Bridesmaid dress Question?

Question

My MOH,which is my little sister(18), and I are having a disagreement about the brisemaid dresses and I have gotten different responses about what to do about it.
This is her choice: http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_bycolor_detail.jsp?stid=2333&sid=7998&cfid=62

and I think its kinda plain, but my sister hates MY choice:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_bycolor_detail.jsp?stid=2795&sid=12901&cfid=62

my dress is rather formal:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=2300&prodgroup=10

so which do you think?

beach themed reception!

Answer 1

With her just being so plain, yours will shine more ;) Ultimately, it is your decision, but remember to pick and choose your battles. You might want to let her pick the dress and you pick the way her hair is styled; or vise versa.

Answer 2

This has to be the nuttiest issue I've ever seen. And I'm not meaning YOU are nutty, or your question is nutty. The entire issue is nutty from brides everywhere. Why on earth do brides come off thinking they can pick out bridesmaids dresses and demand that the girls wear them, whether or not they look good in the dress? I didn't catch it when I got married, and I don't catch it now.

This is your sister! Do you care about how she feels? If you do, then you'll try to find something you both agree on. When people start telling me that I WILL do this and I WON'T do that, I dig my heels in and refuse to budge. When did brides start deciding they could become dictators instead of friends? Something is terribly wrong with the entire picture, and unfortunately you are getting married at a time when the bride thinks the day is ALL about her. I'm actually surprised that some grooms show up for the wedding after the way the bride's been acting.

Personally I know a groom whose bride was being such a pain, that he decided he could play that game as well. The bride had taken the bridesmaids shopping and cut down every dress they tried on. So, the groom decided she would not go tux shopping with him. He chose what he wanted, and when she found out what he chose (her dad had to be fitted), she wasn't happy with the vests he chose. He got a piece of her bridesmaid fabric and sent his mom and another relative to compare it to the vest. When it was obvious the two blended well, he put his foot down and told her it was enough. He was wearing the vest. Not only that, he changed the groomsmens vests to the same color. I actually applauded him for standing up and letting her know she was out of control.

The wedding was lovely and she was in shell shock that other people had opinions.

So, please think about something while you're stewing over my comments. What's more important? The few hours that your sister will wear that dress, or your relationship with your sister? The bride I told you about still hasn't repaired the relationship with her bridesmaids. It's sad because they are all very nice people, but this put a wedge between them that hasn't gone away yet.

Answer 3

Your dress is stunning! You're going to be so glamorous. I think either dress would look just fine. The first one is a little more plain but it's an elegant plain, not bland. Ultimately it's your wedding so your choice but remember, the other girls will be the ones to wear them so maybe you should have them model both and see which looks better on them. All dresses fit differently on different people. Good luck and best wishes on your big day!

Answer 4

Oh boy do I know this story! My sister had her wedding in June of this year and me, being her little sister(who is 18 :D ) got to here about every little argument between the bridesmaids. Finally we all decided that we would all have different types of dresses from the same designer. We got ours from after6.com and I believe it was dessy??

The wedding and dresses turned out to be beautiful. However, it IS your wedding. I wore what I thought to be not the most beautiful dress in the world to her wedding for her, not for me. It was her day, and not mine.

If you are wanting my opinion on the two choices above however, I think they would both be beautiful, but I am going with you on the first one. It looks much more elegant to fit in with your dress. The other one looks a little too prom-like.

Hope I helped!
Congratulations!

Answer 5

First let me say, your wedding dress is beautiful! Second, I do agree with your sister on the bridesmaid dress. The one you picked out is pretty, but will it honestly be flattering on somebody who isn't in great condition? My friend was recently in a wedding and the dresses were very similar, and all of the bridesmaids look very much bigger than they actually are. But overall, it is definitely your choice on what everyone should wear, and if you love that dress, don't let your sister try to change that. She'll have her own wedding to plan and she can pick out whatever dresses she wants. And sorry, last thing, the dress your sister picked out isn't really beachy...

Answer 6

I was going to say that I liked her choice because I thought your choice was too casual to go with the formality of your gown until I read about your beach theme. I do like her choice better, but yours would go with the beach theme.

Go to the bridal salon and try on your dress and have her try on both choices and take pictures standing next to each other. Then go home and decide which looks better next to you. The bridal salon should be accommodating to this request.


***If your budget allows, she could wear her choice (more formal) to the ceremony and your choice (more beachy) to the reception. A friend of mine did this at her sisters wedding. She changed dresses at the reception after the formal dinner prior to dancing. Just another option.

Answer 7

Well seeing as your the Bride it really doesn't matter what we think. It is your choice if your bridesmaids don't like it they don't have to be in the wedding, and if they don't want to be in the wedding because of a dress why would you want them there anyway?

Personally if I were you I'd head down to Davids Bridal and see how the dresses look on, you'll get a better idea of which one you'll like that way.

Answer 8

I feel like her dress works better for your wedding dress because they are both formal. The dress you chose though works better for a beach themed wedding. In the end, it is your choice because you are the bride and your sister needs to accept that. Congrats!

Answer 9

Your dress is formal....the bridesmaids dress you picked out are casual....they don't go.

Plus, they're a little....too little girly. They're cute, but not really sophisticated.

I'd say your sis is right on the money. The A-line cuts will match nicely and your dresses will all look elegant...even with a beach themed reception :)

Congrats!

-kiki

Answer 10

I think it's your wedding you do have the final say. She will have her own some day and will she want you picking her dress' for her? In the end it really doesn't matter what dress you pick, you won't notice what anyone else is wearing when that moment comes you'll just be in your moment with your new husband! Hope everything works out for you and congrats!!

Answer 11

I think I like your dress better. It looks like your dress will have more of a flow of the material, ( movement when she walks) than her choice I also think that your choice is a more classy dress. I think the dress you liek will go along with your wedding dress alot better. I hope this helped. I would also say as a side comment not to be taken as mean or anything but I am getting ready to be married also and I say its your wedding not hers if you like that on better get it becasue you only get married hopefully once. Good luck!!!