Muslim parents?

Question

I understand the logic behind a muslim woman wanting to wear a scarf & wear long modest clothes....however I see lots of pre-pubesant girls dressed this way...I think that is cruel & silly, I dont understand why her parents would do that or even try to impose their religion on her before she can even think properly about life (this goes for other faith's aswell), I mean of course they can raise her with the islamic lifestyle. It should be her own choice when she gets to around 11 years old to what she wants to wear or what she believes..dont you agree ? if not why?

Thanks for your opinions on this :]

Answer 1

yes I agree. I feel sorry for her

Answer 2

In practising families, the wearing of hijab is a gradual process that begins before a girl reaches physical maturity. She practises on dress-up occasions, and then she progressively adds it to her ensemble for masjid occasions until she is so used to wearing it that it is only natural to keep it once she is physically mature.

Practising families will explain not only the Islamic legal perspective on modesty, but also the Islamic philosophical perspective. In this way, the girl understands the reasoning behind the cover and is more inclined to keep it of her own volition.

There are families who do not explain the philosophy behind Islamic modesty, but still force their daughters to cover their heads. Women raised in such families are more likely to rebel and dress else modestly as a rebellion. Others might have had the concept introduced and even explained to them, but were not given more than an expository encouragement to wear the hijab by their families. Some later choose to wear it, but most do not consider it to be a religious requirement, in spite of the fact that it is.

Answer 3

I completely disagree. I believe religion is a very big thing in any persons life, and at an early age of 11 im pretty sure thats too young to make such huge decisions. Parents almost always want the best for their child, so why would they want to let them convert to a relgion they were sure would get them in hell (if god wills it)? But your right when you say that pre-pubesant girls shouldnt be made to wear "a scarf and long modest clothes," because if theyre pre-pubesant then they dont have to in Islam. But i dont think its a bad idea to teach your child from an early age.

Answer 4

I'm not a Muslim but I have raised kids.

The human brain is not fully developed until 30. The last thing to develop are the frontal lobes (reason, abstract thinking, self-control, and morals).

An 11 year old does not have the life experience (even assuming the brain was developed) to make good decisions. It is the job of the parents to keep her safe, protect her from people who would hurt her (even the ones who she thinks are her friends), and teach her to make good decisions (lifestyle, friends, religion, etc) until she has the maturity and experience to make her own.

People in other countried find it cruel that we (Americans)force our kids to be adults before they are ready, which is a lot more unnatural than wearing culturally appropreate clothing.

Answer 5

I have a 2 year old daughter and she love covering she likes to dress like me most parents don't force there young children to cover they just like to imitate their parents my son who is 4 yrs old will cry if her can't find his cofee and loves the izzars and throbes i buy him so don't be fooled not every child is influenced by the media that proper gate fornication and degrades women to sex objects. i'm not some old lady talking either i'm 22 yrs old and i converted at 17

Answer 6

Everyone single person in every single religion does that. Not just Muslims.

They want her to dress modestly because that's what they believe. Personally, I agree with them. With men out in the world who are willing to rape the young, even infants...I would want my daughter to be covered up in un-form fitting clothes so guys wont get the urge to violate her.

But once she turns 18, I'm not in control anymore and she has to make her own choices.

Answer 7

Maybe they want her get used to it.

I feel same way when I see long haired girls who even can't comb there own hairs properly(under 7).

Because you used cruel & silly words in your question: I am not muslim but think It's better to wear scarf than showing breast line (or whatever it's called).

Answer 8

Have you ever seen little girls who wanted to wear makeup, or their mother's shoes? No difference, it's little girls emulating their mothers or the women they look up to.

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Some cultures or especially parents in the west may encourage little girls to start wearing the hijab before they reach the age where girls become self conscious and get embarassed when people tease her about her looks. It makes sense to get them used to the idea of wearing it and to get over that self-esteem hump long before it strikes.

Answer 9

my university has made me so busy lately i dont get to see much news

but its quite intresting for me how the western media tries to find some peice of news about a stupid person and stick the name of islam beside it

and ive reached to this point that its not your fault ... this is just the picture of islam posed into your visions and you western people simply reflect it

you will never be able to understand the power and beauty of islam...

Answer 10

They're not pre-pubescent if they're wearing the hijab... wearing the hijab means you've gotten your period.

And many people of other faiths do the same thing to their children.... it IS cruel to force one's beliefs on a child who clearly wants nothing to do with them.

Answer 11

i think your being a little ethnocentric.