yes i have desided to do it and not look back the kids wants me to wait tell after xmas but, i am so upset over the drinking do you think i should wait since the kids want him here for xmas? he is good to the kids and he is not a hitter so what do you think?
2007-12-10 23:53:37 · 10 answers · asked by daisy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can you survive another two plus weeks? You seem to be sure that your safe physically and your children want to share this with him.
Your children are old enough to understand what your going through, and they seem to be informed of what is going on.Sit down with them and inform them that after the Christmas holiday you intend to hold true to your plans.
As for the other half, well if he hasn't been threatening to you or the children maybe he can have this season with them, you say he's "good with the kids" let him be a good father even if you feel he isn't a good husband.
I hope you'll feel better as the day unfolds, keep up the postive thoughts about yourself and life. I will pray that you are watched over and guided with loving hands.
2007-12-11 00:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Chief Whachusa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay he's good to the kids, and good to you, but treats himself like crap. Tell him that he needs help, and you will give him until the middle of January to do something about it. If he doesn't get help, then out he goes. That will get you through the holidays, but will also let him know that you are setting a time limit, and if it doesn't change, you have to do what is best for all concerned, and that means him also. Alcoholics don't realize, that they have a decease and like cancer it needs to be treated. But they are the only ones that can treat it, and that's by not taking the first drink. Some need medication to help.
Stress doesn't help when you are sick, I hope you get to feeling better.
2007-12-11 00:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...this is really a no-brainer. The kids want what they want and that`s it. They`re kids, that is what they are supposed to do. You are the parent the one who makes decisions. If you want the drunk gone...then get rid of him. If your life is getting brighter...put the final shine on it. Sure, maybe the kids will give you some grief...but if you can`t handle that, you shouldn`t have kids in the first place! So be the adult....do what your heart tells you is right. Anything else is just emotional blackmail....and do you want to live like that?
2007-12-11 00:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by ozimandius009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in no danger, wait until after Christmas. You've dealt with him all these years a few weeks more won't hurt. Be considerate of the kids feelings doing the holidays. Start your New Years without him.
2007-12-11 00:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kasey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what u feel is best for u and ur children. If u think u can get throu xmas without too much hassle, then do it for ur kids. If not, get rid b4 and dont look back. Theres a better life 4 u and ur kids out there. Dont let him ruin ur xmas.
good luck
2007-12-10 23:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep him till XMAS because the kids will certainly remember a divorce to painful around Christmastime.
2007-12-11 00:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex wife is a drunk also. She used to tell me that she could stop n e time but yet that was the first think she did when she got up in the morning. Once a drunk always a drunk. They may not be mean now but when your not expecting it well they ALL turn mean. Leave him now.....
2007-12-11 00:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by paige_laine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think if you are going to do it theres no sense waiting till christmas is over since thats a couple weeks yet anyway. I guess thats something you should decide really. I really don't know what to tell you.
2007-12-11 00:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 21:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until after christmas. No reason to ruin the holidays when they are so close.
2007-12-10 23:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋