We had a fight the other night b/c he thought I was being too needy. Last night he said he doesn't have time for a gf w/ school and work and it's just too much for him and he broke up w/ me. I sent him texts asking if we could try again but w/o all the "relationship" pressure. I know he was feeling overwhelmed and upset over our argument. Do you think he might change his mind after he clears his head for a few days? Should I maybe leave him alone for now (considering he ignores my texts) and maybe contact him in 2 days asking him to reconsider?
I am so upset I couldn't sleep and feel like I am going to throw up Sounds stupid after only 2 months I know but I was falling in love.
2007-12-11 00:04:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
who was "he"?
2007-12-11 00:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
You poor thing! I know exactly how this feels... I found myself in this same position so many times when I was young. The best advice I can give you is to leave him alone and try and find something to prevent you from contacting him at all costs. It is best if you completely avoid contacting him!! It is clear to me that this boy is not ready to be in a relationship with you right now. Give him space and if he is ready and prepared to commit to being partnered with you, then he will come back. If he doesn't come back, then you must let him go.
I've learned over the years that you simply can't force a relationship and no matter how badly you want it to work, if the other person doesn't want it as much, it will never work. Relationships that are long-lasting and fulfilling begin with two people that both want the same level of commitment.
I'm going to assume that you are very young. What you are enduring is a natural part of growing up and learning how relationships work. If you so choose, you can use this experience (and future similar experiences) to help you to better select your life long mate.
Concentrate on filling your emptiness with activities that are benenficial and stimulating to you.... reading, excercise, friends, family, school, work, holidays, etc.
Best wishes to you!
2007-12-11 08:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he ended the relationship because he thought you were too needy then the last thing you want to do is keep contacting him. This will only make you seem desperate and remind him why he ended it. Some things are just not meant to be. Maybe you should just move on and find someone that is willing to give you the time and attention that you need.
2007-12-11 08:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lee S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It MAY give him more time to think things through, and if you were fighting about you being 'needy' and have been texting him...that doesn't help does it?. Leave him be.
I've learnt my lesson of being too needy and etc. First boyfriend. He left I lost out big time. I learnt my lesson. Then years later found my true new love. All is well :)
If he wants you back, he will come to you. But don't wait around for it. I had the throwing up problem but it isn't stupid. xox Have your friends as support..they are there for you!
2007-12-11 08:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say without, "relationship pressure," going to school, working and a girlfriend is pressure! Very hard not to feel it, especially when you expect more time than he can give. And you say he called you, "needy," so you are most likely needing more attention, affection and reassurance than he is able to give at this time. Give the guy a break. Al least he was honest with you. Learn from it and good luck to you.
2007-12-11 08:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say leave him be completely and if he finds he misses you more than he's bugged by being in a relationship, he'll contact you. You need to respect what he said about not wanting a relationship right now...he's either got other things to focus on that are more important, or he's just not that into you, to make a place for you in his life (sorry).
Things don't always work out as we desire. It's much preferable to be with someone who wants to be with us so give yourself a few days to heal, and then move on. You'll find someone with whom you'll be a better match, hang in there.
2007-12-11 08:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. He sounds burned out over the whole thing. I think you can officially call that a permanent dumping.
I'm sorry. Take some downtime before seeking another relationship, think about whether you might indeed be too needy, and move on.
2007-12-11 08:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Accept it on his current terms. If you beg, then you are sounding needy. You dont have to be happy with it, but you do have to accept it. It does not mean you need to run out and find a new guy to take his place (needy). It means give him some breathing room, and when you do, it gives him an opportunity to clear up other issues he is facing, then when things settle down, IF he cares about you, he will find you.
2007-12-11 20:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by TNguy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay...this is another no-brainer. Leave things alone. Accept for the moment that this is over and move on. If he grows up and figures out he wants to try again, he`ll let you know...if not, he won`t. It is that simple. You cannot make him. Don`t try. Learn from this...try finding someone without so many balls in the air at one time. Take care.
2007-12-11 08:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by ozimandius009 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him space, stop sending texts for a few days, then maybe see how he feels, but don't pressure him, sometimes you just have to accept when something is over.
2007-12-11 08:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop it.
Next week send him a message that says I hope that you are feeling better. Then just wait.
If you keep pestering him you are proving that you are needy.
Love and blessings Don
2007-12-11 08:09:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋