We have been together for a year now and he want to wait till after out 2 years together, he is scared that his parents will not like the idea of us moving in together any sooner, how do I go about talking to him about doing it sooner, he says he believes that he can marry me, so I don't know.And he is quite a traditional guy, eventhough I think tradition flew out the window for the both of us when we started sleeping together. I want us to have a partnership before we decide to get married. I know he loves me but don't know how to talk to hom about this. Any ideas on how to convince him sooner is better than later, I would much rather know sooner than later if we would be able to live together.
2007-12-10 19:16:25 · 5 answers · asked by anonomous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is 23 and I am 20, no he is just a traditional type of guy, he doesn't usually let his parents influence his decisions, but this is something they apparently talked about and it is a big decision.
2007-12-10 19:24:33 · update #1
I'm not sure if he wants to move in together as much as I want he did think about it before I mentioned it.
2007-12-10 19:27:08 · update #2
We have stayed together for a while while his brother and sister were away, coz we didn't want them to know. It was lovely, we got along great and we opened up to eachother.
2007-12-10 19:30:10 · update #3
Just tell him, the communication sound good from what your telling us being married is such a big thing even more so than moving in together, your making a commitment for life so its better to wait a bit longer for when your sure your ready to get married rather than rushed marrige and a divorce.
2007-12-10 19:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by .... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow de ja vu, this was me 2 years ago. take it from me, wait another year. I promise. I was engaged, my fiance' moved in after 2 years, we were madly in love and now 8 months later, we're broken up. And Im still thinking what the hell happened. He just changed one day. we got along great too, opened up to eachother more, was really happy for awhile, then one day it just wasnt the same. you have the rest of your lives to live together. don't rush it. you may drive him away by pushing him into such a big step. living with someone IS like marrying them. minus the legal papers.
2007-12-10 19:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how old the two of you are. He is putting off what the both of you want because his parents might not approve? Is he always like this? Is your life together always going to be like this also? I would find out the answers to these questions before you decide to marry him.
2007-12-10 19:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mothers and dads wouldn't have the perfect selection in the event that they are no longer paying the expenses. you ought to pay attention on your heart and admire his. If he does not desire to circulate in perfect now, admire it, believe me he's asserting no for a reason. according to risk he isn't waiting to handle this form of huge duty. it is going to be a mutual contract between the two one in each of you. If one says no, the different says confident, compromise. What ought to you benefit and what ought to you lose. If this is greater to lose than that's to learn, think again. do no longer rush a guy into something that he isn't prepared to do on his own. proceed as much as now if he isn't waiting to stay under an identical roof as you and notice the place issues progression. each little thing occurs for a reason. attempt shifting in mutually as quickly as you're engaged or 3 months earlier the marriage. attempt happening week long holidays mutually. you will comprehend in case you may tolerate him. desire this facilitates : )
2016-11-02 21:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is sincere and faithful in love to you, nothing and nobody can stop him coming closer to you. have some faith.
2007-12-10 19:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by chidambaram k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋