My cousin is 19 yrs old teen mom?

Question

Hi my cousin is 19 yr old and she have a 1 yr old,unfornately her baby daddy got hit by a drunk driver while getting diapers,and he got killed,she wanted to know is it too late to give up her son for an adoption.

she doesnt have a computer so she ask me.

Answer 1

Why did she not give her son up for adoption as soon as she had him? That child has had one year to bond with her and she is all he knows so why would she want to adopt him out?
Why would she want to give her son away (Something that is left behide of her boyfriend)???

Is that the reason why she wants to do this? Cause he is not here anymore? If my husband died i would not want to give that child away for nothing in the world but that is me.
If she wants to do that then tell her to see this website: http://www.adoption.com

Answer 2

Oh what a sad story, you can give a child up for adoption anywhere from birth until the age of majority in the state in which you live. A little boy, I have raised 3 daughters, no grandchildren and quite bored at the moment, if your cousin is serious about putting her son up for adoption, I wish she would consider me, I always wanted a son. But that is not really the subject here, I was a young Mother and I know how hard it can be, my baby's daddy wasn't hit by a drunk driver, but just as well should have been, if you know what I mean. I pray the best for your cousin and her son, it is always darkest before the dawn and again I pray that she wait because due to the darkness, we don't always see the light which is always in our hearts. God Bless.

Answer 3

It's not too late to give her child up for adoption. However, if I were her I would look at her other options. There are many single mothers with determination who make it. There are a lot of kids without fathers who are able to become successful adults. Just because the child's dad passed away doesn't mean she has to give up her child or feel like she can't support him. If I were her I'd really think hard about the decision but if she still wants to give the baby up for adoption and feels that is best for the child then she can always give him/her up. I'm so sorry for her loss but I'm sure she can make the best out of a truly horrible situation.

Answer 4

I'm sorry for her loss. I I understand how hard it is I was 18 when I had my first baby. However there are alot of options she can look in to for help. She should really think about what she is considering. There is no going back. That is her child, no matter how hard it my get she can do it. My opinion yes she could still give the baby up but she would regret it for the rest of her life. Tell her to stay strong and love that baby with everything she has.

Answer 5

ok relax you are still young and got plenty of years ahead to have kids, dont rush into things just because your boyfriend has bought the subject up. and if you did get caught pregnant, why would you think that you would be a bad mom, believe me you adjust to these things, iam actually 26 and have 2 boys 1 aged 4 and 1 aged 2, and believe me i was scared stiffless at the thought of giving birth, i actually asked for a c section, which they told me no, im not going to lie to you and tell you it doesnt hurt giving birth because it does, but there are things to control your pain, eg. epidural, which is amazing i might add, thing is as soon as you have given birth all that pain goes away, and trust me its well worth it, because you are left with a beautiful baby that you have created, as for being scared of hurting them, there is no need to worry they are a lot stronger than you think. i just think that at the moment your not ready to have children, and that certainly isnt a bad thing at all, maybe in a couple of years you might change your mind, i really dont think you would be a bad mother, every woman have got a mothering side to them, which comes out naturally when you have kids. enjoy your life for now. hope this helps

Answer 6

i think that you cousin should think about all the people who have lost a child or can't have them, then she should be very thankful that she has a child. when she decided to get pregnant so made a vow to that child to love him and to look after him. no matter what has happened in her life. and believe me i know what i am talking about. i had my first child when i was 17 then at 18 i had a still born at 37 week me and the father are no longer together so i know it can be hard some times but you have to just get on with looking after your kids. i am now in another relationship and have another son and i love all my kids. thy really are the love of my life. i understand she is finding it a bit hard at the moment but she could be making the biggest mistake of her life.

Answer 7

You can give a child up at any time for adoption,being that she had the child for a year I don't know how she would be able to do such a thing. But if she is unable to care for the child now that her boyfriend is gone then it is better that the child goes to a good home.

Answer 8

I'm 21 with 3 children, when my childs father died- I was thankful that I still had that part of him & so was his family. If she does not want her child then she should consider his family, or at least someone that the child knows. By age 1 children have bonded with their mother soooo much along with any other family members that have been there..

Answer 9

aww i cant believe shed give away her baby. its like giving up the last part of the father that is still in this world. but you can always give up the child. look in the phone book and call any adoption agency and talk to someone there. best of luck and im sorry about what happened. i hope that isnt the reason shes giving up the child. and i understand its her choice but this is one thing she may end up regretting in her life more than anything else.

Answer 10

It is not too late to give her son up for adoption.