i hate the feelings of jealously that i get. like my boyfriend might see another girl not even check her out but just see her or it could even just be a girl on tv or a celebrity and i get jealous. i dont say anything b/c i realize that this is insane and i really want these feelings to go away. i dont want to care but i do.
i really want to change but i cant help it whenever i see him look at other girls who i think are better then me i get insanley jealous. im not sure if i can ever feel like i am better then those girls on tv so what can i do i would love more then anything in this world to actually believe that i am better then those girls on tv but i dont actually feel that way. please help i am seriously going insane and cant stand it
PLEASE HELP
2007-12-11 01:58:48 · 21 answers · asked by NAF SREWSNA OOHAY 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2007-12-11 02:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You will lose him if you express your jealousy. It's a practical matter; like you say, they all live in the same neighborhood. So when you pout and whine, and make yourself unattractive, you have no justification. Jealousy stems from the mistaken belief that you can control someone else; indeed, that you can own them. It is just not the case; check out the 13th Amendment to the Constitution. So the whole thing is to sympathize with your boyfriend's plight; how he is having so much trouble finding a car, and it is so bad that you live so far away, etc. Be cheerful and optimistic, and just assume it will all be straightened out eventually. And perhaps plan a day when you can meet him somewhere using public transportation, and have a day hanging out together, just the two of you. Even if you only can do that once every month or two, you will remain special in his eyes if you handle it well. Be a real lady, one who is above petty things like jealousy, or envy of his friends who live nearby.
2016-04-08 08:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any actors or male singers that you are really crazy about? If so, every time you see your bf looks at other girls, you can think about those you fancy about. Sometimes, it's a good idea to give your bf an uncertain feeling. Dress up and go out with your girlfriends. Be confident in who you are. We are all different, and no one is perfect. As long as you have confidence and pay less attention to your bf, he will soon realize how attractive and challenging you are. Nothing is more attractive than a confident woman.
2007-12-11 02:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by haiki_suru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an awful feeling isn't it, I know because I have felt that way a-lot in the past, I try harder to control it now and the women on TV are on TV and believe it or not your boyfriend is not as shallow as you think, when you see nice looking men on TV how do you feel? it's not the same as having the person beside you that you love. walk away, talk to him or just plain ignore it, they will always be there in front of you somewhere, weather on TV or walking down the street, I know it's an awful feeling, but you are the one he loves and isn't that a wonderful thing in it's self.
2007-12-11 02:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Minustone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way is to deal with your insecurities. Ask yourself what it is about yourself that you do not like, and try to improve them. Once you feel self confident then you wont be jealous. I used to be very jealous, ridiculously jealous. And I hated the other feelings that came along with it. The anger, and sadness.
But I ended up doing some exercise, eating better, taking care of myself overall. And I dont get those insane feelings anymore. You just have to love yourself.
2007-12-11 02:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Hazey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pull your slip up girl, your insecurities are showing. That's all jealously is insecurity. If you took more time to think about you and how to improve your attitude towards yourself then you wouldn't have time to think about anyone else. The only one that can fix this is you. And if you don't fix it within yourself then you will sabotage this and every other relationship you will ever have.
2007-12-11 02:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you seriously think that your boyfriend is better then people/models on tv?...LOL i seriously doubt he is...and im sure he knows he isnt either...but your with him...because you like him and you dont look at other guys...there is always going to be someone better then looking you..it can be hard if you catch him looking at other girls..or going out of his way to look at girls even where you can notice it...tell him how you feel tell him you dont feel like its right and it makes you feel bad about yourself and its not fair to you...people say that guys are always going to look at girls and find girls attractive because its in there "genes" but i dont buy that any decent guy will only be interested in one girl...if hes making you feel bad about yourself say something...and if its just you realize that you are worth liking think about all the good things about you that he took notice in...which is why hes with you!...dont worry about girls on tv cos he could never get them anyways ...LOL there are enough girls in everyday life ..without worrying about women on tv.
2007-12-11 02:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_cool_chick07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may come from some in-securities within your self. How do you view yourself? How is your self-esteem?
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2007-12-11 02:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are insecure with yourself....I hope I'm wrong though....but feeling jealous is a sure sign that you LOVE and want to keep this fella.....everyone feels JEALOUS at some time or another....but to constantly feel that way indicates an indeficancy in you that requires help
2007-12-11 02:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by fonzatoz 69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor about your low self esteem. You don't need to feel like you're better than anyone, you just need to be confident of your own worth. A counselor can help you to discover the roots of your feelings of self doubt and help you to overcome them.
2007-12-11 02:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by LoFlo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its simple...make urself more fabulous...if it is even possible...and write down everything great about u and post it on the mirror...also remember...ur bf being ur bf means that he made a choice...he chooses u for whatever reason and if he doesnt want to be with u he wouldnt be, u just have to trust yourself and trust him and know that if anything does ever happen it wasnt meant to be....but if u keep having these feelings he will leave and it will be ur fault and u wont ever know if it was meant to last. Try reassuring urself...and read the bible...having faith in God teaches us how to have faith in other people. You know all this...ur a work in progress...ur alright. There is nothing wrong.
2007-12-11 02:05:41 · answer #11 · answered by lovebugrudy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋