weve been friends for almost a year now and in that year weve became very close. i think i might even be in love with him. He has only had one girlfriend in his life and all his friends tell me he likes me but he hasnt ask me out yet and i think its because hes scared i dont no what to do i want to be his girlfriend so bad. he knows i like him ive made that clear. i just dont no what to do im tired of waiting for him to be ready do i tell him to grow sum ba*ls and ask me out or hes gonna lose me or just let him go. i cant be just friends with him any more i want something more please help how do i get him to ask me out? im positive he likes me. i just dont no what his deal is. please help.
2007-12-11 04:25:04 · 39 answers · asked by lettingyougo5013 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What age are u and this guy?
If you've grown close and u want more than friendship its time to take the next step..you could ask him out???
or
Just put him on the spot and see if you can get him to ask you?
Thing about these things are if you two Do hook up and it doesnt work out..goodbye friendship probably.
At the same time there already is a new sexual dynamic to your relationship so its not a standard platonic friendship.
Either he's afraid to ruin things by asking you out, or, he's getting what he wants withoput having to committ..
Whatever it is its not working for you so you have to bring it to the next level
good luck
2007-12-11 04:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does that have to do with just sex? He's probably scared because he's inexperienced at asking or been rejected so many times before, even though he's only had one girlfriend.
Having the other girl as the first girlfriend is a big impact on his life. He could still be dwelling in that as well.
Here's a sneaky and simple way to see how he'd react and get his mind on you. Take him someplace or just walk around, conversating. All of a sudden, kiss him real quick on the lips. Then apologize and say you shouldn't have done that but keep looking him in the eyes and holding his hand. That'll get his mind on you for sure and make him ponder what to do next. But always touch him when you talk to him before that kiss, getting close, holding his hand, etc. More than likely, he won't reject you. If he still doesn't get any confidence at this point, then you have a LONG way to go other than just telling him straight up. (Sometimes it's best to do that. In this day and age, girls can be the initiators as well.)
Good luck!
2007-12-11 04:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by =Q= 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him "I can't fight this feeling" by REO speedwagon and see if he gets the hint.
Maybe he does need to grow a pair, but let's give him the benefit of the doubt and believe that he doesn't want to screw up the friendship, doesn't think you see him that way, or the timing was bad (you were dating someone when he decided he liked you or something). The truth is that it is very hard to break out of that freindship and move it into a relationship without someone putting themselves out there. It is incredibly hard to do. Last time I told a friend that I liked her, I was feeling dread and regret as the words started coming out of my mouth--I can't imagine how easy it would have been to talk myself out of telling her if I had planned/obsessed about it a while. It is a really tough thing for him (or you) to do.
If all his friends say he likes you, you should give him a very clear signal/message or ask him for a date. Do not go straight for a makeout, especially if you are drunk--you don't want to wake up and think it is a mistake. I think if you tell him, "how can I be so blind--looking everywhere for a good man when I have a friend like you who is what I really need."
Make it sound like you finally realized you two should be together.
2007-12-11 04:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like is different from love. When you said "I'm positive he likes me." then no need or you to ask whether he loves you or not because you already answered your question. If the guy really likes you so much, he will find way to say it to you, you don't even need to ask him. And when you said "i can't be just friends with him anymore, i want something more..." it means you want to have an intimate relationship with him, and this relationship automatically carries with it the sex factor. so there's no need again to ask whether it is just sex he wants to you because it is obvious that its YOU who wanted it and not him because upto this moment he had not yet made the first step which is courting you. So, i will just advised you to wait, if it destined you and him to be together then it will be rewarded by god to you in the right time.
2007-12-11 04:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by lonely_fly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 How old are you?! That has a huge bearing on the type of answers you are going to get.
#2 You already had sex with him, eh!? I'm a guy and as a guy, I can tell you that often, if we have already gotten the milk, we won't buy the cow! Sorry to be the one to break it to you!
You could "test" him. Back off from his "field of view" for a few days. Be "busy" every time he calls. He may come running for you!! There's one more thing you can be sure of; we always want what we (seemingly!) can't have!!
Good luck!
2007-12-11 04:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand ... when did he get the nerve up to have sex with you but not to ask you to be his girlfriend?
If you are so positive he likes you than ask him out! There is NOTHING wrong with a woman asking a man out on a date and if you like him so bad than do it! Otherwise you run the risk of letting it go too ... so take the chance and see where it leads!
2007-12-11 04:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before making a response we need to know your age. If he's kind of shy then he must be too young. Don't rush anything. Your making a rude comment to him like that will do one of two things, either make him rum away from you, or make him frustrated and try to take advantage of you...neither is a good thing so never do ultimatums. He will come your way when he's ready, and if he's not ready for too long a time then he's not for you. When women get pushy then they get used and it will never be a love relationship.
2007-12-11 04:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should probably just ask him what the dealio is I mean yes theres a certain amount of time you can wait but you dont have a life time. But if you really love him then wait it wouldnt hurt you that much belive me I waited for my man almost two years and now Im happier than ever!
2007-12-11 04:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what an odd opening line. have you actually had sex? if youve been friends so long you should be able to talk to him. maybe hes shy, maybe youve not made it as clear as you think you have that you like him? blokes are incredibly thick skinned and generally dont notice whats right under their noses till its spelt out very slowly for them!!
best thing is to have a chat and get it sorted out, then youll both know where you stand.
2007-12-11 04:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by twinkly_toes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in the same boat i waited for the guy for 2 yrs and he nvr asked me out
i no thats way too long
but i had guys in between
anyway
i suggest you ask ur friends to go up to him and talk to him about it cause by u going up to him and giving him an altamadem ur gonna be screwed
u gotta decide whats more imprtant an amazing frienship or a relatinoship that will end and make thnigs even more awkward
2007-12-11 04:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋