I really don't want to apologize....but should I?

Question

This girl that I am falling for is upset at me because she wanted to have dinner and I couldn't make it. She called at noon, wanting to have dinner at 6, I work nights and hadn't slept yet. I told her I want to have dinner with her, but couldn't that night. She said she'll call anyways, in case I was awake. She ended up not calling, I haven't talked to her in 4 days, I think she's a little upset.

Should I apologize for not making time? I really don't feel like I did anything wrong, but I do like her alot.

Answer 1

If you really like this girl then you should not only apologize but make amends for your mistake.

Answer 2

I work nights, too. It has been hard on my social life. People have this misconception that just because you are not at work you should just be doing anything you want. Unfortnately you need sleep. Sometimes I feel I need more sleep because it's so hard on my body.

I would call her and leave a message saying you were asleep but not avoiding her. Maybe not apologize - but say that you are interested in hanging out. Would she apologize to you if you called her at 3am asking to go out to breakfast when you got off of work? Doubt it.

Answer 3

Call her casually. Ask her to dinner. Observe her reaction. If she seems upset at what you did, apologize for not calling her sooner. but talk to her about why you couldnt go to dinner with her. Theres also a possibility that she's just honestly busy.

Answer 4

Wow classic miscommunication. What exactly is the problem? You didn't want to go to dinner that night (you have free choice - and don't need to justify your decisions). She said you'd call, probably guessed you'd be sleepig, didn't want to disturb you, didn't call. And now you're not talking.

You need to apologise. Not for not wanting to do dinner, but for being a clutz. For miscommunicating, and presuming she's upset. She will probably want to apologise too.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

You were not wrong, but if you really like her, send her a text or a note thanking her for the invitation, and asking her if you can get a "rain check" when you do not have to go to work that night.

Answer 6

call her up and find out y she hasnt called you that evening. tell her your situation ,she will understand if she likes you. say sorry for not beong able to take some time for her. if saying sorry can make her happy n help u sort out the mater , wats d big deal in saying so. even though u hav not done anything wrong , u can say sorry , because she is someone u love

Answer 7

call her and ask how she's feeling. she may or may not be upset. address the issue directly and remain honest. it is unecessary to assume guilt because there was no moral crime comitted. the goal is to understand and resolve the apparent lack of communication. you don't think you did anything wrong then there's no reason to apologize. you should stick with your first convictions over the doubts.

Answer 8

An insincere apology is dishonest and not a good basis for a relationship. Simply tell her that you regret not being able to make it, rather than that you're sorry for sleeping.

Answer 9

Yes i think you should apolagize, it will make her feel better. Even though you think you didn't do anything, you probably did in her mind. You should apolagize for that, because if she hasn't talked to you in 4 days than i think she's upset xD.

Also explain your work hours to her.
Also, maybe she's waiting for you to call.

Answer 10

Oh, don't apologize. If she knows that you work nights and wouldn't have slept... then she was really selfish to have expected you to come and see her. Just tell her that you are sorry you couldn't come around.