don't girl lose attraction for guys they can tame?

Question

ok girls b honest thats what u all want is a guy that u can pretty much i would like to say controll but when u do dont u start loosing attrcation for him b/c he's no longer being his own man? or is this theory of mine wrong? thanks and i dont mean to insult anyone...thanks

Answer 1

Tame like a pet?!?!?! Hell to the NO! I like a guy that challenges me and has his own opinions.

Answer 2

Having been married for 30 years, I thought I might qualify to answer this, from a woman's point of view. When I first met my husband, all I was looking for in a man, was a man that would keep his promises and stay with me for the rest of my life. Not a huge dream, but one I think is very important in a relationship. I didn't want to change him, but he did change. He changed because he wanted to, not because I nagged him. He still smokes, but has quit drinking. Even though he knows I'd like him to quit, he can't. I don't nag him about it. I've never lost my attraction for him, and in fact, my love for him has grown over the years. While I do tend to be strong willed and opinionated, I've learned that I need to give him space to be who he is and never expect more from him than he willingly wants to give. I never set out to control him, but I do guide him and make suggestions, when needed. If I don't get my way, I don't make a big deal about it. He knows what bugs me, and I know what bugs him, and we generally don't butt heads about things that we know set each other off. I've never looked at him as a challenge, a project, or a person to force my will on. He changed because he grew up. He learned that some things were worth letting go. As far as your theory goes, it might be true for some relationships that you've encountered, but not true for a good majority. If you asked my husband who controls him, he'd say just him and God. When he wants my opinion, he asks for it. Do I give it to him unsolicited? Yes, but I ask him if he wants my opinion first. If he doesn't, I stay silent. Usually, he'll ask me later, curiosity getting the best of him. In many ways, he's still a little boy...but that's fine with me. I love him the way he is. <*)))><

Answer 3

Now let me think ?? cause I might be getting on a bit but still remember ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh yes I remember.Yes you are right, but that's only because you don't understand a female.

The male may control the female if she wants him to control , but the female can change her mind at any time without telling the male.
When in control the male must remain calm at all times,unless the female wants him to be angry or upset.
But the female has every right to be angry and upset at any time, when the male takes control.
But the female must under no circumstances let the male know when she wants him to control.
The male is expected to mind read at all times.
If the female has p m t SHE and SHE alone has total control.
The female is in control when she wants to be.
A male must be in control at all times without the female knowing he is in control.
Now do you understand when you do your be just fine.

Answer 4

absolutely wrong! That's like the most immature way of looking at a relationship that I've seen. Once a man and a woman really get to know each other.... everything about each other, ( which can take years)... they have a more close, fulfilling relationship, than you can imagine. To conquer and move on? What's the point?!

Answer 5

Dude nice guys are just not honest with their desires to sex a bytch. Nice guys pretend they want to start out as friends, but girls know every guy wants to "tap that". Nice guys pretend as though that is something they don't want. Nice guys are liars. Good guys a.k.a. bad boys tell the truth, they want to "tap that" and bytches love their honesty.

Answer 6

It's called being ***** whipped. I would love to be able to find a guy that would let me make the rules for a change. I seem to find the ones that are always up to something and aren't good for me and don't want to be "tamed".

Answer 7

hey, i get what you're saying. Girls only like a challenge right? well not necessarily, some girls will like the fact that he's willing to change for them while others tend to like the "bad boy" but i prefer men who don't need to be controlled....totally not cool that your girl has to keep you on a leash..kinda gets old and sad

Answer 8

I don't think women want to "control"; I think they want to be ensured that their man isn't going to stray. I would lose attraction for someone if he did everything I wanted all the time, sure. That would mean he's not making his own decisions.

Answer 9

i hate a guy i can "tame." i need someone who isn't afraid to butt heads with me, and even enjoys it. someone who understands that i have my own opinions and knows i'm okay with him having his own, too.

my current boyfriend is definitely not a strong enough personality for me. i need someone more stubborn than i am, and he's definitely the kind that gives in when he really wants to do something else. no respect for that at all.

Answer 10

My hubby changed quite a bit once we got together - wild guys tend to calm down a bit - I wouldn't use the word "tamed" really, but maybe "domesticated" :) - once they find the right woman...

I love him more than ever.