Yesterday I and my boyfriend was shopping at mall. When we were in food court, there was this one guy who looked at me and smiled at me.
Since my bf is very jealous type, he didn't like this so he walked up to this guy to talk to him. This guy suddenly put his bags down, as my bf get close, my bf doesn't want to fight so he tried to push this guy down. But the guy elbowed him in the face then punches him a couple time then kicked him in the thigh. My bf was trying to back away but the guy keep coming forward and kicked him in side then the head. My bf was down and unable to get up or walk for a long time.
After the polices came and talk to witnesses, they all say that my boyfriend was the one who started it. They also say since the guy was deaf, it isn't surprising he took my bf's action as a threaten. All witness say my boyfriend tried to attack this guy.
But my bf got two broken ribs, cannot bend his leg at all because of muscle pain, need 14 stitches in face.
This guy could
2007-12-11 08:18:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
have just wait and see if my boyfriend is going to try something other than yell at him. He doesn't need to go crazy and attack him like that!
They use excuse that this guy is deaf as a main reason for his action. If this guy is like that, he should be locked away!
2007-12-11 08:20:03 · update #1
Your BF deserved what he got. He approached the other guy. Threat. He closed in on the guy. Threat. Then he pushed the guy. Assault.
Your BF was 110% wrong. The other guy did nothing illegal and your BF created the situation and escalated to physical assault when he pushed the guy. He is lucky he didn't get arrested. The fact the other guy was deaf is irrelvant. Many staes have laws that say a person is under no duty to retreat, as long as they are in a place they are legally entitled to be, as this guy was. You are then enititled to defend yourself until the agressor (your BF) is no longer a threat to your own safety.
Your BF sounds like a a*s. You yourself admit he is "jealous". He wanted to be the tough guy and got a beating for his trouble. Maybe next time he will act like appropriately.
2007-12-11 08:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 18⤊ 0⤋
Your bf doesnt like to fight but he tried to push the guy down? I think the REAL disabled people here are you and your bf, both of you appear to be severely mentally challenged -
The poor guy probably felt sorry for you for any number of reasons.
And your mentally disabled sociopathic bf rushed over and started pushing him?
What part of assault is it that you dont understand? It isnt the person who gets the worst of it who is the "victim". Its the person he assaulted - and found out some disabled people arent that easy to bully and beat up on. GOOD
Its the jackass who started it in the first place who gets charged, I hope you bf does major jail time where he will be pushed around a lot -
Face it your big tough guy thought he could intimidate a disabled person - what a hero !
2007-12-12 06:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by isotope2007 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend, by law, was at fault for the whole thing. That's about all the insight I can give on this one. The deaf man felt threatened, that's about the extent of it. Law enforcement has to give special consideration to a person with a disability, and as long as witnesses claim that the deaf man was not at fault, there's really nothing anyone can do except face the fact that life sucks, move on.
As for your boyfriend, I've been in a relationship where the man was fight happy when it came to men looking at me, but I took a stand and he finally moved out.
Who's to say that he won't hurt you? You really should be careful. That is not the kind of thing you need in your life, or memory.
2007-12-11 16:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking why the police let the other guy get away with this, or why YOUR BOYFRIEND got away with this?
If I were your boyfriend, I'd be flattered that some other guy noticed you because I could be the one who is WITH you. I certainly would not be going over to someone to "talk" to them with a mind toward causing trouble over something so insignificant to my day as a total stranger I'm never going to see again anyway. Does that make any sense?
If I were a cop, I'd have seen to it that your boyfriend's butt got hauled to jail just as soon as the medical people were finished. As it is, your boyfriend got exactly what was coming to him. He started it and the other guy finished it. I'd dump him before he gets so "jealous" that he advances on YOU if he suddenly gets the idea in his head that you might have been "smiling" at somebody.
2007-12-11 08:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with nytrainop 100%. If your boyfriend would of just ignored it then he wouldn't have gotten his a** beat. The other guy most likely was not arrested because it was out of self defense and your boyfriend is lucky he wasn't arrested. When your boyfriend went to the other guy to confront him and yell at him that is called assualt and when your boyfriend pushed him that is battery. Maybe next time he won't act like a child and just ignore it.
2007-12-12 00:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by ~*shea*~ 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
This all could have been avoided if you boyfriend didn't overract. Smiling is not illegal. Had your boyfriend been a more mature person he would not have gotten beaten up. What I believe you fail to realize here is, the deaf guy had to put his bags down....to talk. Your boyfriend was totally out of control by the time he made it over to him. For a smile, are you kidding me? Your boyfriend deserved everything he got and should have gone to jail after getting released from the hospital.
2007-12-11 09:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bear 5 · 13⤊ 0⤋
I imagine that the facial expression of a person in a jealous rage is not that pleasant and would be intimidating. Your BF in a "Hey what are you looking at" posture doesn't sound like he is going over to shake his hand either.
Your BF also tried to push him down! So what would you do?
Hopefully your BF got some sense pounded into him, and if he didn't then its time to find a new BF. (I wounder if he will be able to let you go?)
2007-12-11 10:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by MarkG 7 · 14⤊ 0⤋
The other guy acted in self defense. The moment your BF laid hands on the other guy, he committed an assault & battery.
Too many deaf people have had to endure behavior like your boyfriends from something as simple and ordinarily human as *looking*. Jealous? Your BF was unreasonable the moment he got mad over the other guy smiling at you and went over to him -- it was an attack and it was threatening and all the witnesses agreed on it. That the deaf guy defended himself is great. Three cheers to him. Three jeers to you for thinking he should be locked up.
2007-12-11 08:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should drop this guy as soon as possible if he can't control his insane and overbearing attitude.
You will find that you will be unable to move and have much freedom if you stay with him.
It will be extremely hard to drop him though and you were probably flattered to be 'protected'.
But his behaviour is just not acceptable.
2007-12-12 07:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by eclomaxkiwi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend assaults a disabled guy, 'cos you think the guy smiled at you..gets his worthless *** kicked and now you don't understand what happened?
Tell your boyfriend that if he "doesn't want to fight" to stop pushing other guys down. Sooner than later he'll end up with a bullet...
Here your boyfriend would be facing felony charges, assault on an at-risk adult.
2007-12-11 10:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by lpdhcdh 6 · 14⤊ 0⤋