2007-12-11 03:26:02 · 17 answers · asked by sandy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Talk to the teacher and make it clear that if she doesn't take care of it, you will.
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2007-12-11 10:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Faceless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd do a combination of the two (if your daughter is really shy, she could go into a meeting with you and her teacher). Then I'd have the bullying student pulled aside and talked to "in private" with your daughter -- only you and dad are out of sight, but close by in case things get too much for her to handle.
If it doesn't stop, do what I did -- my then-9-year old, my then-16-year old and I went to the teacher and told her what was going on. The kids all saw big brother standing in back of their classmate. He didn't look pleased (big brother). The teasing stopped.
Remember these words: zero-tolerance policy, which is now the rule rather than the exception. Ask the school principal to have the bullying student's family looked at for possible reasons as to why the child is bullying. It could be that there is a situation in which the child has no control and is trying to take control back by bullying.
2007-12-11 04:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by confidentgal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe it depends on the emotional ability of your child and only you and your husband know her best.
No matter what age your daughter is, I would encourage her to say to the person/s who are bullying her "you can't treat me like this" and to have her walk away. But as her parents, if this alone does not make it go away, you need to bring it to the attention of the school and/or the parent of the child/ren doing the tormenting.
If your daughter is incredibly insecure and you can forsee it being too difficult for her to confront the person, perhaps you can have her alert the teacher along with you so that she is taking some sort of responsibility for reporting the negative way she is being treated.
Bullying is not appropriate and can also be an indication that something is not right at the home of the person who is bullying. By reporting it, you are helping two children, your daughter and the child who is bullying her!
On a side note, I might approach the teacher first and then the principle as many teachers tend to feel overstepped if a parent goes to the principle befpre coming to them as they are with your child all day and often during recess (during elementary school years), but if it is a middle school/high school setting I might go straight to the principle as your daughter likely has more than one teacher a day.
2007-12-11 03:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell the teacher, the principal, the bus driver if necessary- everyone. Also, make sure the playground and lunchroom monitors are aware as well as the Art, Gym, Music, etc. teachers. No one should be bullied. No one should get away with being a bully. School should be a safe place for a child to relax and learn. It's not your daughter's job to protect herself- it's your job to protect your daughter. Good luck.
2007-12-11 03:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by keshequa87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would discuss with the principle. Discipline is handled typically more by the principle than the teacher. Not to mention the principle doesn't have to be in a specific class at a specific time and is free to move about the school and keep an eye on problem students / situations.
Your child will need to learn to deal with bullies as part of life's lessons, but one of those lessons should be to call for help when you need it.
2007-12-11 03:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by Damocles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is she being bullied??
ok I was bullied as a kid so I dont know where to start BUT it isnt the schools fault - sure they might see some of it.. but they truely cannot fix the problem 100%... some of it is in her own hands although I suspect she will not be able to stop it..
how old is she?
the kids who bully are usually victims at home or they see domestic violence and are acting out... often the kids who are bullied are victims at home too in some ways so why doesnt your daughter have higher self esteme???
(for me it was because I was oldest of 4 kids and never felt loved so I was shy) plus i was put in school 1 year too soon, I was youngest in the class.. I should have been held back a year.
kids who bully enjoy seeing the reaction of the victum that is their reward but its simply impossible how to teach your kid how to ignore it once the pattern has formed...
so ya talk to the teacher but dont think it will end there.. build up your daughters self confidence.. give her something good in her life .. teach her how to be resilliant and not be bothered.. if she can get bullied and be like "huh? that so stupid" rather than like "waaaaaaaa you are so mean" then it will end...
2007-12-11 04:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that your husband is entirely wrong. To some extent, your daughter does need to handle this. But I do think that you should also talk to the teacher about it. Most schools now have a zero tolerance policy for bullying. The teacher needs to be aware of it and needs to try to prevent situations where bullying can occur. But I do think that your daughter also needs to learn to stand up for herself. If she allows the bully to push her around, it will only get worse.
2007-12-11 03:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No child should be bullied in any way at school. Go in and talk with the principal and her teachers.
2007-12-11 03:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 21:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by weatherby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO SOMEONE i was bullies, first it wasnt bad but within a month i got some teeth knocked out. i started skipping my classed and failing. i look back on that first half of the year as being the worst part of my life so far but thankfully my mum talked to my principal and when he talked to the kid he didnt say it was my parents that told him, he said "a number of witnesses came to me" ps i am 15 and that happened when i was 12
2007-12-11 14:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The school should have a no bullying policy. It's very popular now in schools.
Also in my niece's elementary school, they have student conflict managers, so if there are problems between students, they can be worked out non violently.
Don't let it go. Bullying starts in elementary but continues throughout the school years. The quicker kids learn they can't bully, the better.
If nothing else, get her into karate so she can defend herself. Don't let her be a victim!!
2007-12-11 05:40:13 · answer #11 · answered by serene e 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋