another. Problem is i'm afraid to tell my parents about him, and I've been keeping "us" a secret this whole time.And I stay the night at his house atleast 2 nights a week. I'm afraid they wouldnt approve of the age difference. HELP.It's hard to just let go and not worry about what others think.
2007-12-11 03:03:16 · 19 answers · asked by MissTL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would kill a 41 year old dating my 23 year old daughter, or just beat him up really bad and pay the consequences!!!!! Make him sorry he was born 18 years before my girl!!!!
Think about how sexy he'll be at 61 when you're still just 43.
2007-12-11 03:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Vivena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, really how far do you think this will go? Is it something that you are totally comitted to? Have you thought about things in the long run? Like kids, future, between you too? It is a rather large age difference. Has he told anyone he's close to? Do your friends know? 8 months is still sometimes the infatuation phase depending on the quality of time you guys actually spend together. I would really think about what you guys have in common and what your future is with him. And if you are still worried about what mom and dad think, then you aren't serious enough with this guy to tell them.
2007-12-11 03:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried about what others think of this relationship, then it's not the right relationship for you.
One thing to ask yourself: What do you two really have in common? You're from 2 different generations. 40-something-year-olds typically don't want to do the same kinds of things 20-something-year-olds do.
My biggest concern about the age difference isn't really the age difference itself, but "what is wrong with this man that nobody his own age wants to be with him?"
---
I've been in a similar situation before. (I was 15 and dated a guy that was 24. Didn't see anything wrong with it at the time. Now that *I'm* 24, I would think someone my age dating someone that much younger to be a loser that nobody their own age wants to be around. Harsh, but true.)
Also, a friend of mine was also recently in this situation. She was 22 and the man was 37. She was crazy about him, but soon found out that he was dating younger woman because he had issues that woman his own age wouldn't put up with. He was immature, could not make any commitments, etc.
Try to take the rose-colored glasses off and reevaluate both him and your relationship. It may work out and you two may actually be perfect for each other. Or you may see things that you chose not to see before and realize that it's not the best relationship for you..
2007-12-11 03:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by abbyful 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO, that seems considerate on your section...... and in case you been seeing him for 3 month's and have not made an argument over assembly his little ones, then you certainly particularly are no longer being pushy..... by potential of now, maximum females could be questioning what the situation exchange into, with him no longer wanting you to fulfill the youngsters...... the two the youngsters are wild and unruly which will make you think of two times or he thinks there something with you and does not want the youngsters to fulfill you.....
2016-10-11 01:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
^ (lol @ Taylor Hicks comment)
Anyway, it's understandable that they would be concerned. First you want to make sure whether you're really serious about this guy. And before your risk your parents getting angry, make sure he's not in another relationship (i.e. married) or have any secret kids you don't know about (I know it sounds absurd... but better to be paranoid than ignorant).
Do you see this going anywhere in the long run? Is he the guy you see yourself marrying and growing old with? Think of the long-run questions before you decide to stay with him and bring your relationship out to the public. If you're answered no, than he's not the right guy..
2007-12-11 03:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by fr33dom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think you should keep a secret like that from your parents. It's ok if they don't approve, but they should understand that it's your life, and if its YOUR LIFE, you should be able to do whatever you want, even if you were dating a 86 year old guy.
(I hope not!) :P
But, like I said, you shouldn't keep a secret from your parents. They deserve to know. And don't worry about what others think. If you love him, you love him. And they should understand it from your point of view. And what does it matter anyway?
2007-12-11 03:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by Brianna H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are mature enough to carry out a real relationship with this person and you should be mature enough to sit down with your parents and talk to them.
Sit them down and explain that you are not asking their opinion on the relationship but that you wanted to keep them in the loop. You are dating someone who is quite a bit older than you but he is an amazing person and you have lots in common and are really happy together... what sort of parent wouldnt be happy for you... they might not agree with the age gap but a parent is there to guid you... they have done that for most of your life now it is up to you to make your own decisions and for your parents to offer their advice you listen but whether you act on it or not is up to you, your parents are supposed to be there when it goes wrong to say "well, thats a bit crap, but im here for you"
Good luck babe.
2007-12-11 03:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont Worry about it, they will NOT be upset. Maybe a little shocked at first but not upset especially once they meet him. You've been so secretive lately, they've been wondering what you're hiding! Just come out and tell them.
They're starting to think you're gay!
2007-12-11 03:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by PsychicLady* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might as well get it out in the open... its going to come out sooner or later. U should talk to ur parents about him asap. the sooner u do this the better for all involved...... it may not be as bad as u envision. The only way to do it is to just do it.
Good Luck!!
2007-12-11 03:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by pokvet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I can find a 23 year old when i am 40+
2007-12-11 03:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by Randy W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋