The groom is arriving the morning of the wedding (he is military and out of state) so will not be at rehersal (church) the night before. We have decided to have a rehersal anyway because the bride wants to make sure all goes smooth. The bridal party mentioned they would like to have a rehersal dinner, but I feel it would be uncomfortable for my daughter (the bride), she already is doing the rehersal without the groom. Also, the grooms parents have not offered to pay anything and my husband and I are about tapped out after paying for the wedding. I was thinking about just ordering pizza at my house for after the rehersal, any ideas on what I should do or could do? thanks all.
2007-12-11 01:58:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Would love to have the groom at the rehersal, but the bride and groom insist on not seeing each other that morning (tradition) and he will be meeting with the Pastor the morning of the wedding to go through the ceremony. :)
2007-12-11 02:12:23 · update #1
I think that if the bridal party really wants a rehearsal dinner, they can organize it and pay for it. If you want to chip in and do it, then pizza sounds like a fine choice. It would be nice if the wedding party put something together to spend time with the bride that night and relax if the groom isn't going to be there though. Just a thought.
2007-12-11 02:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
hmmm that's a toughie, and I completely understand. my parents have paid for MOST of my wedding withr not much help from the in-laws. pizza sounds fine..if you want it a tad bit more fancy on a budget make finger foods and sandwiches like shredded chicken, meatballs and some cheese and fruit trays. you could probably purchase enough for 50 bucks which would probably be a fraction of the cost if you were to go out and do it. OR ask the inlawsto help on it b/c technically the rehersal is suppose to be the groom's side anyways. I do agree, I think you should have a rehersal dinner, doesn't matter where, as long as you're all together!
2007-12-11 12:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rehearsal dinner doesn't have to be fancy in any way. Ordering pizza and everyone just being together beforehand to talk and relax before the big day is a good idea. Have everyone at your house and maybe play some group games, listen to music, dance, or have a toast with soda/wine/beer or whatever is around to the groom who couldn't be there that night but will forever be her partner in life.
2007-12-11 10:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by rapidmind18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I highly recommend waiting for the groom to do the rehearsal, as he is an integral part of the waiting (if not, the ultimate part of the wedding).
As for hosting anything, you could do a cheese/wine/small sandwiches/hors'deurves at your home.
But again, the groom is totally going to be out of loop if he is not included in the rehearsal.
2007-12-11 10:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An informal gathering at your house will be fine- and if the bridal party wants to chip in, then let thim. Otherwise, pizza is fine, or maybe a BBQ if you can swing that.
Good luck to your daughter.
2007-12-11 12:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the pizza idea is great! You can make it very comfortable and informal. Just ask everyone at the church after the actual rehearsal if they'd like to come back to your house. I think this will make your daughter very happy, and there's no pressure.
Good luck!
2007-12-11 10:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I think your idea (pizzas) is good.
I would keep it as low key as you can....wedding party ONLY! Order pizzas, maybe breadsticks, etc. and have sodas, lemonade, etc. Don't get in to serving beer! Unless you want to. I would keep things to a minimum.
Many people are doing this now (ordering pizzas)....I know of several of my friends that have done this with their children's rehearsals.
Good luck!
2007-12-11 15:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think pizza is a fine idea, or you could have a backyard BBQ depending on the time of year the wedding is and the climate of where you live.
2007-12-11 10:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by Cute Mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, just have the group over to your house for pizza and drinks, that's totally fine.
2007-12-12 08:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pizza is fine.
I had pizza at mine, and actually we all went to the hall to decorate.
You do whatever you want! If they want something else they can pay!
2007-12-11 10:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by butterfliesbrown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋