared.

Answer 6

Yeah I have a friend like that..I dont do anything cause they wont listen to you anyway. All I can do is agree and try to keep being a friend. They afterall are searching for someone as we all do..Just lend an ear no matter how they appear apparently their life isnt really all that rosy..They put on airs to make it sound like they are the only one that matters. I have seen this happen too many times. You have to accept them as they are even though you would like them to know about you. People are funny and you just have to accept them as they are ..

Answer 7

I used to be shy of receiving rejection from those types of woman. So, I'd avoid them The older I've gotten, the less fear of rejection I have from them. If they truly have a BIG ego, I've discovered that I don't really like them anyway and stay away.

Answer 8

Ive dated people like that. Best thing to do is to take that ego of theirs and playfully knock it down a few pegs and let them know that they are NOT all that and a bag o' chips. This lets them know that "hey, here's someone who apparently is not buying it" and that will make them try even harder to impress and "get" you.

Answer 9

Why, what do you care.


I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.
If not, it can't be helped.
(Fritz Perls, 1969)

The "Gestalt prayer" is a 56-word statement by psychotherapist Fritz Perls that is taken as a classic expression of Gestalt therapy as way of life model of which Dr. Perls was a founder.

The key idea of the statement is the focus on living in response to one's own needs, without projecting onto or taking introjects from others. It also expresses the idea that it is by fulfilling their own needs that people can help others do the same and create space for genuine contact; that is, when they "find each other, it's beautiful".

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gestalt_prayer

Answer 10

This is a tough one. When someone is like this, your dealing with a selfish non compassionate person. Really look at what you want for yourself in a relationship. You can't change someones base personally, only they can change themselves.