Ok, last week I found out my boyfriend had been cheating on me. I confronted him about it at his place but he wouldn't admit it. We argued for a while until he finally admit he'd been cheating on me for 3 months.
I'm really not usually a violent person at all but that p***ed me off so much, I just punched him as hard as I could in the jaw. It knocked him out cold. I'm only 17. I'm athletic but not muscular (I'm a cheerleader) and he's 21 and pretty buff. I totally didn't expect it! I was just angry. He was knocked out for about 40 minutes. It was really funny, but when he came to he freaked out. He went to the cops and I've been charged with assault. Was I in the wrong?
2007-12-11 08:17:11 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't believe that he is admitting to getting knocked out by a cheerleader. You should have kicked him while he was down.
Seriously though, violence is not the answer in this situation...it just makes him look justified and gives him ammo to hurt you even further. Legally you were out of line, but I can't say that I wouldn't have done the same thing. At least you are a minor.....
For future reference, I would also consider your own safety. You are lucky that he was out cold - he could have reacted very badly to you hitting him and you could have wound up seriously hurt.
2007-12-11 08:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kate the Great 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
No and yes.
No, because cheaters are lying skanks and if he slept with someone with a STD, you could get it from him if you're sleeping together.
Yes, because violence is wrong and you know it damages you to have on your record you have assault. Noone wants an employee with a bad record. Just keep it in mind
ALSO, I hope you broke up. I would have done the same, though I'd gone for the jewels when he fell. No guy is worth a punch, nor tears.
2007-12-12 09:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you in the wrong?
A violent, aggressive response (i.e. being the first aggressor) to a situation is (almost) always wrong. Think about if the roles had been reversed, and he knocked you out for 40 minutes after you told him something disappointing. He'd be labeled a wife beater for life, you'd have sued him for a million bucks, and his name would be splashed on the front of every newspaper in your town.
Were you wrong to be angry? No. Were you wrong to express your anger? No.
Is it a little funny? A little. Did he "get what's coming to him"? Maybe.
2007-12-11 08:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you were wrong otherwise you wouldn't have been carted off to jail and charged with assault. There is absolutely no excuse for the use of violence to settle an argument. What if he never did regain consciousness? What if you had cheated on him and he knocked you out; would you not call the cops too?
YES you were WRONG!
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2007-12-11 08:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by ♪♫Tweedle Dee♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, The law tells you were wrong. Now with that out of the way, if he hit you would it be wrong? That's if you were cheating? Yep, would be wrong too. You may want to go to anger management but there again, I'm sure the judge will make you go along with heavy fines around 2,000 and not to mention the attorney fees- oh, also it'll be on your record.
2007-12-11 08:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be a "good" or "hard" puncher to knock someone out. All it takes is a lucky strike. And if the knockout victim is/was drunk, there's even less pride in knocking him out.
In reality, if he and you were to go toe to toe, he'd put you in the emergency room with the very first few punches.
This is a double standard with women these days. They say they want to be treated EXACTLY like men, yet they think we're not allowed to touch them in a fight. Fairness is fairness. I think of women as completely equal to me, which is why if i were ever to get in a fight with one, i wouldn't hesitate to put her on her ***.
Just sayin.
2013-11-20 17:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally yes you done something wrong. Personally you had every right to be upset. I can just imagine the police station after he left and the jokes that went around. I can't stop laughing myself. Cheerleader huh lol
2007-12-11 08:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by becchumorrison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes wou were wrong. I mean don't get me wrong, he's definitely an asshole for cheating on you and you had all right to dump him, but punching him without him showing any sign of wanting to harm you physically (so not in self-defense) is pretty ridiculous.
Yeah, that was a really dumb thing to do, just make sure you learn from your mistakes.
2007-12-11 08:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by pieninja 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you were wrong in punching him. That is assault. You should never let your angry get to you that way. Violence is never the answer. you were right in asking him though. I would call and apologize if that agrees with the assault charge however.
2007-12-11 08:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by yeahrightlove 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well yes and no. One I am glad you stood up for yourself hopefully you broke up with him to other then knocking him out. But you could have just yelled at him and walked away instead of hitting him. I look at it this way if you would have cheated on him and he found out would you think it was right if he hit you and knocked you out? I don't think so.
2007-12-11 08:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by tonice248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋