She's always calling me fat and saying stuff like 'Why would I bother with a horrible person like you?' When we walk on the streets she would walk with my sister only and leave me behind. She gets angry with me really easily and twists everything I say into something negative directed against her. Maybe I'm really a horrible person but then why is it that my classmates and even my teachers like me? Some of them have even told me I was pretty? Whatever it is I am sick and tired of it so I was thinking, if she hates me so much, should I just make everyone's lives easier and go away?
2007-12-10 19:19:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is really sad to hear that your own mother behaves in such a way!! May be she was hurt by the things u did in the past.. If so.. I suggest you to sit and talk with your mother and sought out as soon as possible..
If that is not the case, then also sit with her and talk about this.. explain her how much it hurts you because of her behavior....
I don't know how much I might help you with this answer, but I really felt very sad reading about your problem..
2007-12-10 19:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by MRR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is scary reading this post. She sounds just like my mother. If I got bad marks, then I'm a failure. If I get good marks, then I'm sleeping with my teachers.
It's sounds like you mother has depression. You are not a horrible person. Far from it, you probably make her feel bad by being a good person.
While we were arguing ( my mother and I ) I said to her," All things come to an end." She asked me what on earth I meant by it. I said nothing.
Now years later, while she is spending Christmas alone and I've moved on with my life with my fabulous husband, I remember that. This won't last forever. You will move out the house and you don't have to see her.
Its a myth that all mothers are wonderful creatures, maybe that is why you think that this is your fault. It's not true. If she has a problem, she has a problem. You must just carry on with your life and do the best that you can. And one day you can turn around and walk away from her if you want.
2007-12-11 03:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is definitely being the immature one here and I'm sorry she is not being more loving and supportive of you. It sounds like she is very insecure and could be jealous of you. This is so unfortunate for you. Please don't let this make you insecure or doubt that you are a beautiful person. Consult your school psychologist, a pastor or priest, or a loving family member you trust. You need all the support you can get at this time. You may have to confront your mother and tell her to stop, but don't do this alone. I wish I could help you further I was not blessed with children and would have loved to have a daughter. Good luck!
2007-12-11 03:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by Gabfest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her... in a nice way. You know have a heart to heart talk with her. Tell her how you feel and that you do not like it when she talks down at you. Tell her that you can only respect her as much as she respects you. Get counseling, read some books on postive thinking, enjoy the comany of better role models. Perhaps your grandmother or an aunt.
If she thinks you need to lose weight ask her to help you and support you with that issue. How old are u?
2007-12-11 03:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by happy feet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is unique in God's creation. Dont do a drastic action when you can live the way you want. Even if your mum dont show her love to you, you still need to love her as she brought you into this world where your teacher and friends appreciate. Be patient, try to know your mum more on which area you can impress her where your sister cant and you'll be in her good books some day. Enjoy life!
2007-12-11 03:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by kumari s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not that your a horrible person I think your mom has something wrong and she favors your sister. You need to see some type of counciling for this. I think you should talk to your mom and tell her that you feel like she does not care about you and if she says she don't than tell her that you want to be signed over to the state and see what she says. Can I ask how old are u?
2007-12-11 03:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by Nae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a job where all my worker friends said I did a great job. But the boss fired me for unfair reasons. When someone calls you fat, think that your phat(cool but not cocky). From my experience people have their own issues to deal with and sometimes they let them out on others. In my past being nice to those that do bad to me has usually worked, a lot of the times turning them around. I have always used my GOOD friends as a support system and then when I came home in a good mood it would sometimes rub off on my parents. All we can do is try our best. I wish you well. Feel free to email me.
2007-12-11 03:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Philip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should go talk to your school counselor , or your father or granny.
You will not live with your mom 4 ever.
My mom was like this and it caused me to have low self esteem, but you can alter this by leaning on your friends and other family members.
Your mom may have some kind of mental illness that makes her behave like this.
Read a "Boy called it"
2007-12-11 03:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by GabbyGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this is hapening to you..I am glad you are aware of others liking you. so you see you are a likeable good person....
Parents are human, and sometimes they do things they should not.
This has to be awful for you now.
No, don't leave before you finish school, mabe things will get better..if not you will be a stronger more independent person because of this...
Spoiled children find it hard to get along with other in the world !!!
2007-12-11 03:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by jalady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go anywhere ask someone in your family who you're reali close to if u can move in with them or find an alternative person who can take care of u,n maybe u think she hates u cos ur goin thru the phase in life when u think nobody lkes u
2007-12-11 03:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Moe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋