does true love really always hit you when you least expect it?

Question

why do you think this is..?..

ps. so, do you think it is impossible to find love while looking for it?..

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Answer 1

YEP, most definately it finds you when you when you are not looking for it and least expect it! I think this is because you are more relaxed and in a natural state as opposed to on guard and putting on a show.

And yes, I also feel it's impossible to find while looking (because you're trying to hard and pushing yourself to be unnatural....in my opinion). I'll give you 2 examples.

Back YEARS ago when I was 25, I was devestated over a break-up with a boyfriend of mine. It had been weeks and I was still down in the dumps. My sister talked me into going out to a club with her and her friends to a country shindig, and I love country music so I decided to. I had a miserable time. I sat at the front bar just drinking (not a lot, but drinking nonetheless). There was a guys also sitting at the bar and I said something to him and he thought I said something rude (I cannot even remember now, lol), but we got in an argument, lmao!! Then we were just sitting there throwing cheap shots at each other but talking too......next thing we knew, it was closing time. He followed me home to my house and we continued to talk on the front porch for HOURS. I wouldn't normally do something like that but I did. He was the GM of a country music station in town, and he was great. Well, he was 20 years older then me, but we didn't care. We dated for 4 years, the BEST 4 years of my life. We would have been married, but he pushed me away because he knew I wanted kids and he wasn't able to have anymore, nor did he really want more. He was the one TRUE love of my life, the one I could do anything with, say anything to and let loose with (even sexually, I was not afraid to be "me" with him. He pushed me away which was so hard for him and I, but I knew why he was doing it, but we stayed best of friends.

I met my first husband shortly thereafter and had a baby. Things went awry with that and we were separated. The guy above BEGGED for me to take him back, professing his love for me. But we were so good friends at that point that I was afraid if I did things wouldn't be the same and I wasn't ready to lose our friendship. I lost him, but NEVER stopped loving him even to this day. He was my "once in a lifetime" love. I truly believe that. Some days I really regret not going back with him and other days I don't.

My second story is that my first husband and I were trying to fix our problems, and he died of a sudden heart attack. I was a widow at 34 years old. I never thought I'd be a widow at 34.

My sister told me I needed to "get a life" (LOL) and eventually talked me in to joining some dating sites online. So I did and got tons of responses but never looked at them. Then one day I looked at 1....I don't know to this day WHY I did, but I did. This man was a firefighter and lived one town over from me. On December 28, 2001, I made arrangements to meet with him, having my sister go with me to a very public restaurant. We talked and talked and I thought I liked him but was scared. I gave him my #, but then "blew him off" for 2 weeks before I answered his calls!! He persisted, lol. Well, thank GOODNESS he did. Even though I didn't want to, I fell in love with this man. And YAYYYY, we were married on July 10, 2004. And yes, we met "on the computer" when I was NOT looking for love, nor did I want it. (I advise ANYONE that trys this to take someone along with them the first time, or at the very least let people know where you are going, please just be safe!)

We had 4 children, he had 3 from his first marriage and I had one. I had been told that I couldn't have any more kids (my body attacked the developing embryo as an illness and desroyed it...I had had 7 miscarriages), but much to our "SURPRISE" I found out I was pregnant in March of 2005. I didn't hold out much hope of things going well, but much to our amazement, on 12/7/05 (Pearl Harbor Day) we were blessed with a BEAUTIFUL baby girl. She just turned 2!! We now have 5 beautiful kids ages 2, 11, 13, 15 and 17! And we love it!!

I had always been looking for love and never found it. The 2 times I was NOT looking for it, IT found me! And my first true love I will NEVER forget and he will ALWAYS be special to me. It's been 13 years since that and we still keep in touch. When he got remarried, his new wife was not fond of our friendship so we had to back off, and I was sad. But life goes on and you learn from it. And my "computer" husband and I are doing just great!!

So yes, you can find love when you are least expecting it, so if you're trying and you can't seem to find it, sit back and relax.......because IT WILL FIND YOU!! I'm proof of that!!

Well, hope you liked the stories!! Happy Holidays to you!

;o)

Answer 2

Love doesn't hit you when you least expect it. Cos usually, you don't meet a potential love and then forget about it. and it doesn't just come back and hit u in the face. No, you think about it constantly, and therefore it can never just hit you.

Yeah, why not? If you look hard enough, you'll find it. But I reckon it's better if you let love find you. If it don't occur naturally, leave it alone.

Answer 3

I do think that it hits you right when you give up. That has been my personal experience. I think it happens because you only get what you need when your heart &soul decides that it is truly what you need in your life. It's sorta like your heart &/or soul calls all your life for that one person. Then when you are both ready, which is usually after your head is like "No way am I going to find heart ache again. I'm not going to even try this game again", the souls or hearts finally hear each other and they MAKE you find that person. But it never happens a moment before your heart and soul let it. No matter how much you THINK your heart wants "the one" it never lets you find it until after you have dropped to your lowest. That way you can truly appreciate this love you have been given and not take advantage again.

But maybe that is just a silly ranting of a fool in love. It was Mark Twain, I believe, that said "Love: To outside observers is insanity". I think that is true definitely.

I think occasionally (like only 15% of the time) does a person find their true love when they are looking for them.

My personal experience: New years 2006 I spent that night crying my eyes out depressed for life being like it was. I was disappointed in the world, in me, and in people engenearal including those personally in my life and otherwise. My news years resolution was "To give up on guys." I decided I didn't need men in my life. They complicated things and only broke hearts. And on Jan 3rd my best friend at the time texted me and was like "I've been talking to this guy about you. He's really sweet and geniunly interested. I think you might like him." I rolled my eyes and was like whatever. And she gave me his e-mail address (not his number because I'm pretty shy and would have NEVER called him). I held on to it but wasn't going to do anything with it. Then something odd just urged me one day when I was in a particularly good mood and I emailed him on Jan 9th. We talked everyday after that online and/or on the phone. We started dating slightly after a month after and We're engaged. Everything with him as felt so natural and familiar. It's a little hard to explain to others honestly. But I'd given up on finding someone and so had he and then we had each other, now we're never letting go.

Good Luck in all you do. :)

Answer 4

i assume you recommend- to discover somebody whilst no longer finding- because of the fact that's the elementary assertion. Which in turn ought to reason a individual to fall in love whilst no longer looking forward to to. sure, i ended finding for a guy to this factor after my divorce and the suitable guy I even have ever time-venerated sense particularly into my lap! never been happier in my total existence!!

Answer 5

love can be described as "just another emotion". Of course you can find it while looking for it.. and you can meet it when you don't expect it. But whether it's simply a deeper feeling or something else.. it's up to you to decide.

Answer 6

It usually happens when you least expect it. It is nothing that you can plan. Just enjoy yourself until it comes along. Then enjoy more!!!

Answer 7

Hopefully.. I have no experience of it happening to me, or of ever being in love at all. I used to look for it, but I have stopped after getting bored of looking.

Answer 8

yes it does.when you leas expect it.it will come your way.when you look for it and you get a boyfriend it doesn't neccesarily mean that you have found love.

Answer 9

yes it does i am in love with a very beautiful woman in canada we talk on the phone and cam and cant wait to go to her soon

Answer 10

true love comes to people when the time is right for them. if you look for it it might not come.