My man Wants space?

Question

My boyfriend and I live together for 9 months and have been together for 11 months now. Last week he asked me to move out because he needed his space and needed to do alot of thinking and figure it out what he really wants. He told me that we're not breaking up and that he still wants to see me and hang out with me. He told me that he really loves me and cares about me and that I need to understand his wishes so he could think. I asked him if what he meant of Needing space is a nice way of telling me that were breaking up but he said No. He is not breaking up with me and that he wants to be with me. He just need to figure things out on his own. I do believe that he really loves me and thats why I moved out and stayed at my sister eventhough I didn't wanna move out from his place. I am sad but I hope he will be with me soon. I miss him but i tried not to contact him or text him. Should I ignore if he text me or call me if he wants to see me?

Answer 1

No you shouldn't ignore. Just because things aren't going the way you would like right now doesn't mean that he isn't doing just what he said. I have learned that when a man really loves you, if you give him his space when he asks for it he, more than likely, won't ask for permanent space later. Your patience during this time shows him that you trust him. Don't ignore, but be sure to give him his space. When he calls (and he will) just encourage him, listen to him and offer to help if you can, but don't push yourself or your fears on him right now. He's more than likely doing this because he has fears of his own and it is quiet possible to love someone and be afraid sometimes. In the end this will bring you closer.

Answer 2

First, good job on not calling him, texting him, or (if you are me) stalking him! First, if he really wants his space, don't you think breaking up (as hard as it is) is best for right now? I mean what is he really going to figure out if you move out and still see each other ? Besides the fact that now he can bring home whomever he wants, without consulting you. I believe you that you two are in love, but honestly if you two have been living together for 9 months already, why does he want a break now?! What has changed? Have you two been having problems? I would get to the bottom of that first. Secondly, I would tell him that unfortunately for him you live there too and he doesn't get to send you back to the neighbors at dark. I would kick him to the curb. If he comes back then keep him. Otherwise move on, you are going to have to live with your boyfriend (future husband) at some point... why move backwards? Good luck love.

Answer 3

I think you should be cautious about this. I mean asking you to move out but still wanting to be together is like taking a step way back from the progress the relationship made. And really how do you fix that? So next week he wants you to move back in?? Sounds fishy to me! Just watch your back. Don't jump at every chance he may try to hang out with you. Sounds to me like something else is going on and he just isn't telling you.

Answer 4

Even if he said he wasn't breaking up he is. He just didn't have the guts to say it. If he needed time to think then a weekend away or even a week is more than enough time to straighten everything out. Not kick you out and say he needs to think about it. I'm sorry for being blunt but take it from a guy.....it's over. The only way he would take you back is if he can't get another girl.

Answer 5

2 things. ur man so to speak may be cheating on u.

or he may actually have legit issues he wants to deal with, that go beyond your comprehension or understanding. I don't see a reason to play games with him after u guys have lived together for 9 months. U should really see whats up and talk to him in a really understanding manner, that is if u still care to be w/ him.

Answer 6

he still loves you. do not ignore him, just give him space. i think he is trying to make a very important decision and needs time to figure out what he wants on his own. You should not take the moving out personally, because he does not mean bad by it. In my opinion, i believe that he is going to either make a proposal, or keep things steady for a while longer.

Answer 7

Give him space!!! We men need space! For the good of your relationship, spend some time away. Seriously, we love our women, but we feel smothered sometimes. Even just 2 hours of being home without our women is great. No pants, cereal in front of the tv... Really, everyman needs space. He probably loves you, but he is tempted by his old ways

Answer 8

That is a tough one. Being a guy if i wanted some space i want to see what else is out there. Not all men are the same of course but give him space and let him realize what he is missing. He will realize it and things will get better.

Answer 9

To recharge the batteries and think about relationships. Men are fixers, woman are talkers. Thus the moment a woman says...... anything the man is looking for a fix. To heal the sore, relief the pain, take away the anguish. Some alone time is mandatory, let them and they will return by them self. As time progresses - faster and faster. Peace.

Answer 10

so.. you were living with him.. and he asked you to move out.. but 'not break up' do you get to go over and see him.. does he come over you see you?

if he says that he's not broken up with you then no.. you should respond to his calls and txts.. but i agree with the first person.. it sounds like he might be trying out his new space as a place for him to sow some wild oats and see what else is out there..