I feel so miserable and very very hurt. I have been with a man for the last 6 yrs and from the very beginning I was told he is trash. He has 2 kids from his 1st wife and another kid with an ex gf. He has a really bad rep and no one really respects him or has anything good to say about him. Mind you.. and this is NOT an excuse he is a lot older than me and I guess that I was a bit naive at the time. I dated this man and I truly believed that he really loved me and I cant say that for anyone else I have been with. Ppl say things and do things all the time but I just know this guy did love me for real. Anyway it ended up that he was cheating on me and when i confronted him he made excuses but when he saw i didnt beleive them and his stories did not match he told me he would deal with this matter. He never did bring it up and continued to see her and i found out again. I have since dumped him but have done a lot of thinking. I do love him a lot but i just cant put up with this nonsense.
2007-12-11 05:41:19 · 7 answers · asked by star 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he really does love me and in time realizes what he did.... do you think that love comes back to you? Do you think the person can change their behaviour if they really love? Im wondering if in time he will realize his mistakes and apologize? he has never once apologized or accepted responsibility for what he did
2007-12-11 05:42:36 · update #1
Sweetie, I know it hurts and what I am about to say may sound harsh...but here goes. This man does not love you. If he loved you he wouldn't hurt you this way. Some people are very good at making others believe certain things. Unfortunately I have run across a few of his type before. People can change, but that's not usually the case. Or if they do change it's usually too little too late. Save yourself the heartache. I know it will hurt so bad to let him go and you probably feel torn... but let him go!!! He seems like he is very destructive to your self esteem and self worth. I am sure you are a good person and there is definitely someone better. Trust me I was in a 6 year relationship like this. I wasted all those years thinking, hoping, and wishing he would change...but guess what? He never did. Good luck and keep your head on straight.
2007-12-11 05:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear superstar,
I really feel for you and can understand what you are going through.
You are right not to accept this behaviour any longer and you should stop thinking right now wondering" what if he...".
I have seen so many people around me colapsing, losing their lives because of the" waiting for someone to change or realise some things"
It is not your problem anymore if or when he will realize this.People rarely change.I don't say people don't need second chances,we are human!
This man didn't change after 2 relations with children involved,he couldn't put himself in order then,why would he now?He seems like a total imature person.
Are you willing to lose your life,waiting for something that most propably never will come?
I don't know your age,but the longer you stick to the idea of this man,the less chances you will get to find a true loving man with whom you might start a family on your own! Don't waist your life any longer,I believe 6 years is long enough!
Take care,
Alex( mother of 2, separated from husband after 17 years of mental obuse)
2007-12-11 05:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by ALEXANDRA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a person can change himself. lt is his choice and not yours. You have your own life to live. Happiness is not dependent on other people. Happiness is found within ourselves. He is not in love with you anymore. You have to realize and accept that things happen for a reason. lt is time to move on and look after yourself. No need to long for him. You deserve a better life.
2007-12-11 05:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True, he may come back to you, but don't expect him to treat you any differently. I don't think this man is capable of giving you the love you deserve. I understand you love him, but it isn't like he will POOF and just change into the respectable, loving and considerate man you wish for him to be. People don't change just like that, even if it is obvious to them how much they hurt you.
2007-12-11 05:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suprstar...
I need you to THINK on the following points:
1) People will not rise to your level, but they will pull you down to theirs.
2) WHY...WHY...do you want to get into the habit of taking a $hit and then stepping back in it?
Think...think...think!
Sincerely,
The MIDDLEFINGER
2007-12-11 05:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regarding your subject line, yes. Love can fade or end more abruptly. Why couldn't it? Things that have beginnings typically have endings...even emotions...even love.
2007-12-11 05:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i allow a man to make some mistakes,but if he keep making the same mistake, something is wrong. if you love some one, truly love some one, you dedicate yourself to that person.
2007-12-11 05:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋