ok..i met this guy on hi5 ...he contacted me to say he likes me...so we met up on sunday and watched a movie. he's very nice guy very polite, ifelt quite comfortable around him... he will always make nice comments about me,that im beautiful and such. it felt so right because a 2 weeks ago i was rejected by my best friend because i said i had feelings for him.
......Anyways, now i feel like i don't wanna be with this guy, i've been ignoring his phone calls and i don't know if im just being weird or .....?
please tell me
2007-12-11 03:04:24 · 16 answers · asked by linetta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RE-BOUND.
You're not interested in him because you're still upset about being rejected by your other guy. You're not being fair on him, have the guts to tell him that you circumstances have changed and put the poor guy out of his misery. You wouldn't like it if he did the same to you.
2007-12-11 03:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut instinct. The "newness" and flattery from the Hi5 guy was nice for a while - but face it - if it's not there - it's not there - there's no reason to push it or anything - it would be easy to tell you to just say goodbye to the Hi5 guy but i know it's not that easy..especially for us that have a hard time saying no cause we don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
You are not being wierd. If you don't like him, you don't like him! You don't have to like him! Just let it go..it'll become part of you're past and in fifty years you probably won't remember him until your kids want to date someone they met on Hi500 or something...
And about the best friend/feeling thing...that's tough. sigh. happens all the time..young and old...think the "feeling" thing ruins a lot of otherwise good friendships though...i've had a couple of male friends that were truly my best friends..then as soon as the "i have feelings for you" thing comes out it puts damper on things and I don't feel as comfortable with them. but i guess, if tables be turned, if i did have feelings for them it would be good they told me. although, if the feelings were mutual for each other, you would think that in time both parties would give in at some mutual moment...gazing into each others eyes...but I KNOW i've had male friends in the past (younger years) and I've told THEM i had more than friend feelings - and it usually resulted in disappointment. Can't remember who though - just remember it happening...
anyhow - good luck - say good bye to hi5 - follow your instinct --
2007-12-11 04:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by momosix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're just frustrated being rejected
No one can tell you what to do, but you have to decide what's best for yourself. Either carry on with this new nice guy or made it clear to him and let him go.
As a guy myself, I would say that being in his position, being ignore by you, is something very unfair. It could be hurting him right now.
2007-12-11 03:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by Hornet One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you probably still have feelings for your best friend. This thing with the other guy just seems like a rebound relationship. Maybe your jumping into things too soon.
2007-12-11 03:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are afraid to get burned again. If you like this guy and he seems to feel the same way just give him a chance. Yes you can get hurt again but that is life.
2007-12-11 03:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by Iris R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your weird, perhaps it was just the thrill of the chase that was keeping u interested? Don't worry bout it, just wait until someone u really like comes along and it will all fall into place!
2007-12-11 03:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you're spending too much time with him? Maybe that's weirding you out. But don't ignore his calls, that's cruel and immature. you have to tell him something!
2007-12-11 03:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your growing a little bored with his companionship.
Is he seeing you too often? Not giving you any peace?
Try seeing him less often...to see if that helps...
If your feelings dont change after a while, your better off letting him go....Good luck!
2007-12-11 03:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would just keep seeing him and be like oh we should just be friends and then just see how things go.... if you dont feel anything in a couple weeks just be like sorry i don't think i feel the same about you as you do me
2007-12-11 03:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're looking to other people to create (or destroy) your feelings of self esteem. It won't work. Your feelings come from within you so work on yourself.
2007-12-11 03:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋