i pursued this girl and she rejected me. i tried being friends but she seems to send me short blunt text messages and sometimes she doesnt even reply to mine. i want to send her this message.
'(Persons name), i feel that theres alot of uncomfortability between you and I. I dont know if we should be friends, because the truth is i see nothing worthwhile here right now in terms of friendship. Do you feel the same?'
i want to send that message. what will she think? is it a good message?
2007-12-10 21:37:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I don't mean to offend but, don't send that, it will freak her out..just forget her, she's not even worth your time and worries. You're so much better than her and you should just wait until you meet the RIGHT girl.
2007-12-10 21:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? I was in the same situation as that girl once. I'd reply short text messages because I'd think, "Can't this guy take a hint?" or "I don't want to encourage him" Naturally there would be some discomfort with the guy until I know for sure that he's long over me and that he's moved on...Usually, that's when I know he's begun dating somebody else or something.
I suggest you don't send that text message. It's a bit...to be blunt...pathetic. Just let things cool off. Don't try so hard to be her friend! Be there for her, but don't be the one to pursue the friendship. You will just seem desperate to her. Still be her friend, but you don't have to be her close friend. Besides, should you get something in return to be a friend?
2007-12-10 21:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by ginger_dame 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hon, but I think sending that message will just be her way of making you feel worse. Don't give her the ammunition. She rejected you and doesn't want to be friends with you. Could be she's interested in someone else or it could be she's a bit shallow and doesn't value decent guys. Her loss, right?
The best thing I can say to do is to not send her anything more. If you see her passing by, look away from her with your chin held up high. Act like you don't even know she's there and that it wouldn't bother you one way or the other if she was. If you look at her with hurt or longing, you are only helping her make you feel bad. Show her that you have pride and that you aren't going to grovel for her attention and I promise you, she will notice. Most likely, it will bother her that you aren't chasing her anymore and then maybe she'll see what she's missed by not trying to be your friend.
Maybe she won't, but I think she will.
2007-12-10 21:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Top Alpha Wolf 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Never burn the bridges behind you, you may need to cross them again. Your next gf could be her best friend, or her dad could be your boss on a job, etc... Handle it with maturity.
Just tell her that if she considers your text messages a bother, please let you know and you will discontinue contacting her. Tell her that the reason why you mention this is that lately you have noticed that she seems uncomfortable talking with you.
Now you have left the ball in her court. She will either respond saying that she does not mind, enjoys, or would prefer not to communicate with you. If she says that she does not mind, then only text her when it is necessary, If she says that she enjoys hearing from you, you are good to go, etc...
That way no one has hurt anyone's feelings. If you ever have to cross her path again in years to come, you will not feel like you have to run to avoid her.
2007-12-10 21:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not a good message because her reply will be as follows:
" (ur name=Ron), I am happy to know u finally got it, I don not want to be friends with u and that's y I've been avoiding u and sending u those sms replies. There IS a lot of uncomfortability because I do NOT want to be friends with u, so stay away from me, keep away, I am NOT interested"
or she will simplyignore it and show it to her friends to brag!
y u wanna be friends with her anyway? she doesn't seem to want and therefore won't be a good one, go for others!
2007-12-10 21:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
hmm no dont send it, send her this instead
(persons name) i donno why u send me blunt messages or even ignore my messages at times, i'm trying to be a good friend to you but it seems you dont feel the same, would you rather i dont send you any messages any more?
be honest and dont give up by saying there's nthg worthwhile bla bla and if she says yes dont send then you can say yes i thought so coz i see theres nthg worthwhile .... goodbye
or sthg like that
2007-12-10 21:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uho,um, don't send the message. Don't waste you time on someone who doesn't appreciate you. Rather try to forget her and move on. I hate people who cant be straight with you, like this girl. Sorry about the heartache and pain, sweety. Unfortunately she doesn't like you.I'm sure there is some else who finds you interesting.Just be yourself, ready,friendly and open! I'm sure someone will come your way!!!Just be ready!
2007-12-10 22:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a pretty good text. It's formal and direct. If she's absolutely not interested, don't be surprised if she doesn't reply. Forget her if she doesn't reply. If she does, then take whatever it is she says as it comes.
Oh and btw, uncomfortability isn't a word. :D
2007-12-10 21:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by EyeOnTheHorizon 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yeah its a alryt message but what if the girl is not interested at all?
its worth a go...nothing to loose
good luck babe
2007-12-10 21:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
no...she already rejected u, why bother, i mean its good to try, but she doesn't even seem to want to be your friend, isn't that a hint?...she didn't even bother to text back, so why embarrass yourself some more?
2007-12-10 21:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by xpinklildevilx 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋