my boyfriend has been looking for a job for awhile and everyday i ask him if he has applied and i've looked for some postings online and in person and send him the information. but everytime i bring it up he gives me this whole explanation on how he is trying his hardest and i should get off his back because finding a job is hard .. but then he speaks to his parents on the phone and they say he should look for a new job ASAP and try harder and he says okay and gets right on it!! why is it that i have to hear the bitter end of the whole issue but his parents get the yes sir and i get the no i've tried today?? can anyone help me with this???
2007-12-10 23:32:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men have this special bond with their mothers and you can't compare yourself to his parents. They looked after him and made him the man he is, so that he could spend the rest of his life with you. Just grin and bear it and be happy that he will get a job now.
2007-12-10 23:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your bf is a "parents" boy.
But in all fairness job hunting especially this time of the year is hard. All the jobs are usually filled up already with the holidays.
Good luck to both of you and happy holidays
2007-12-11 07:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Dana B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature I'm afraid. Most of us grow up with our parents as an authorative figure and think of them as people who know a lot about life.
A boyfriend or girlfriend is someone who we see as more equal and possibly not with the same experience as our parents.
Therefore it's only natural for him to listen to his parents and moan at you.
The only thing you can do is be supportive and understand that getting a job is stressful.
2007-12-11 07:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by armedjimmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same situation as him its difficult i dont have a bf but i think like me he has the whole respect thing going on with his parents relationships come and go but your parents are forever until they die so maybe he doesnt want to be rude to him while its nice to hear tha you helping him find a job maybe he thinks your putting to much pressutre in him to find a job try talking to him and see what he feels that way a lot of things will be said that need to be said
2007-12-11 07:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by centre of attention 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to me all the time. Sometime we just need to use different approach or technique. This is not easy because I have been working on this many years.
2007-12-11 07:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by ChampDog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably sees you and his parents as people filling different stations in his life, when he you ask, he sees you asking as a friend, so he simply gives an excuse, when his parents ask, he sees them as a figure of authority and thinks if he doesnt do it, there will b consequences.
2007-12-11 07:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by helper monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is more comfortable around you to display his real feelings.
2007-12-11 07:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt care about you, time to find another bf.
2007-12-11 07:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is used to them telling him what to do. You are not as old as they are!!!
2007-12-11 07:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋