My husband's mom, started having some issues a month ago and found out she had a brain tumor. They removed it last week. We just got the results back that it is milignent, and that it will come back. They have given her 6 months to 1 year. My husband has never dealt with losing someone. All of his grandparents are still alive. He is going through an extremely hard time right now. I know I can't take the pain away, but does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do to make him feel better? He called me from work crying,,,and I just have this huge lump in my throat and want to help or just to let him know I'm here for him. Please-any suggestions welcome. Thank you in advance. God Bless.
2007-12-11 06:43:57 · 6 answers · asked by Love is in the air. . . 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I feel for all of you.
You may consider seeking the help of a Grief Counselor. You did not state if your family is associated with a major religion, but they often have individuals trained in this area. Also, many hospitals offer these services or have contacts for individuals that provide this service.
I pray God sends his angels to look over the family in this time of grief.
2007-12-11 17:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya babe I'm so sorry to hear that. I have been through a similar thing.. my bf's dad was given 3 weeks to live last year and only lived 2 of them. This was only a few weeks into our relationship but it brought us so close. I agree with one of the previous answers.. let him cry.. encourage him to cry and talk and be angry and all the rest.. it is better in the end.
My bf found it hard to express how he felt but wanted his dad to know how he felt so he wrote him a letter saying he loved him and was so proud. His dad really appriciated it too and he was buried with the letter. Getting this emotion out broke my heart as I watched a 25 year old man in a ball crying his eyes out but it's better in the long run.
Give him space, but keep him close. Text him loads just so he knows your there if he is at work. He must know you love him and that will help him so much.. just kinda look after him... try n put his fave programmes on tv if u r at home.. try n give him time away from thinking about it but this is hard. Encourage him to talk about how he feels and grieve together. It took my bf ages to get back to normal... but it brought us together a lot more.
I know you must feel helpless but just reassure him 24/7 your there and you love him. If you want to message me you can.
Bless you... good luck and be strong x x
2007-12-11 12:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some kinds of malignant brain tumors that can respond to various treatments including cranial irradiation.
What specific kind of brain tumor was it and what percentage were they able to remove during surgery? Where was it geographically located in her head? Does she suffer any cognitive or physical deficits post surgery?
These are all interesting questions to evaluate if the battle can be fought and how many months - years she might be able to enjoy.
Obviously there are quality versus quantity of life issues, but some treatments can be tolerated reasonably well.
Now let us look to an example of a Glioblastoma Multiforme, a very aggressive and malignant brain tumor with a not very pleasant prognosis.
Let us look to the current singer songwriter David Bailey. He was diagnosed with a Glioblastoma Muliform grade IV (GBM IV for short) in July 1996. He was given six month You may want to read his story and share it with your husband. http://www.davidmbailey.com/history.cfm
His folk songs are about life and living. http://www.davidmbailey.com/
Look to Lawrence Gonzales for some more insights
http://www.deepsurvival.com/
Then visit this site:
http://www.llangley.com/yoga/wisdom/
God bless and with kind regards,
David Edge
Founder Yahoo parental support group pediatric brain tumors and father of a daughter diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor when she was 12 in Jun 1998. She's almost 22 now.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Pediatricbraintumors
2007-12-12 00:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by David E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be praying for you and your family. It's going to be hard . My husbands Mother pasted on last year Dec.3. It was a heart attack she had. She was in great health and all. But what is the saddest is, my husband was arriving to take her to a routine check up on that Monday. He arrived and she was up and ready. All of a sudden she felt faint and collapsed . He called the EMS Techs and they took her to the hospital
2007-12-11 07:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by dreamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face it head on and fight. There are many cancer trreatments not recconized by our medical system. A good freind of mine began his search for better cancer treatments after his mother die from it. Less than a year later his grandmother was given a few months to live.
He found there are many treatments that may cure, extend life, improve quaility of life, and manage the cancer for years.
His number one reccomendation is to look up the clinics in mexico, one on a beach. Take his mom down for a two week vacation. The treatment will make her sick for 2 -4 days, but who is'nt sick for 2-4days on a 2 week vacation to mexico.
Read up on wormwood and Iron treatments.
Don't just give up, turn that pain into somthing positive. When my freinds grandmother finaly did pass away it was much easer for everyone, they bought her 2 more years with quality and her family around her.
2007-12-11 07:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by cmrwash 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
this is a hard thing for anyone to deal with...your hubby SHOULD be feeling bad, and he should be ALLOWED to feel bad. The best thing you can do for him is let him vent, let him feel bad, support his need to do so. Give him lots of hugs, and support. But don't try to make him feel better, that would be a disservice to him.
2007-12-11 06:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋