guys...sex on the first date?

Question

would you ever consider dating a girl who put out on the first night? or do you assume that she's a slut ? (even though you guys are being just as slutty, but i won't get into that...)

Answer 1

i don't think sex on the first date is right...If i really liked her i still wouldn't hit it. First of all it should earn you points with most girls because they realize you like spending time with them without thinking about sex. However most guys would think im gay for doing that but its called respect and the moral thing to do....We all love sex but we all have to show a little self control.

Answer 2

Not only would I consider it, I've done so. In fact, my last serious girlfriend of nearly 2 years gave it up the first night, & a girl I dated for over 6 years on & off & almost married did the same thing. My thing is I am not going to look down on a woman for wanting the same thing I want; I'll appreciate her more if anything. I don't believe in the double standard that women are bad if they want sex & men are fine. In my mind, sex is a perfectly natural thing, & since I have a high libido, I want a compatible woman who also has a high libido. If I'm not going to date someone, it's more likely to be the woman who plays hard to get, because I hate women that play games. She doesn't necessarily have to have sex with me the first night, but there will be a point where I will lose patience & leave her (often by date 3 or 4). I have much more respect for a woman who knows what she wants & goes after it than one who is so worried about what other people think that she would jeopardize a potentially great relationship solely because society might consider her easy if it were to get out that she likes sex. That's just stupid in my own personal opinion.

Answer 3

You pose an interesting question. Guys are really bad about this... we are total hypocrites, because we will definitely have sex with a girl on the first date if she is willing but we will also think of her differently. I would still consider dating a girl, and wouldn't think of her as slutty but I would also wonder if she does this all the time....where as if I went out with a girl a few times first it would be better. So psychologically I think it is better if the girl keeps the guy anxious for a few dates, the anticipation makes it better when it actually happens.

Answer 4

why hold back? just to appear chaste? If you want the guy and he wants you, and you both want to have sex then you should, first date or not. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years and had sex on the first date. It was a magical night, and it was fire. If there is so little fire that you can resist, why bother with the relationship? He wont think you are a slut, unless the date didn't go well and you f him anyways.

Answer 5

Nothing is impossible. I have seen everything. Sometimes the girls that people make out to be the worst are the best. It is not advisable to have sex on the first date. It can happen. If it happens, don't try and judge the other person. Two people made it happen. Sometimes it takes a minute to know someone. Some people are married for ages and are still strangers. We cannot set ground rules for everything. It does not work

Answer 6

a couple things:

1) sooner or later, he will tell everyone in town about his conquest.

2) most males will always view a female as careless if she drops it on the first date. there will always be a question in his mind about whether everybody and anyone can get it by a simple request.

3) you would become deeply personal with someone without having a clue of where they have been or what they are made of.

4) std's are fairly commonplace and easily transmitted via casual and unprotected sex.

well do you want everyone to know you gave it up without a basis????

most guys will spill the beans if you drop and spread on day one.

think about it more carefully before you act.

i hope you make the best decision after considering all comments.

Answer 7

" even though you guys are being just as slutty"

I would think of that, so couldn't hold it against her. If the relationship lasts longer , it's justification, of a sort , for the first night . So if it went well, or at least OK, can't imagine that it would create an automatic "no" for anything further . (I know, I know! It happens . Doesn't make any sense to me , though. )

Answer 8

I was once one of these girls. From my perspective, if you have a connection with someone and you know in your heart that you are not loose, then do what comes to you. The man I slept with on the first date, after only knowing each other for a week, has been in my life for ten years and we have been married for 6 of them. We are happily married and have two amazing children. Just be cautious that you know him well enough to know that he is not a sleeze and is not only out to get in your pants.

Answer 9

Just as you might question if the guy is a gentleman, he might question whether or not you are a lady. If you had sex with him on the first date, he will naturally wonder if this is your normal behavior. If you like him, and you have any questions about it then why not wait? He'll probably respect you more and might find that there is more to you.

Or if you just want to romp him then do it. But realize that you can never take that back again.

Answer 10

wow i'm surprised. some guys don't even consider that girls can make mistakes and that they can change, and that sex on the first date doesn't necessarily = that the girl is not special. maybe she has communication issues, maybe she thought that was the best way to make a man feel special.
it's a bit surprising how men here are a bit unforgiving.
imagine how strict and unforgiving these men would be to their daughters who had sex on her first date.