PLEASE HELP! wedding EMERGENCY?

Question

Shew..Okay here it goes.

My wedding was planned for Nov. 2008
now, because of reasons such as: illnesses and wanting certain family members to be there (great grandmothers)
Our families are encouraging us to bump up the wedding to this April!!!! This means i would have 4 MONTHS to pull everything together!

Which means starting from scratch with the colors, food, dresses, EVERYTHING!!!

I just want to know, is it possible to do this?? If so, how should i go about getting everything together in such a quick time!?!?!?!?

ANY i mean ANY suggestions for colors, cake , dresses, food is GREATLEY APRECIATED !!!!!!! links to sites would rock also!!

Answer 1

I have an idea. Get off of YA and get to work. 4 months is plenty of time.

Answer 2

Delegate. Those family members who are pressing you to bump up your wedding had better STEP UP to the plate and help.


Set the budget - add 20% for anything that might be rush-ordered. - and those who insist you reschedule - pony up the extra $$.
Get the guest list in shape.
Set the date
Buy your dress - NOW - before Christmas
Order the cake
Schedule the church and reception hall
Note: if you want an outside wedding - be sure there is a rain-plan - such as a big tent...
Schedule the DJ
Schedule the Preacher

Colors - whatever you like - even jewel tones look good in the spring - just look at spring flowers and how bright they are

Food - I'd stick with a buffet instead of a sit-down dinner -

Consider an afternoon - or late morning wedding - GreatGrandma would appreciate being able to go to bed at her normal bedtime - and those who may be ill would too.

Call in all the favors you have coming

Answer 3

FIrst make sure you want to move it becuase it is what you want. Don't allow anyone to pressure you.

If you decide it is what you want, remember that you are doing it so the imporant people in your life can be a part of that, and the little details won't matter.

I work for an upscale private country club and we can put a wedding together in just a matter of weeks. Remember when you are planning you do most of it in the first two months and then the rest doesn't get done until the month before, so you will be fine.

April is a great time for a wedding, think spring and new beginnings the perfect theme for a wedding. Colors are soft light greens, yellows, pinks etc. I saw a beautiful wedding done in a light green and chocolate and it was stunning.

You can almost do anything for flowers becuase of the time of year and it won't take a big hit on your budget.

Most of all remember again it is your day, do whatever the heck you want.

Have fun!

Answer 4

Totally okay to be a little frazzled, but you have to let it out and then relax.

It's absolutely do-able!

I think you can use your same ideas, because in April, you can basically use any colors you want and it will still look great. With regards to food, that may have to be changed because of the season, but don't worry because your caterer or whomever handles your food, will know exactly what to do and they should be able to put all you worries at ease.

Your family will also be willing to help you alot with getting things done faster. You can also check out: www.theknot.com
www.herecomestheguide.com
www.brides.com

Sometimes they have good articles regarding situations such as this. Just remember this is for a good thing, your marriage! Your family just wants everyone to be apart of it. So don't worry, everything will turn out great!!

Also if you can afford too, hire a wedding planner since they know certain vendors who can put weddings together in week, let alone months.

Answer 5

BREATHE!

Ask the mothers and any sisters or sisters-in-law if they are willing to take responsibility for some of the work. If so, then move the date up. You can't be a micro-manager and pull this off. You might have to come up with a general idea, and let some one else do some leg work.

For example:
1) Someone can compare prices for items you'll need (such as wedding bubbles, bridesmaids gifts, cake knife and server sets, etc). If someone will make a list of prices from various places, it will save you a tremendous amount of time.
2) Will someone call caterers for you, and get sample menus and information packages gathered up?
3) Will someone be responsible for making favors (IF you want them)
4) Will someone work on gathering other things that you need? (tableclothes, linens, etc.)
5) BIG ONE: Will someone be responsible for going to after Christmas clearance sales and finding good deals on plain white candles and tiny white lights for decorations? Will she look for pearl style garland, magnolia garland, or anything else you might be able to use for decorations. After Christmas you will find it at a fraction of the cost you will have to pay in April if you shop at wedding vendors.

If the ladies will agree to help, then you can talk to each of them frequently via phone or email and get the information when they have anything they need to tell you. With all the time saved, you'll be able to do this.....and they will all feel like they are a part of the planning. I'd say it would work.

Answer 6

Hi and congratulations!

Four months is plenty of time....REALLY!

~ Obviously, the first thing is to secure a venue for both the ceremony and the reception. Will it be the same place as you planned when you were going to have a November wedding? Do you already have deposits down on a banquet facility and the date can just be moved?

I don't see why you have to go and change so many things....just the date!

~ So...if you didn't have any deposits down, and you don't have a venue...then get busy on the venue first.

~ Colors? April is spring...so any of the light colors....light blue, very light green, yellow, pink....or really ANY color that you like! You DON'T have to match the seasons, although many brides tend to go with lighter colors for spring and summer and darker for fall and winter...but you can do as you wish. My daughter-in-law had chocolate brown for an August wedding...cuz it matched her gown better....anything goes!

~ Dresses: Again, you can have whatever style you wanted for the November wedding.....the style can be the same.

Just start all your planning now by
~ securing the venue for the ceremony & reception
~ book a DJ (if having one)
~ book a photographer
~ Pick out dresses
Go on from there with invites, cake, decorations, etc.

Good luck!

Answer 7

It sounds like the 2 of you have already agreed to this crazy plan! Personally I think it's nuts to rearrange everything so drastically to please other people but I'm sure I don't know all the details. If I HAVE to change the date, then I would move it AHEAD, not back.

If you're determined to make it April to please everyone, then you will need to get cracking and fast! Sit down, make a list of all the things you need to do and put them into large categories like:

music
food
venue
clothing (male/female)
flowers
photography

Then, under each category figure out what you can use and what you can't that you've already purchased. Hopefully you won't have to scrap EVERYTHING. For an April wedding, most brides go with very spring feeling colors such as pastels or bright colors but that's a personal choice. The fastest way to get dresses is going to be to either 1) find out of season bridesmaids dresses on sale at a bridal store and PRAY they have all the sizes you need, OR 2) go online and find dresses that way. You may not be able to find "traditional" bridesmaids dresses but alot of dresses out there look so nice and look so similar that you'd be fine using those. Here's a link to a dress that would work:

http://www.overstock.com/Clothing/Max-Cleo-Maxi-Length-Knit-Dress/2646458/product.html

These are cute too:
http://www.overstock.com//Max-Cleo-Faux-Wrap-Self-Belt-Dress/2646436/product.html

If you've already booked a florist, talk to him or her and see if they can possibly do the wedding in April. If they can't, you may end up losing any deposit you made. :( You'll need to find another florist quick in that case. If you can't find one, you can get your girlfriends together to put bouquets together. Farmer's markets are great places to find beautiful fresh flowers.

You can find most decorations online so that shouldn't be a problem.

Goodluck and feel free to email me directly if you'd like help or any more suggestions.

Answer 8

My sister got engaged at the end of September, her wedding is at the end of January, she's planned it all in that time frame.

Make a list, and start working. First things to nail down are locations. Then start hiring your professionals, caterers and photographers book up fast, so get those next.

And you don't have to start from scratch here, if you've already selected dresses, food, venues, etc., what I'd do is see if you can move the date.

You've got plenty of time here, but not much to waste. However, you need to quit panicking here, this is NOT an emergency. An emergency would be your caterer calls you the day before your wedding, and cancels, or your recpetion location floods the night before the wedding. You've got time to get it fixed, so just do it.

Answer 9

You can use the same food, why must you change the food. Keep the style of the dresses, change the color, or keep the colors. What colors where you using to start with? If you want to change colors, go with a champagne color and do bright colored flowers (Spring is a great time). The food I would keep the same unless I was serving soup and Hot chocolate then I would change it to sandwiches and punch. Don't sweat it, you have time. I planned my wedding in 6 weeks. Just make a list of things you can keep the same and things you have to change. Then go from there, do one at a time and cross them off. Good Luck and Congrats!

Answer 10

First of all, calm down! This can be done. You can use the same dress, colors, cake, etc that you were going to use for Nov. You may have to change the reception site if it is booked for April. I would hire a wedding planner to help you pull this off in a short amount of time. Also, www.theknot.com has ideas on how to help you pull everything together.

Answer 11

YES it can be done! I graduated high school with a girl who threw together a beautiful and actually quite big wedding in 3 weeks when she found out her fiance was being shipped to Iraq. Your not gonna be able to do a lot of special order stuff, and you need to set a time table and STICK to it, but it can be done. I PROMISE! :)

As far as your colors and whatnot, this is a website that has links to TONS of floral sites you can look at and get color ideas and maybe some dress ideas too! GOOD LUCK! Now get off answers and get to work!