i am 14 and i am in love with an 18 year old what should i do?

Answer 1

if he loves you back ..then wats da problem...its not illegal to be with them.....just to have sex....but make sure he luvs you and hes not just trying to take advantage of you because ur young........make him wait until u and he is sure before doing anything you might regret....hope dat helps

Answer 2

If you are 14, you are not in love. It is so easy for young people to develop feelings for other young people that seem so strong and true, but you need more life experience before you can truly know what it is you are looking for in a person. Trust me, love takes a lot more time and patience. If he is 18, he has no business being with a 14 year old. Honestly, what you should do is be patient and not fall into a relationship with someone that much older than you. 4 years may not seem like such a big deal if you were 20 and 24 years old, but you and him at this point in your young lives are on damn near different planets in maturity and mentally. You both need to grow up and mature a lot more. Don't worry so much about boys right now, they are nothing but a mess of problems, especially 18 year olds! You will learn that as you get older, but for now take the advice of people who are older than you who know a thing or two. Concentrate on school and having fun as a kid. As always, PROTECT YOURSELF. be smart, and be safe.

Answer 3

I was in the same situation when I was 14 and that was not so long ago, so I can relate (only 11 years ago!).

Honey, I know you want to think that he is different, or that you are different/more mature, but the truth of the matter is: yes he IS only after sex, and only sex. Period.

I can't tell you what, or what not to, do, but I really, really have to say that you need to get out of that now. You have no idea the dangers you might be in, and not precisely because of him, but what about his friends?

An 18-year old guy who's hanging around a 14-year old girl is NOT well intentioned, I don't care if he's a 7-Day Adventist! If for any reason you are convincing yourself that this is a great lovely story, please, please, please, wake up now. Believe me when I say: You will only end up hurting yourself.

I'm really telling it like it is, and I'm sorry if it's harsh, but at the age you're in you have no idea what goes on through those young men's minds.

Please take care of yourself, and I'm sure there's plenty of 14-15 year old guys who would be interested in you for the right reasons.

Good Luck :)

Answer 4

When I was 14 I was dating a 20 year old, and i honestly don't care what anyone has to say about it.lol. Do what you want to do hunn, you can't stop your heart from loving someone and you can't change the way you feel, if you love him that much then don't let him go! 14 is the legal age for dating now! they can't do anything about you dating a 18 year old, he won't go to jail for anything don't worry! And YES you CAN be in love when your 14! It doesn't matter if your 14, 18, 30 or 65..your still a human and you still have feelings! Your growing in a way no matter how old you are!

Answer 5

Its cliche, but you are not in love, you are infatuated. This guy fills an empty space in you that your family and friends cannot. You should leave him alone. If not, you will get rejected immediately, or later get your heart broken beyond comprehension. If it works out, you will naturally have sex, and possibly later regret. You are unlikely to have readily available birth control, and this 18 year old will coax you into unprotected sex, which can give you permanent STD's or pregnancy. Live you teenage years, and do not worry about sex. Pleasure yourself, like the other boys your age do, eventually the time will be right and you wont have to ask, you will know.

Answer 6

ask the boy out, when your old enough so he wont be charged for rape because your a minor. a four year difference is alright when you reach 18 to date. but when your like 13, 14, 15, you have to take in consideration of the law. you don't want him in jail for dating a minor. try dating someone two years older than you.

Answer 7

Nothing, if you really love him you wont want to risk putting him in prison or giving him the reputation of pedophile....i know it seems sucky but you will just have to wait it out. You are only 14 and lots of things can change very fast. I know it doesn't seem that way now but in a few years you will see.
Good luck and enjoy being young

Answer 8

What should you do? You should pay more attention in class, hit the books, and make good grades.

At 14 you are too young for a boyfriend.

At 14 you are what is known as jail-bait. SOOO, if this young man has any sense, he'll see you - and treat you - as the child you still are.

Answer 9

put your feelings on hold for 4 years, or get over him FAST, since it's kind of illegal for you to be dating since some states have laws about 18 year olds dating underaged people

Answer 10

Well age is nothing when you get older. But now there is laws against that. But if you dont do anything with him and it is ok with you parents you sould be ok. And if your parents do care thenif he loves you to he will wait till you are old enough and if not he is not worth your time.

Answer 11

first off you are only 14 you cant be inlove. second off if you so much as kiss him he can go to jail. so dont even think about it. and another thing. date someone your own age. and it is against the law to date someone that much older than you if you are under the age of 15.