Im really worried about him. but i wasnt happy. things were not working out. and i moved on without even wanting to. it just happened. he pushed me away. he was unsure about us because he got "freaked out" about the next step. im dating someone else now. i held on for 6 months. now he wants to be with me. and marry me. and hes telling me he wants to be that guy for me now. and hes so sorry. i told him its too late. and that i wont look back. im happy with the guy im dating. it feels right. but i feel horrible that im hurting my ex. he calls me crying. we were best friends before we dated. i really care about him. i think its best if we move on. but he is scaring me. he says he doesnt want to live. he cant picture his life without me. he beggs and beggs. but i can only say no and explain so many times. i also dont want to jeapordize my new relationship by talking to my ex too much. im afraid if i stop talking to him completly he will attempt to kill himself. what do i do?
2007-12-10 17:10:36 · 6 answers · asked by amtech33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER!
I assume he is an adult and as such, HE is responsible for his own actions. Sometimes it just DOESN'T work, and that's what happened. Just please be careful - be on your guard for a while - and be sure you let your current boyfriend know what is going on. Not that you want the new bf to kick the old bf's ****, but he should be aware of possible confrontations should you run into the other guy.
You cannot control how people live their lives - only your own. The most you should do is maybe contact his family and tell them the things he is saying so they can be there for him to get him through this rough time. I pray for your sake that he doesn't go over the edge. Be safe!!!!
xo
ymmf
2007-12-10 17:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants you to feel sorry for him. He simply needs attention. Unless you know him to be depressed or to have mentioned suicidal thoughts before now, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If he does, let him know that you care about him so much that you think that he deserves someone who loves him as much as he loves her...and that's not you. Tell him you'd rather be friends because you love him more as a friend. Don't jeapordize your new relationship, though. If your ex doesn't understand, he will learn how to soon enough. He should be a man and stop being a big sensitive punk. Think about when you wanted something so bad and couldn't have it and you thought it was the end of your life. He'll get over it just as you did. Think of it that way and you won't feel so bad.
2007-12-10 17:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. That is horrible. Honestly all you can do is just surround yourself with family, friends and good people. What she did to you, is absolutely not forgivable. Guaranteed she is going to want to come crawling back to you, because she will see what she had and what she has now. You sound like a great person and I think you really should just focus on yourself, and finish up school (if your still in school), focus on your job/career and just focus on bettering yourself. I think that you will find someone else (of course it will take time) and that person will be even better than the girl you were with. Just focus on staying busy and keeping your mind active. Get into some hobbies or join some clubs, make new friends, and put yourself out there. It definitely takes time to let your heart heal and to try and get over her. Especially since you had so much invested in your relationship! Just make sure you keep busy and keep a positive attitude. I really am sorry for what you went through and are continuing to go through, it sucks. But just know that there is someone better out there for you, and you deserve to be happy and find a woman that brings happiness into your life! good luck with everything, and I hope everything works out for you!
2016-04-08 07:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using emotional blackmail to try to control you. You are not responsible for anything he does or does not do. The worst thing you could do is go back with him. You say you were friends before you dated. If he was still your friend he would accept that you have moved on and be happy for you. He isn't behaving like a friend.
2007-12-10 17:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by freebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not responsible for his life and say goodbye. What he does, he does. You have no control over it. If you fall for that crap and go back with him, he'll only use it to try to control you more.
2007-12-10 17:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get him a gun.
2007-12-10 17:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋