For example, lets say on his 16th Birthday he claimed to gay, would this bother you and WHY?
2007-12-10 18:27:14 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honestly, yes. I would be disappointed especially if he is my only son. I have nothing against gay people. It's just that I don't want to experience my son telling me one day that he's gay. Of course ideally, I want my son to follow my footsteps. But you can never tell what would happen in the future. What's important is that he's a good son to me, a healthy person and a good person to humanity.
2007-12-10 19:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Fourth P 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I don't have kids but if I did I wouldn't be disappointed by either. There seems to be a misconception that all people who do not believe in god have some sort of burning hatred for believers. Though this might be the case with some it is not the case of all non-believers.
2016-05-22 23:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by nydia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't be disappointed. Maybe shocked at first, but this is my child and whatever they want to be as long as they're not hurting anyone, I support it. I still for the life of me can't understand what the big phobia or dislike is about gay people. It's their choice and I stick to the whole cliche "as long as they're not hurting anyone", who cares? I think some parents who are bothered by this are more bothered by what OTHERS will think of them. I have both a son and a daughter, and I love them to death. If either of them told me they were gay I would accept it. It beats them having to hide in a closet and be miserable and be someone they aren't.
2007-12-10 19:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there should be no feelings of dissapointment
you need to be there for your son and let him have freedom.
He is normal,being gay doesn't make him any different from anyone else.Love is a strong feeling,its soo strong it doesnt matter what you believe in,your gender or race it will always find a way.Let your son be happy and never ever be dissapointed.
Cherish every moment a child is beautiful no matter who they love.
2007-12-10 21:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by iLikecheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three adult sons and three adult girls. If any of my children told me they were gay, I would give them a hug, and tell them I am their mother and I love them.
Being gay is not a criminal act. It isn't a choice. They are born that way. Just like being straight isn't a choice.
I know many gay people, and I find them to have delightful personalities, very intelligent, talented and happy. I have only known one that died at an early age, and that was because he was ostracized by his family, and he never got over it.
Sadly he didn't have the strength to love who he was, because his "family" were always trying to make him "straight". He was a wonderful, gentle person.
Love your children, and let them know that who and what they are, makes no difference to you, you love them UNCONDITIONALLY.
Added = It makes me very sad to read some answers, especially those coming from so called Christians. Jesus taught us to love everyone unconditionally, and not to judge.
It boggles my mind that they would turn off their love if one of their children said they were Gay. God is a God of love, isn't he, can you see Jesus for instance, talking about how to stop loving your child, because he was one way or another.
This one point about judging and hate, proves, to me personally that sometimes the writings in the Bible are interpreted in quite the opposite way, for religions own reasons.
2007-12-10 22:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, he will still be my child and I will continue to love him, unconditionally. Why is the label of one's sexual preference such a freak out issue with some parents. Unlike many parents, you child is still walking the earth, you can call him any time you want, you can still hug him and give him that soft peck on the cheek when you want to, something, many parents can't do. All in all, this is still a part of you, he isn't a murderer, child molester, etc., (the so many other things he could be), but when the day is over with, HE IS STILL YOUR SON AND YOU ARE STILL HIS PARENT, whether he is gay, colors his hair green, pierces his nose, etc., STILL YOUR SON and STILL ON THIS EARTH FOR YOU TO ENJOY. YOU LOVE HIM AND GOD DOES TOO. GOD BLESS.
2007-12-10 20:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be sad that I would have a son who was destined to have a life of difficulty and persecution because even though this is 2007 we live in a country full of intolerant hatred, as can be seen by some of the answers to your question. I would be upset that this boy who I loved with my whole mother's heart would be vulnerable to others' judgments and unkindnesses and I would be unable to protect him.
I have had many friends who are gay and they are human beings also, and I consider them to be no different than any other people I know. I would be accepting of his feelings and love him exactly the same, even if I was worried for him.
2007-12-10 18:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
People don't just go around claiming they're gay, they spend their entire lives wondering what to do about this gayness they feel and after years of soul searching they finally decide they must, if they're to be true to themselves, come out, and be damned the reactions of their so-called loved ones who might turn their backs on him for something that has nothing to do with them, other than having to meet his boyfriends.
2007-12-10 18:48:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
My son is 15 & no I wouldn't be bothered at all if he said he was gay. Im half expecting it to tell the truth. I love him, pure & simple so if he is gay I will stand by him & defend him every step of the way.
2007-12-10 18:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mimkat hate the new Yahoo Answers so has retired. 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
It would not bother me. I believe that you are born that way. I would be glad that he felt he could tell me this. What does him being an only son have to do with it?
2007-12-10 19:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋